Married/attached ladies, how often do you...

[5_for_fighting]

...give your husband/partner oral?

...get oral from your husband/partner?

(This to settle an ongoing bet.)

 

[MickeyLee]

i need to know the particulars of the bet before i can answer

 

[deleted924715]

I don't know why you would bet on our oral habits, neither of us know you

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

How often? Who actually keeps count of that? But to answer your question, whenever we decide to do it. It might be on Tuesday, unless I have to work. Because I work nights and I'm usually too tired when I get home. It could be on Saturday night because my boss scheduled me for a day shift. Depends on what we have for dinner on Saturday too. If we eat Indian food or go to the Japanese hibachi grill, the strong onion flavor can really give you stank breath. Even after you brush your teeth. So at this point on Saturday it could go either way. I might choose Mexican food instead. But if it gives me gas I might opt out of him going down on me.

Even after all of that being considered, it might happen on a Wednesday. Unless he is working on painting our house. It's a pretty big job, especially living in a home built in 1906. The trim work is pretty complicated. We are considering putting in new windows. It's going to cost a lot of money. He might have to work 6 days a week until we have them paid for. Which might mean we can't do oral sex on Sundays.

 

[latinabella]

Who the hell keeps a count on that?

 

[Paldines Wife]

How often? Who actually keeps count of that? But to answer your question, whenever we decide to do it. It might be on Tuesday, unless I have to work. Because I work nights and I'm usually too tired when I get home. It could be on Saturday night because my boss scheduled me for a day shift. Depends on what we have for dinner on Saturday too. If we eat Indian food or go to the Japanese hibachi grill, the strong onion flavor can really give you stank breath. Even after you brush your teeth. So at this point on Saturday it could go either way. I might choose Mexican food instead. But if it gives me gas I might opt out of him going down on me.

Even after all of that being considered, it might happen on a Wednesday. Unless he is working on painting our house. It's a pretty big job, especially living in a home built in 1906. The trim work is pretty complicated. We are considering putting in new windows. It's going to cost a lot of money. He might have to work 6 days a week until we have them paid for. Which might mean we can't do oral sex on Sundays.

You're hallerious

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I'm getting the feeling that this bet is based on some kind of irrelevant generalization.. so I'm not playing along.

 

[AlteredEgo]

When I want to and he lets me, though seldom to completion, by his choice. As for reciprocity, we don't view sex as tit for tat. He provides as often as he pleases, sometimes we're even, sometimes one of us is luckier than the other.

 

[693987]

...give your husband/partner oral?

...get oral from your husband/partner?

(This to settle an ongoing bet.)

Neither of us are that big on receiving oral. We much prefer other things. He has more facial hair than I find comfy + oral just isn't generally my cuppa tea. I quite happily forego receiving. I greatly enjoy giving, so that gets mixed in reasonable amounts of the time, along with just generally enjoying touching on him in a variety of ways.

Neither of us keeps count. We have many more things that rank higher than keeping track of that kinda shit.

 

[EllieP]

Does oral sex include both of us yelling "Fuck you!" at each other? Or is that aural sex?

 

[AlteredEgo]

Does oral sex include both of us yelling "Fuck you!" at each other? Or is that aural sex?

You guys would never. I don't believe that for four seconds.

 

[EllieP]

You guys would never. I don't believe that for four seconds.

He can be an asshole sometimes!

 

[AlteredEgo]

He can be an asshole sometimes!

Hahahaha!

 

[5_for_fighting]

i need to know the particulars of the bet before i can answer

So, to clarify, I'm not asking for an exact count. Basically, I go down on her every time we have sex. She goes down on my roughly twice a year (birthday, anniversary). I have brought up that this seems slightly imbalanced. She counters that it is well within the range of usual.

We agreed to let the wise women of lpsg be the arbiters. It's a friendly bet. Winner gets... well... oral

 

[nailz]

So, to clarify, I'm not asking for an exact count. Basically, I go down on her every time we have sex. She goes down on my roughly twice a year (birthday, anniversary). I have brought up that this seems slightly imbalanced. She counters that it is well within the range of usual.

We agreed to let the wise women of lpsg be the arbiters. It's a friendly bet. Winner gets... well... oral

He gets oral whenever he wants, although rarely to completion because both of us prefer penetration. It takes me forever to get him off through oral alone so after 15 minutes or so he'll usually take pity on me and switch before my jaw starts to hurt and my voice gets hoarse
Usually sex for us starts out with one of us giving the other oral, I guess it's about even or maybe I'm a bit ahead

In a healthy relationship both of you should be looking for ways to keep sex interesting and satisfying for your partner, and this should come naturally and not through manipulation/coercion/blackmail/guilting/whining/haggling. Making deals or bets can be fun as long as they're fair.

"If you loved me you'd do it for me" is a slippery slope since it's often used to manipulate a partner into doing something really extreme that they don't want to do. But basic oral sex is a pretty simple thing and not some painful or traumatic ordeal, if you're treating her nice and going out of your way to make sure you're satisfying her needs there's no reason you should be waiting a year for a blowjob

Some people really don't like giving oral sex but your situation doesn't sound very fair

 

[MickeyLee]

statistically coerced oral sex is gonna be the saddest blow job ever


clearly she doesn't like going down on you, have you asked her why?

 

[AlteredEgo]

So, to clarify, I'm not asking for an exact count. Basically, I go down on her every time we have sex. She goes down on my roughly twice a year (birthday, anniversary). I have brought up that this seems slightly imbalanced. She counters that it is well within the range of usual.

We agreed to let the wise women of lpsg be the arbiters. It's a friendly bet. Winner gets... well... oral

This site is likely to draw a skewed crowd. Of the friends with whom I discuss such matters, most are enthusiastic about oral sex, and some will do it because they feel like they have to (I bet they give terrible head) and a couple of women I know who aren't quite friends, but I'll have a raunchy giggle with them say they don't do it.

In my circles, therefore, your wife is unusual, but not abnormal. I'll have to side with her and say within the realm of normalcy. Clearly she doesn't want to. I recommend you watch porn and jerk off with a fleshlight mouth. My ex was very partial to the suck-you-dry from the sex in a can fleshlight series. Remember that sex is not tit for tat. She doesn't owe you this because you did that, nor vice versa. You will NEVER get what you really want deep down; you want her to WANT to suck your dick. She doesn't. Maybe she never did. Is it the worst thing in the world?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Last I paid attention, partners engage in what they enjoy doing.
One of my partners absolutely must spend close to 30 minutes in oral because he likes giving it.
I started as somewhat, vaguely, positive toward it, but he's made me a fan.

Now, any person who is that into it, will get some turnabout as fair play.
Given that he's the reason I sought out this site, after Ms Altered Ego shared its existence with me, well, let's just say TMJ dysfunction is real.
So he definitely initiates and does more of the oral in our time together.

In live in situations, it's usually tied to showering habits and degree of taking someone for granted.

 

[nailz]

I disagree that sex is all about doing only what you enjoy. You should be focused on pleasuring your partner, and they should be focused on pleasuring you.

In a good relationship it should be totally natural for you to look for ways to make your partner happy, especially if they come at little cost to yourself. I don't see what's wrong with fulfilling most harmless requests, kinks and fantasies. I had an ex that was into foot stuff and even though it does nothing for me I played along because it made him happy. I even wore ballet heels for him and those things are like a medieval torture device

He's not trying to pressure her into getting implants or gangbanged. A blowjob is a simple thing to do to make someone happy.
If it's important to you, and everything else is going well in your relationship then you should ask yourself why your partner isn't making that effort.

 

[MickeyLee]

i've asked other womangs why they don't like doing the oral do with the mens they do the do with... and most said it was caused by the poor manners of the recipient.

holding their heads down, choking them, expecting a hardcore porn performance

not saying the OP is guilty of any of the above