Hi man so true I was an active cocksucker' from 19 to 41 then I met my beautiful wife and like you no interest in other women but my little secret I could never tell her wish I could but can't that I love to blow guys but have not in 5 years but getting urges and have this older married friend who I used to suck trying to lure me back with him and 3 other cocks so hot but like you I'm worried don't know what to do
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Just typing my message out it has me focusing on the “addicted to the thrill” part. Never thought about it as an addiction. Should probably talk to someone about that, lol
We are not alone. Trust me on this...
I really got turned on having another guy watching me at the adult theater was a thrill...
I understand. Back in the day me and my best friend started playing around. I was always the bottom but we never told a sole. After years of a stright life as a married guy, I got the urge to go back to m4m. Never expected to be a cock sucker but I love it. But feel guilty. Love to have a married guy to talk to.
I get you on that. Honestly. You won't feel happy or feel yourself till you are honest with others. And maybe once you live your life you're meant to live you will find friends that will introduce you to someone who you can fuck on a regular.
Talking with a counselor about things finding out I might be more than bi more like a transgender person tryed my first bra on and felt natural to have one on along with the panties ...we are working on tell my wife in which I think once she knows everything gonna be probably over but can't help my feelings anymore and have to act or explode on them getting to strong for me to handle
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Similar story for me as others here - been bi since a teen, never told wife, and never will. We have a very solid loving relationship but the sex doesn't exist. As I age I'm just feeling like life is too short, so I do see a few guys, mostly married as well, and always play safe. This past week while wife away had a few encounters and did not regret any of them. While I was on my back and this married stud was pumping me with his very thick dick I kept thinking this feels so good - I could tell by the look in his eyes he felt the same way. I guess I have made peace with myself that this is an important part of who I am. I know some will say just divorce your wife and move on but I do not want to do that either. So I accept the circumstances and enjoy when I can. Be safe.
I thought the same way as you also married and just found out that my wife does like watching two guys going at it I also crossdress for her now too now our sex life has come alive again and were talking about a third party cause I have ed also and sometimes can't get it up but she just fucked me in the ass lastnight and boy I exploded cause I taught her how to hit my prostate now life seems bearable again...just in cloud nine all my worries that she didn't like it melted away she even help me shop and got my ears pierced so our marriage is alive again...
if only i knew i wouldnt be hurting anybody - wife,family, his relationships - but still too much at risk for me to experiment.
its hard - everyday
its hard - everyday
Count one more as being in a similar situation - married almost 28 years here - she knows I was in a relationship with another man (a co-worker/friend of both of us) and I’d had some experiences with a high school friend - I don’t think she knows (or if she does, she’s never let on) that I still have those needs/wants/desires. Thankfully I’ve found a couple of guys, both married with families, are like me.
So, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing.
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I'm in a great loving married life with the wife but had a wild teen sex life with a buddy and I really miss it! I told my wife everything she knows all the details of it and even who it is still a best friend today! I would love to try things again but not willing to ruin my marriage over it. I would do anything to try it again!
I come from a religious (sort of) family as well. And go figure both me and my sister are bisexual as well. And we never dared to ever tell our parents about it. It's our most closely guarded secret. They wouldn't be able to handle it.
I was in a relation with a woman back in the day and I thought I trusted her enough to tell her that I was bisexual, and it didn't end up too well. She couldn't understand why I liked to have sex with men, and she left me shortly after. After that I kept quiet about it. So you have to be really careful.
I was in a relation with a woman back in the day and I thought I trusted her enough to tell her that I was bisexual, and it didn't end up too well. She couldn't understand why I liked to have sex with men, and she left me shortly after. After that I kept quiet about it. So you have to be really careful.
You’re ‘NOT willing to ruin your marriage over it’ but you ‘would do anything to try it again’?
This does not compute!
It's a shame how so many people are close minded, or unaccepting. Considering how 'equality' is such a large social force, I can imagine this is less of an issue for men in the coming generations. At least one can only hope.
I've tried to be honest at some point with all the women I've dated, usually in the first few conversations. I've been outright rejected a few times, but have come to accept that as normal. Most women have been accepting, but only in the sense of it being part of my past......not 'our' future.
A sad observation, seems the more 'desperate' women out there are the most accepting, or willing to explore.
I've tried to be honest at some point with all the women I've dated, usually in the first few conversations. I've been outright rejected a few times, but have come to accept that as normal. Most women have been accepting, but only in the sense of it being part of my past......not 'our' future.
A sad observation, seems the more 'desperate' women out there are the most accepting, or willing to explore.
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My mood fluctuates a lot regarding sex with wife, some days I just get limp after penetration. Does that happen to anyone? And fantasizing about guys at that time just gets me more confused. Can anyone relate?
In my experience your body knows it wants a man, your brain has probably not let you accept that yet.
Definitely not alone. Married for 10 years to an amazing partner. Great sex life. Don't want to be with another woman or man. Love being nude in the sauna and love jacking with other guys. Nothing more (no kissing, sucking, or fucking) - certain of that after 17 years of mutual j/o. I hate the sneakiness of it all - kills me. But jacking and porn satisfy the extent of my bi interests. And with kids and career I dont have time for anything else. Been fortunate to have some incredible steam/sauna experiences and have a handful of friends who are gay or bi that know and that I've j/o'd with before. I wish I could share with my wife, but for a host of reasons don't think its a good idea. I've actually discussed this dilemma with 3 of my closest friends - childhood friends of decades (i'm the only one who has shared bi interests - they're all straight). They advised I not say anything, fearing it would be hard for her to process. Really appreciate this thread. I've always known I wasn't alone, but that its hard to find spaces where guys feel comfortable sharing such things...
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