manhood rituals

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  1. mplsingleguy

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    I was cleaning out my DVR this morning, and erased an episode of the tv show TABOO, which was all about third world public rituals that are rites of manhood passage: African ritual teen circumcision, carving intentional scars into the skins, running with a herd of animals, facing the sting of insects, etc. Reminds me of the scene in FLASH GORDON...

    Our culture has some common 'road signs' that are on the way to manhood: getting a drivers' license, graduation from high school, getting plastered on your 21st birthday...

    Creatively speaking, what would you invent to be a new type of public ritual to pass from boy to manhood?
     
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    Signing your first mortgage agreement?
    Downloading your first porno?
    Maybe a party to celebrate the first job you hate?
    10 000th day parties are a pretty cool idea, too.
     
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    Celebrating your first year working at your first job.
    Graduating from basic training in the military.
     
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    Being with and caring for someone going through a terminal illness is an awesome ritual of passage. I know it doesn't sound creative, but learning to hunt with a sober adult is a really good way for most boys to learn valuable life lessons. Having awareness and contol over life and death is a good skill for young men to acquire.
    Oh yeah, and don't forget that first blow job is also a rite of passage. This is LPSG after all!
     
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    Yeh, that can be an eye-opener and real catalyst for maturity. Lots of people don't have to deal with that for years tho - so I guess it's a cementer of true adulthood rather than just a mark from boyhood to manhood?

    Passing ur driving test is a modern one tho. :)
     
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    wow this is pretty literal... I guess i was thinking of something a bit more imaginative... maybe at age 18 you are robed and masked and led into a body sized clear glass tube that is faceted where only your body outline can be seen- as a (safe and perfected) mixture of nitrous oxide and poppers are mixed into a warm steamy fog, where you are witnessed by all of your male relatives and friends as you jack off and produce a ritual load thru a hole- sort of an update to the African fertility rite...?
     
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    Celebrating your first year working at your first job.

    Wrat he said
    i think a milestone in a young adults life could be his / her attaining a succesful 'first job' (increasingly difficult as we know), getting his first pay packet (electronically done now, so ALL that enjoyment of pure cash not available to the person)
    a shame..
    ah just reminiscing of what i experienced as a real independance happening in life..

    on a sexual level, the first positive orgasm ( with cum) none of the BS watery failed attempts, ha
     
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    Getting anally gang raped by 10 hot hairy men on your 18th birthday.
     
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    This sounds more like a porno movie idea.
    Yea, Africa has what seems to me to be many mind-blowing manhood rituals...
    I have a friend from Yemen and he said he was circumsized when he was nine. He said it was very, very painful. He also said he and his brothers "had" to dig the grave by hand for their deceased brother, and believe me these folks are not the physical laborer type. He said it would've been disrespectful to do it any other way. That too made me pause.
     
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    Illustrated by Joe Gage in his movie "Lumberjack Camp?"
     
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    Haha. This sounds alot like a fantasy of yours rather than a suggestion for a new ritual. :biggrin1:
     
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    Willifred, do you have any better ideas? This is LPSG... I'm trying to get people to think out of the box, dammit!

    There is plenty of talk on this board about locker room behavior and other forms of social nudity, but not a lot of other ways where we can be influential in highlighting (and saving?!?!) the male bonding and man-positive aspects in our society.
     
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    I wouldn't say getting an 18 year old guy to jack off in front of the entire male side of his family is particularly, ' highlighting (and saving?!?!) the male bonding and man-positive aspects in our society.'

    Although I would agree that that perhaps male bonding in its actual aspects might need a little attention.
     
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    Spilling seed shows you've reached the age of maturity- and most (primitive) cultures have embraced this type of behavior (pair bonding, nudity, tests of courage, family sending the warrior out on a quest...) thru all of history. I was suggesting something that would be along these lines.

    Male bonding is an aspect of what I was taking suggestions for: a new ritual that would be a cool rite of passage. Step up and drop an idea in the suggestion box.
     
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    Thing is, we aren't a 'primitive culture' so trying to manufacture something which emulates that makes little sense.

    You seem to be working on the basis that western culture has no rituals. It does. I'm British so I went for a pint with my Dad and then went to a football match when I hit 18.

    I have no desire to make up a new right of passage when there are plenty, all valid but relevant to the individual, within the society(ies) in which we live.
     
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    Remind me to rent that one.

    I think there are no meaningful manhood rituals in our society which is why we have boys who are literally 45 and have never grown up and become men. There is no enforced societal "day of reckoning" where you leave your childhood behind and become a man. Interesting to see new ones in this thread. Thanks.
     
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    My dad doesn't drink - otherwise I would have enjoyed going for a pint with my dad
     
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    I've been influenced by my feminist relatives, and their take on this would be loving connections (not sexual) with other guys rather than competitive. Since I never had brothers, I always looked forward to having overnighters with my male cousins and sleeping together in the same bed. For me it was very comforting and emotionally satisfying when we cuddled together.
     
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    I would say making someone streak in front of all their friends for the first time. Publicly stripping a young man in front of a group of women. Making him jack off in front of all of his teachers. Yes I know that sounds creepy and fetishy but like you said you wanted something different and out of the box. So here it is.
     
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