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Help guys!
Not sure whats going on, but I am freaking out here!
Both married, manly, curious guys, looking for opportunity to have safe fun,but it just feels so good now! It suppose to be only a cure for curiosity, but its somehow more than jerk session! I Really like this guy! Yes I am attracted sexually, but being around him feels so good. Looking at him doing normal things. Like his hug, simple touch.. I like talking with him, sharing,he really gets me! He is smart and so normal and right!
Just so afraid to go with it further and in a same time affraid to lose this!
We spoke and same is there, but, thank God his head is cooler and suggested just to slow down. I am cool now, but just antext from him and I get butterflys! WTF?!? Similar experience any? Thx
 

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My advice would be - don't worry too much, but look at what you have. You have your wife, you have a jerk buddy. Not only that, but your jerk buddy is nice and he's a friend and there is even some love potentially, so basically it's all good. He is clearly mature enough not to freak out. Just reflect on how great the situation is, and don't expect it to go in one particular direction, because it's pretty great right now. The best jerk buddy is one you can talk to and care about. It doesn't need to be something specific or ruin anything in your life. Chill.
 

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Help guys!
Not sure whats going on, but I am freaking out here!
Both married, manly, curious guys, looking for opportunity to have safe fun,but it just feels so good now! It suppose to be only a cure for curiosity, but its somehow more than jerk session! I Really like this guy! Yes I am attracted sexually, but being around him feels so good. Looking at him doing normal things. Like his hug, simple touch.. I like talking with him, sharing,he really gets me! He is smart and so normal and right!
Just so afraid to go with it further and in a same time affraid to lose this!
We spoke and same is there, but, thank God his head is cooler and suggested just to slow down. I am cool now, but just antext from him and I get butterflys! WTF?!? Similar experience any? Thx

Don't freak guy I have the same thing going with a bud. We appreciate out times together hanging out as friends and it's not always sexual. Try and make that the differentiator that each time you connect it isn't necessarily sexual. Also it's fun thinking about the fun you can have while tapping the wife :)
 

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As stated elsewhere I like to jack off with other good looking, fit guys. But I have never had the desire for anything else.

What have you done with this guy sexually?
Have you ever felt an attraction to another guy?

It took me awhile to understand and be comfortable with this part of my sexuality. But I'm in a different place on the continuum than you this may not be helpful. As stated above, slow down and don't freak out. Deep breaths!
 
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As stated elsewhere I like to jack off with other good looking, fit guys. But I have never had the desire for anything else.

What have you done with this guy sexually?
Have you ever felt an attraction to another guy?

It took me awhile to understand and be comfortable with this part of my sexuality. But I'm in a different place on the continuum than you this may not be helpful. As stated above, slow down and don't freak out. Deep breaths!

Hey Man,

How did you get to this point? I.e. letting yourself explore this without allowing it to mean that you're gay? Did you face resistance at first / not know whether it was simply a thought or something you desire?
 
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Hey Man,

How did you get to this point? I.e. letting yourself explore this without allowing it to mean that you're gay? Did you face resistance at first / not know whether it was simply a thought or something you desire?

Wow. Long story. I started writing a reply and as I did I started remembering more and more. It was actually kind of therapeutic to get it out in one place.

Is there a word limit to the replies?
 
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Wow. Long story. I started writing a reply and as I did I started remembering more and more. It was actually kind of therapeutic to get it out in one place.

Is there a word limit to the replies?
I'd really like to hear it man. PM me if you want.
 

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don't panic, put it into perspective, of course it feels like that, its something new and exciting, you are playing with fantasy and also with fire and the thrill is probably what you enjoy more than everything else. Your relationship was started from a physical thing and its natural that your curiosity was to grow. Don't think too much of it, if something further happens then worry but dont push for it.
 

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Help guys!
Not sure whats going on, but I am freaking out here!
Both married, manly, curious guys, looking for opportunity to have safe fun,but it just feels so good now! It suppose to be only a cure for curiosity, but its somehow more than jerk session! I Really like this guy! Yes I am attracted sexually, but being around him feels so good. Looking at him doing normal things. Like his hug, simple touch.. I like talking with him, sharing,he really gets me! He is smart and so normal and right!
Just so afraid to go with it further and in a same time affraid to lose this!
We spoke and same is there, but, thank God his head is cooler and suggested just to slow down. I am cool now, but just antext from him and I get butterflys! WTF?!? Similar experience any? Thx

So what's the update? How's it working out?

Also curious, did you guys just stroke together or was there more going on sexually? Making out, feeling each other, oral, fucking?
 

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First of all thanks to all u guys for support and advice. Second, well its good but not great... Guy confessed that he starts to like me too much, we are getting along too well, and sexual attraction become.. Wow.. We jerked, docked, kissed... And hugs.. Oh, those hugs... Anyhow, none of us denies that its mutual, but considering situation, slowing down means stopping. Both are afraid that we cannot control this. Texing regularly, but afraid to meet.. This texting turns into sexting sometimes and its just.... So, very hard, but must reapect guys decision... Its in the best interest of both... But miss him.. Guess ill have to learn to live with it
 

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I can totally relate man. I had a friend that over time developed into a bromance. Our wives were friends and we grew closer. Over time it lead to watching porn, jerking ourselves off and then jerking each other. Fast forward another 6/8 months and he asked to try oral, which lead to 69. Over the course of 3-4 years we became extremely close, multiple texts and calls daily, seeing each other weekly without the wives. When they went out we always hung out together and did our "thing". It did become a bit heavy, almost caught by our young kids a few times. We decided to tone it down but he became too guilty, started going to church and slowly pulled away. It was a sad fracture in our relationship. We went from talking daily to maybe a few times a month, to then monthly and even longer. Wives noticed but I blamed it on work and not wanting to hear his "preaching". We recently reconnected again, but it's just talking. I haven't seen him yet, maybe I'm holding back, not sure how or if the feelings will resurface. My advice, just play it by ear and protect your friendship. Losing a friend is not easy.
 

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I can totally relate man. I had a friend that over time developed into a bromance. Our wives were friends and we grew closer. Over time it lead to watching porn, jerking ourselves off and then jerking each other. Fast forward another 6/8 months and he asked to try oral, which lead to 69. Over the course of 3-4 years we became extremely close, multiple texts and calls daily, seeing each other weekly without the wives. When they went out we always hung out together and did our "thing". It did become a bit heavy, almost caught by our young kids a few times. We decided to tone it down but he became too guilty, started going to church and slowly pulled away. It was a sad fracture in our relationship. We went from talking daily to maybe a few times a month, to then monthly and even longer. Wives noticed but I blamed it on work and not wanting to hear his "preaching". We recently reconnected again, but it's just talking. I haven't seen him yet, maybe I'm holding back, not sure how or if the feelings will resurface. My advice, just play it by ear and protect your friendship. Losing a friend is not easy.
Thanks bro, your story helps. At least i know i am not the only one... All the best!
 
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First of all thanks to all u guys for support and advice. Second, well its good but not great... Guy confessed that he starts to like me too much, we are getting along too well, and sexual attraction become.. Wow.. We jerked, docked, kissed... And hugs.. Oh, those hugs... Anyhow, none of us denies that its mutual, but considering situation, slowing down means stopping. Both are afraid that we cannot control this. Texing regularly, but afraid to meet.. This texting turns into sexting sometimes and its just.... So, very hard, but must respect guys decision... Its in the best interest of both... But miss him.. Guess ill have to learn to live with it
Even though this is perhaps not the outcome you wanted, I'm relieved to read this. I'm glad he has the wisdom and strength to choose a path which avoids potential disaster for both of you. Yes - respect his decision (really, you have no choice). Courage, bro.
 
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Even though this is perhaps not the outcome you wanted, I'm relieved to read this. I'm glad he has the wisdom and strength to choose a path which avoids potential disaster for both of you. Yes - respect his decision (really, you have no choice). Courage, bro.
Thank you bro. Yes, this was not what i have expected, but having the strenght to make this decision makes me like and respect this guy even more. Which again makes things harder to quit on such a gret guy, but... I guess what i was looking for is not really possible, or there.... Day by day, head up...
 

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Consider yourself lucky. I had a close male friend. He died. Nothing sexual ever happened, but it was one of the greatest times of my life.
Been there my friend. Same happend to me also. I was 25, he was 21. Brain cancer. We have to keep the memory and just be thankful we had them. All the best.