closetbi
what i was trying to say is i would have still been with my gf but fucking them on the side
Ah- we have a word for people like you...
"Carrier."
Yes yes, to hell with personal responsibility, empathy, honor and ethics...
because you know what REALLY matters in life? Lackluster one night stands with as many strangers as you can possibly manage...
I am more than a little sick of a nation chock full of perpetual children, selfish and forever forestalling adulthood and making life actually happen.
The life he describes is self centered, and fine for someone who has no real capacity for caring for anyone else...
But if you aren't afraid to grow up, if you have the sand to take on real life and a real adult role... then follow your heart.
If you love a woman, sure, marry her.
I was married at 21... had two kids by 27...
I know all those peers of mine who spent their 20s and a good portion of their 30's having " fun"... when they were broke... drifting... or otherwise focused on themselves...
They were the ones who talked a brave game about all the ass they were getting, but they always seemed to be between girls... or between guys...
Meanwhile, my wife and I were exploring the furthest fringes of kink almost every other night.
And then... in their 30s, when these same self indulgent peter and petunia pans decided they were finally ready for commitment and a family?
Well... they turned out to be the ones spending 20 thousand dollars just trying to get knocked up because women's bodies are designed to start having babies in their 20s, and if they don't... things get balky.
Or, they are the ones who end up going thru teenage rebellion with their kids, while they are in their 50s or 60s'.
But me? My kids were grown and out of the house by the time I was 45... I still had plenty of youthful vigor left, and, I had the career and the income to enjoy it.
The marriage only lasted 14 years... but most of those years were a lot of fun... and despite the divorce... it was still time well spent...
Having a wife and kids forced me to buckle down and build a career, forced me to think of my obligations and responsibilities to not only my family, but others in general. It was a period of growth... and I have two fine sons to show for it... who have become good men in their own right... true to their women, and solid citizens.
Whatever you do... do it to your utmost.
And all those guys I know who avoided marriage for the fun of serial sport fucking... they are, at 35 and 40, sad, pathetic and lonely, or just now starting to live a real life.