Hi, I joined LPSG a while ago and have been posting pics, but I think the real reason I joined, and what I should have done first, is to write this post. I have an amazing wife - both gorgeous and a truly wonderful person, but she has real issues with sex. She is really scared of getting pregnant, and really averse to pain or health issues, so much so that the only contraception she has been comfortable with so far is abstinence. She is a sensual person, and we have enjoyed intimate times together, but she also finds the idea of oral sex really, I don't know, icky? I often perform oral sex on her, which she really appreciates, although she says she can't understand why I am so happy to play around with my tongue down there! I wondered about whether she might try anal, but that is even more gross to her. She has given me a few handjobs, but I think that can make her feel unclean as well, and she seems to get bored quickly, or get frustrated if I don't come quickly, whereas I spend hours on her. I love her very much, so I want to respect the way she feels. She has said that she would really like to have sex, but I think maybe the main problem is her fear of pregnancy combined with fear of side effects of the more effective contraception methods. I think she also afraid that the first few times I penetrate her might be a bit painful, though I think she knows she could get over that. So, as I love her, I'd really like to help her, but because I am so sexually frustrated, I find myself getting a little crazy. She also sometimes feels hurt when I am reluctant to have sexual intimacy with her, as if I were not attracted to her, but I find it very difficult when it ends with me being unsatisfied. I don't think I have used LPSG in a very helpful way so far, it doesn't help knowing that there are other people who would like me to fuck them or to suck me, although it might give me a brief thrill to read comments, it doesn't help my relationship with my wife, and is too much temptation. So what do I do?!