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Most married guys say that passion goes away in the first six months. What's your view on this?
Bisexual closeted guy (26) about to get married to a woman who claims to like sex very much. Both of us are virgins, very normal in our culture. Most married guys say that passion goes away in the first six months. What's your view on this?
There is some truth in that statement, but that doesn't prevent you from making good estimates.I don't understand how either of you can possibly know how much you may like sex if both of you are virgins.
There is some truth in that statement, but that doesn't prevent you from making good estimates.
My wife and I were wedding-night virgins at 23. Leading up to that we had almost a year of non-coital lovemaking (making out, petting, etc), during which I think we learned quite a bit about each other's sexual responses, desires, etc. Early in our dating she said that she intended to be a virgin when her wedding day arrived, and have LOTS of sex after that. When we finally said the "I do", I was convinced she meant that. Among her family and friends there were several examples of couples with poor sex lives, and she was determined that her marriage would NOT be like theirs.
In fact, we probably underestimated our sexual desires and the significance of sex in our marriage. My wife really DID enjoy it, more than I expected a typical wife would. A year into our marriage there were still many days when it happened twice, or even three times. We seldom had kinky sessions, nor acrobatic positions, nor scream-into-the-pillow orgasms, but the sex was satisfying to both of us. Now in our late 60's, it happens two or three times a month rather than two or three times a day but we still enjoy naked physical intimacy and sensual play even though it doesn't end with intercourse.
If you insist on keeping your bisexuality a secret you are all but guaranteeing the failure of your marriage, its just a matter of when, not if..When you get sick of maintaining the façade, when she notices your glance or interests are as attuned if not more to male bodies than her own...Thanks! It's a love marriage. Since she's withholding sex till marriage, I feel a strong passion right now but I don't want it to fizzle I also feel a lack of confidence due to my bisexuality. And I will have to keep that a secret.
6 months? Being virgins? Lol. I highly doubt it. You should be good for a few years. Been with my wife 21 years and 10 married. We go through our phases but we just fucked 4 times today. LolBisexual closeted guy (26) about to get married to a woman who claims to like sex very much. Both of us are virgins, very normal in our culture. Most married guys say that passion goes away in the first six months. What's your view on this?
If you insist on keeping your bisexuality a secret you are all but guaranteeing the failure of your marriage, its just a matter of when, not if..When you get sick of maintaining the façade, when she notices your glance or interests are as attuned if not more to male bodies than her own...
I'd almost say youd be better off this being an arranged marriage, because at least then there would be valid motivations for keeping things a secret from someone you didnt necessarily " pick".
There are women that are just fine with bisexual male partners, even some that seek them as an ideal, have faith her love will keep her with you, or love her enough to give her the choice if she wants to spend the rest of your collective lives possibly sharing you with other men...
You might be pleasantly surprised or deeply disappointed by her reaction now, but you will be so much more stress and resentment free later.
Red alerts flashed in my brain when you related that you need to keep being Nina secret and that you may have to practice your bi side to be happy. I understand that culturally you will have more standing married and it probably feels safer, but if you truly love this woman ask yourself why you might lie or cheat on her. Please, if you pursue your bi side, play safe and if you have not had a recent HIV test, please get tested for HIV and STIs. Good luck to both of you.Thanks! It's a love marriage. Since she's withholding sex till marriage, I feel a strong passion right now but I don't want it to fizzle I also feel a lack of confidence due to my bisexuality. And I will have to keep that a secret.