Man Troubles..

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Right, I've been seeing this guy for a short while, and Im not sure whats going on or where its heading. It began with him asking me out, so clearly he was interested to begin with. We had our first date, it was a really fun time, he was a little fidgety towards the end of the night, I'm guessing he isn't one of those guys comfortable sitting and talking for hours, but yeah we stayed out till everywhere was closed, then we went back to his and slept together. He was all snuggly afterwards which is completely cool with me, and everything seemed to be going ok. later that day he text me saying he had a blast as did i, and we went for our second date, but i really got the impression he had dragged himself along to it, if that makes sense. We went to the cinema and he was fidgety during that so my assumption that he's just a fidgety person was correct lol, but yeah I walked him home, had the whole awkward goodbye thing, but we kissed. I sort of got the feeling he wasn't really into it though..

I dunno this guy really confuses me, I'm still new to dating guys so things like this really throw me, i completely understand the whole thing that a lot of guys just want a lay, but the way he behaved after sort of indicated to me he wanted to keep seeing me, yet sometimes i get the feeling he isn't interested.. Im not like yeah this is the man of my dreams but i just wondered if anyone could help me decipher this behaviour. I don't wanna spend a lot of time getting to know and like him if he's not interested.. Any advice would be good :)
 

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What is wrong with asking him what is the problem? What is wrong with asking him how he feels about you? You never know how he feels unless you ask and he expresses himself. You both should be opening up to each other.


 

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I dunno, i feel its a little too early to be talking about feelings and futures, you know what i mean? I only met him like a week ago, i think its still too early for that at least.. But i do get what you're saying.
 

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It's never too early to start talking about feelings. "Hey, I got the feeling that you were a little distracted on our last date. Is something up?" That's just communication, and you need it if any relationship is going to work at any stage.

Trust me, dude. If talking about stuff like that weirds him out and drives him away, your relationship is doomed anyway.
 

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You don't want to get in the habbit of lowering the bar for yourself when dating. If you feel any level of disinterest than why go out again? Make him work for it.