I love the double standards.
Thanks to everyone else though, for the constructive advice though.
Anyways, I would be willing to bet anything that if it were some man being sexually dissatisfied, they would be encouraged to whip it out for the first willing female to come along.
Only in fairyland love. Cheating, for guys, is still a heavy social crime with a heavy social punishment; it's "cool" to have many women but the moment you're committed to one most of the male population won't stand by you when you're penis has been in another.
I hear so many damned stories of men cheating when their wives have new babies and become focused soley on motherhood and negligent of their marriages. My own father did that and he is not the first I have heard of.
Doesn't mean it's encouraged. Doesn't mean it's acceptable. Doesn't mean much of anything outside it happens; people cheat, male and female, congratulations; even from your own tone have you not noticed it's
not appreciated by, usually, either side?
I also do not see it as all that unusual either that when tragedies happen in marriages, men stray when their wives go distant from them.
The Old Addage: "Men cheat when things are going wrong, women cheat when things are going right." has been proven time and time again. Just like our lassy here; she's got a
great husband who cannot fulfill one aspect and she's ready to throw it all away for her vagina's sake? Same with rich women, who to my knowledge statistically cheat the most, etc.
But in this case, somehow the woman is the bad one?
Blame is never the way to go, and she hasn't tried many obvious things such as sexual therapy and worrying about his health as he is pretty old. Also, "bad" is the wrong term; everyone may be at fault, some for not listening and pretending that whatever they say should be the way it is, and some for not acknowledging the needs of others. Pointing fingers and justifying doing "social wrong" never works, no matter what side your on; apparently you're building that case and tearing it down at the same time. The world is overrun with nitwits.
Whereas if the situation were reversed, I am sure there would be every excuse made for the man, he was stressed, 'you don't deprive a man of sex (geez I heard that a billion times when I found out my dad cheated on my mom in her postpartum period)' or many, many other excuses for his behavior or frusturation.
Congratulations; you figured it out. It's not, at any point, justifiable. Now look, daddy may have fucked up, and I am sure there are support groups out there for that, but trying to
advocate the crime as an equal oppurtunity does
not help. You wouldn't tell Tommy, if Mary cheated on him, to go out, get another girl, and cheat on her. Same here. You don't tell people because bastard X did somethin' to copy and follow the bad leader.
Yes, I realize he is a good man.I do still love him very much. I am glad he loves our daughter so much, but, it has been five months since she has been out of the hospital, and it is time now for him to relax with her, and allow her to live and to put life back into our marriage. It gets frusturating as hell when we are trying to get things going, or even have alone time without sex, and he is freaking over every little noise or non-noise coming from the babies bed. I was scared as hell for a long time too but we do have to have a marriage too at some point because she will one day grow up and leave us.
Your kidding me. This is your problem, your mental issue and scarring from god-knows how long ago. How the fuck are you going to sit and "be okay" with a child who may be ill and expect him to just get on with it? It's not even been half a fucking year! I'm not saying he shouldn't attend to you, but can't he do so in other ways? He's probably stressed ( thus the lack of erections ) and probably can't really function too well because he cares for his kid.
Look, I understand you have a vagina, and I'm glad you have a clit, and machinery can outdo man everytime, so just go and buy a fucking machine and let him give a damn since, well... You obviously care a little less. Yes, she will fly the coop, and he will be fine with that, but your projection is just fucking off. This is stupid, it makes no sense; what does the little girl HAVE? That could matter, how is she? etc. The dude might be smarter than you to actually give two shits at what could happen, or he might be terrified and need therapy, many things can happen and if he's distracted the way to handle it is not to try and blame the kid for being ill or him for being worried. :/
I think you need the therapist with your little rant on Father Bear and why you should be excused. If you want another dick inside of you, go ahead, it's not for us to discern, but don't portray yourself as ignorant; it's not good for you.
I guess I chose the wrong place to vent, excuse me.
It's called a support group fucker. Type it into Google.
Oh, in answer to one posters question regarding me being an 'alpha catch'? I do not post my pics on messages boards, esp one of this nature, for all the world to see but I did share my photos and dh's off this board with a poster named, I think 'bigmanTN'?
Ask him......
"Alpha-catches" have more than a body, and you obviously lack the spirit, dedication, and mental prowess. You're a beta at best, but more likely a delta.