Javierdude22: Hm...I actually dont know where I stand on this.
Spontaneous thoughts on this topic:
I dont think same sex people should get married in the way it has been done way before Christ. Why? As far as I know (but what do I know), marriage as we know it is a ritual related to religion, and in Western society, to Christianity and Judaism. That ritual simply states two people getting married should be a man an woman, and there you have it.
Of course, this topic is not about marrying in a church (which I totally oppose for same sex people) but marriage as a civil union.
Hm...I have difficulty naming it marriage, to me that indeed IS confined to a man and woman. I would rather call it what it is, a civil union. I do think people who feel committed should have the same civil rights related to stuff as tax benefits, etc.
I guess I do oppose adoption by gay people. Why? Cause I think both parents are necessary. I know we have thousands of one-mom or one-dad families which work out fine, but creating a process where one type of parent by definition is denied to the child, seems unjust. One-dad or one-mom families usually got there by circumstances, not because of a conscious decision.
I basically dont think it is the healthiest environment for a child to grow up in, mentally/culturally speaking.
Generally speaking on marriage:
I am confused on the subject. I respect this ritual or whatever you wanna call it a lot, and think it should not be taken lighthearded. I guess this is a general bone I have to pick with society, there is total lack of morals (although morals is what you make of it) and an individualism that sickens me.
Everything seems to be about short term pleasures, and about me myself and I, in total disregard of what kind of consequences you action might have on your next of kin, friends, or others. And this is all too well reflected in marriage.
Everybody hops into this like its a ride in a fair, once you get bored you step into another. And TV and movie people only exacerbate this (thanks Liz...).
I peronally also think that 50% or more of the marriages closed in SF between gay people was between people who want to be in the spotlight, and probably break up in a year (although statistics already predict a 60% chance of divorce). I would like to tune down this admirable thought that it is all about Civil Rights, no it is also about that 3 seconds on tv.
However, to conclude this, I also think people in a hopeless marriage should divorce. I know where religion stands on this, but I cant help to disagree, or at leats in should have a paragraph in the ten commandments with exceptions
. My folks e.g. should not be married, nor should they have ever gotten married, nor was there ever a moment where one would think, good thing they got married. Heh...good thing they did though, otherwise Id still be swimming in the gene pool. But my mom refuses to divorce, partly because she doesnt know any better than my dad, but the major part is because Christianity forbids it.
That the twist...
By looking around though, I got the depressing feeling that 80% of the people who are together for about 20 years have lost all feelings for eachother, feel irritated, and wished they were single. Maybe 20% still has a genuine love for eachother, and enjoy eachothers company. So then the question arises: what point is there in marriage anyway?
Eh...I gotta go..good topic though...
Jav