Married couples invite a hung guy

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jac311: Andrea,

Don't take this the wrong way, but my guess is that choice (2) is the truth. It felt better physically and now you might want to try it again which is a new dilema and explains your reluctance to talk about or explain your experience. Not that you have to but if it was choice (1) you'd probably live happily ever after and wouldn't be seeking feedback from others.

You now know that sex can feel better (physically) with someone else but you still have the emotional feelings (which are a big part of sex) with your husband. Would it have been better to always wonder what it would feel like or to know and want it again? Who knows. I do know that some men out there let there wives have a larger man occasionally to fulfill that desire but he has to be a very, very secure man and still I think it's dangerous.

As for does size matter - it depends. From a pure Physics and physical standpoint it depends on the size of the woman's opening. A larger vaginal opening would need a thicker penis to get the same friction as a smaller woman? I realize it's more complicated than this but it explains some of the physical part.

Here's a solution: make him a deal you can make love with the large guy if he can make love with a very tight woman? Fair is fair?

I'm just babbling please don't take this too seriously...

 

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prepky: ok, in reading this thread, once question sprung into my mind....was the other person considerablly bigger than the husband.....I think a lot of asumptions have been made that the other person dwarfed her husband....maybe there wasnt much difference in the sizes......well Andrea, can you shed any light on this?

 

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Tender: wow prepky now youve really done it! lol

suppose the other guy was not different in size, or were even smaller than the husband.
either way, just the idea that a wife would try out another is enough to send most husbands into a tizzy, regardless of any size issues.
the idea is still that the husband is not meeting her desires and that is a hard pill for a man to swallow...
:-/
Tender

 

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Andrea: Oh my - so many replies.
I'll have to think upon this and reply when I'm sure I can post relevantly.
Just to remind you all though, it was my husband who arranged this encounter. Also, I was blindfolded the whole time and do not know who the man is or what he looks like.
I am also unable to tell forum members exactly how big his erect penis is. I could guess - but do things feel bigger than they look or vice-versa?
Forum members are assuming he is substantially bigger than my husband - well I think he is - it certainly felt substantially bigger - but the whole situation was unusual - hardly suitable for a clinical survey. I'll reply to the other stuff - if I feel brave enough - when this stuff has digested.
Andrea xxxx

 

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Tender: hmmm.
ok im seeing something here.

an observation.

***Forum members are assuming he is substantially bigger than my husband - well I think he is - it certainly felt substantially bigger***

hmmm the sex felt so different with another guy, that one cannot tell if he was bigger or not? :-/

maybe size "doesnt" matter?
Tender

 

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Doubtless_Mouse: Sorry but after reading through the post, I wanted to add something (well at least I hope I am adding).

Andrea, you obviously enjoyed the encounter, the individual your husband brought into the "bedroom" right? Your husband seems to be very open minded and I think you are lucky in this regard. A few people have asked "was it better than with your husband, and I imagine this is a diffiuclt question to answer." How many of us have had a fling? I know I had some before I met the wife. Prior to my wife, I had a steady GF and had a couple of one night stands, while GF and I were together. I can't say the sex was better or worse with the one nighters. it was different. There was an excitement to it that was lacking in my long term relationship. But the sex in my long term was great, it was emotional. I know many people will jump on me for this, emotional attachments and still having casual sex, but...

That said, I agree with most of the members here that there is a definite fear that having done the deed, you will want again. If the sex was better, i am almost willing to bet money (and i don't gamble often) that you will want again. For me, I could never do what your husband did, i have thought about a menage a trois with my wife (MFF) but realized that in all fairness would need to indulge in a MMF one if that was what she wanted (which I have never discussed or even hinted at, wife is a much less open (more old fashioned) than I am).

I have even thought the MMF combo out in my head and realize that I could probably set it up, be at the point of starting the event, and then realize I would kill the other guy the minute he looked at or touched my wife. I am not overly proud of this fact, but realize it for what it is, I would be very jealous and would never look at her the same after. I would always wonder if she was thinking of the other person every time we had sex.

I too like everybody else would like to know how big this guy was, maybe your husband could tell you. I think that he wasn't significantly bigger, but was bigger none the less (your husband is open enough to let you fullfil your fanatasy, can't see him not getting you the goods you asked for). with that said, can't see him getting you someone that was 14"x8" (likewise, I think you would know if the other person was significantly bigger).

I know this is more of a ramble than a coherent comment, but...

Please let us know more about this, I know I am very curious...to the other members of the board, maybe this isn't as common for us, because most of us are bigger than average, so our SO's know what it is like to have the big whatever? just a thought.

 

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Andrea: I will ask my hubby how big the man's erect penis is.
My hubby's erect penis is 10 cm long and 10 cm around.
Andrea xxxx

 

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pippi: Would you even consider mine as big with 18cm length and 14cm around then?
I think its at the high end of average.

 

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Andrea: My hubby won't tell me how big the other man's penis is - he is teasing me. I'll worm it out of him eventually.

I'm not sure what I think is a big penis after reading posts on this forum. I have two vibrators - one 15 cm long and the other 20 cm long. I would consider the first to be average. The second to be large.
Not sure what my reaction would be if I discovered a partner had an even larger penis.
30 cm (12")? I'd certainly enjoy "playing around" with such a size but penetration? Not at all sure about that.

Despite not really receiving the replies I wanted from this thread may I thank all those who have replied and contributed. It has been very interesting and educational and hope it may continue.

Andrea xxxx


Andrea xxxx

 

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rainfletcher: sorry to be such a dumb-ass american, but can someone do the math for me? How many inches in 10 cm?

And I KNOW I'm not the only one to not know this....

 

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rainfletcher: Guess what? I, the software architect, actually CAN do basic math. to wit:

30cm = 12", with 3 as a common denominator (divide both by 3), 10cm = 4 inches. Ergo (heh-heh), the hubby is 4x4... Or did I do it wrong, somehow?

Hold on...let me fire up Excel.

 

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Andrea: Rain?
"Dumb assed American?"
Don't be silly. My hubby could rant forever and a day about how we British seem to be betraying our true friends for bullshit European countries who hate us.
He says we must never forget our friends - those who have helped us in the past and are most likely to help us in the future - basically those countries who share our language.
There is a TV presenter here called Melvin Bragg. He says our greatest gift to the world is our language. We are accused of arrogance for not learning to speak another language (generally).
My hubby says, "so what". "Anyone we need do listen to can speak English anyway".

Not much of a diplomat my hubby - lol.

 

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ORCABOMBER: Andrea, your hubby might just be a great one!

 

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Andrea: Looks like this thread has pretty much run its course now. As I have already stated, I haven't really received the feedback I was hoping for and it appears my own situation is far rarer than what I originally thought.
To finish off, I in no way regret agreeing to my husband's proposition and the encounter was memorable and enjoyable.
Thankyou to all those forum members who have spent time posting replies and emailing me directly.

...only thing is ... I wonder who the hell it was?



Cheers everyone!
Andrea xxxx

 

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jac311: Andrea - I'd still love to hear the details of your experience???

 

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Andrea: erm ....
Not sure about posting the details.
I'll think about it!

Andrea xxxx

 

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wvalady1968: [quote author=Andrea link=board=women;num=1067787291;start=40#53 date=11/18/03 at 17:21:51]
...only thing is ... I wonder who the hell it was?



Cheers everyone!
Andrea xxxx[/quote]

Now that's gotta be an experience, too! Thanks for posting about this.

Allie

 

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rainfletcher: Andrea,

I got an idea, sign up for a new account with a very fictitious name (like, say "not_Andrea_2003") and then post the 'details' in the Fictions area. That way, only I would know it was really you, but the details would be out there for everyone else!!!!

God, I'm so smart sometimes it freaks me out....

 

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Tender: [quote author=Andrea link=board=women;num=1067787291;start=40#53 date=11/18/03 at 17:21:51]Looks like this thread has pretty much run its course now. As I have already stated, I haven't really received the feedback I was hoping for and it appears my own situation is far rarer than what I originally thought.
To finish off, I in no way regret agreeing to my husband's proposition and the encounter was memorable and enjoyable.
Thankyou to all those forum members who have spent time posting replies and emailing me directly.

...only thing is ... I wonder who the hell it was?



Cheers everyone!
Andrea xxxx[/quote]


i am interested in hearing your thoughts on all of it in say 10 years or so?

Tender

 

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Andrea: In 10 years?
Why 10 years hon?
The memory will likely to be old and grey - pretty much like me I suppose.

Andrea xxx