Married guy in the closet

[deleted817718]

My partner is exactly like you. He is married but views our relationship as a sexual outlet for him. He loves his wife and loves his family. With me he gets that sexual gratification without complications or issues. Im bi much like him, so we have no interest or desire to be in a relationship. So our hookups are a convenient enjoyable release.

It’s such a common thing for married men now to hook up with other men. I expect in the future it’ll just be an excepted thing that men at a certain age, been married for a long time, just have a same sex relationship to compliment there married sex life. In a similar way men used to have mistresses or be shagging there secretary

 

[bi2]

It’s such a common thing for married men now to hook up with other men. I expect in the future it’ll just be an excepted thing that men at a certain age, been married for a long time, just have a same sex relationship to compliment there married sex life. In a similar way men used to have mistresses or be shagging there secretary

Neither one of us have any issue with our hookups. Its purely just a physical release for both of us. We both enjoy and get what we need and want from it and are satisfied. He is married for a few decades and his partner no longer has any interest in sex. He still very much loves her and his family. To have a fuckbuddy relationship with me thats only an hour every week or fortnight, is just an opportunity for him to get his physical needs met. I very much compliment and makes his life relaxed and enjoyable and provide balance. Or so he says lol.

 

[deleted817718]

Neither one of us have any issue with our hookups. Its purely just a physical release for both of us. We both enjoy and get what we need and want from it and are satisfied. He is married for a few decades and his partner no longer has any interest in sex. He still very much loves her and his family. To have a fuckbuddy relationship with me thats only an hour every week or fortnight, is just an opportunity for him to get his physical needs met. I very much compliment and makes his life relaxed and enjoyable and provide balance. Or so he says lol.

Sounds like a really good set up you have. A lot of marriages end up sexless (mine has too) and having a same sex outlet like you give your fuck buddy seems to be the option for a lot of men now. This is the future for married men I think lol

 

[bi2]

Sounds like a really good set up you have. A lot of marriages end up sexless (mine has too) and having a same sex outlet like you give your fuck buddy seems to be the option for a lot of men now. This is the future for married men I think lol

I think the set up works for a variety of reasons. Firstly we both are bi and basically "in the closet" so to speak. We both love and enjoy being with women and getting our emotional needs from them as well. We never had nor needed the emotional intimacy to be with the other. The other being is that he is a Dominant Top and myself a submissive bottom, so sexual we have chemistry there as well. There is no games, consent or any other trivial things like coffee,dinner etc to worry about, when we meet its purely for sex alone, its taken for granted and its expected. Once we finish, generally speaking we go our own seperate ways till the need and time arises.

 

[horneyfrot]

My partner is exactly like you. He is married but views our relationship as a sexual outlet for him. He loves his wife and loves his family. With me he gets that sexual gratification without complications or issues. Im bi much like him, so we have no interest or desire to be in a relationship. So our hookups are a convenient enjoyable release.

Thanks bi2. Its wonderful to have a friend that has been in the same situation and is making the best of it.

 

[bi2]

Thanks bi2. Its wonderful to have a friend that has been in the same situation and is making the best of it.

Thanks. With my partner and I, given the good sexual chemistry that we have, we could easily engage and enjoy sex every day. As it is less infrequent, we really look forward to and enjoy the time we have together. Sometimes when his wife has been away, I have stayed a weekend at his place. Interestingly, during this time, we just go about doing our own thing during the day at his place, he will work, I will be either chilling with netflix or on the computer. When he is up for it and wants to take a break, we have sex. There is no "foreplay" or meaningless "seduction" involved, I am for it almost most times, so why play games or make things unnecessarily difficult or challenging.

We both seek and enjoy completely different aspects of MM sex, so given we are pleased and get what we want from our encounters, its why we have continued with our relationship. We have joked about who really has the power and control in the relationship. He actually thinks that I do, which is sweet of him to say, as when we have actual sex, I relinquish all of it and give it to him. He definitely likes and wants to exert his authority over me.

For him, being in a happy, loving but sexless marriage, I allow him to continue to enjoy that aspect of it, without any drama's or complications. He never seeks intimacy from me in that regard. Its not to say that sometimes our hookups involve "affection", "passion" and "love making", for the majority its raw carnal hot sex.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

So many great comments on this thread! Just be true to yourself!

 

[bi2]

So many great comments on this thread! Just be true to yourself!

Agree.

Be happy, be content and if the pandemic didnt teach us already, remember life can be short, very short.

I understand completely why married guys are in the closet, nothing wrong for being this way. Being with one, made me understand and grasp all the reasons why and how, the lives that they lead and the complexity it entails.

This board, is all about respect for bi guys and their choices.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

Agree.

Be happy, be content and if the pandemic didnt teach us already, remember life can be short, very short.

I understand completely why married guys are in the closet, nothing wrong for being this way. Being with one, made me understand and grasp all the reasons why and how, the lives that they lead and the complexity it entails.

This board, is all about respect for bi guys and their choices.

VERY WELL stated, my friend

 

[hammer3342]

My mood fluctuates a lot regarding sex with wife, some days I just get limp after penetration. Does that happen to anyone? And fantasizing about guys at that time just gets me more confused. Can anyone relate?

Yep, not alone. Sometimes it is just not what i want. As someone else stated you mind is somewhere else

 

[hammer3342]

This is the thread i have been looking for. Like many others knew I was bi. Had a boyfriend before I met my wife. We were too young to get it. I met my wife fell in love got married after 2years. I told her before we got married. We tried the open marriage thing she ended it. We have talked about it. I cheated, i know i hated myself. She found out and almost ended our marriage. The sex was great when we first got together then it tapered off after 18 years of marriage. When i asked her her she makes some excuses. We've worked through some stuff but it still isn't right. Its been months since we were intimate. I love her but i still like men. Im so glad to have found this thread. Its nice to know im not alone. Maybe i can see if she is into pegging.

 

[bi2]

Its a thread that while I am not surprised that it exists, I am surprised by the number that have liked and enjoyed my posts and my posts of being with a very much older male that is married, bi and in the closet. Which by the way is not my business, nor my concern, nor do I judge him or his decisions.

I can only share what his experience is like, its one experience. It may apply to some or to none at all. Its about all of us coming together and respecting.

But if postsers by that I mean Bi Men ask me questions, Im more than happy to answer for my partner for what I know about his life and situation.

 

[biggun7]

Hello guys.

I guess this is the place where to put this post. I have been married for a long time, about 10 years. I'm 38 and have known I'm been bisexual for most of my life. In High school and college I had a few experiences with guys. I even had a 6 month long relationship with a man that was kept secret. We were just best friends to everyone else. After that ended, I dated a few girls and ended up falling in love with a woman.

Since my relationship with her was strong and we decided to get married, I figured it was no use to come out and let anyone know about me. Fast forward 10 years and that secret of who I am is eating me inside. I know I can't be honest with my wife because she would not have it. I also grew up in a very strict catholic family, which is why I kept it a secret. Most of my life I was led to believe being with guys is a sin and wrong.

I was fortunate enough to find the guy I had experiences with that also kept my secret or where in the close themselves. My story is long and basically, I would like to find a friend who understands what I'm going through. Someone I can have conversations like this and be myself with. Are any of you bi guys out there in the same situation?

You are not alone and I’m happy to talk any Time buddy.

 

[Biryder]

Hello guys.

I guess this is the place where to put this post. I have been married for a long time, about 10 years. I'm 38 and have known I'm been bisexual for most of my life. In High school and college I had a few experiences with guys. I even had a 6 month long relationship with a man that was kept secret. We were just best friends to everyone else. After that ended, I dated a few girls and ended up falling in love with a woman.

Since my relationship with her was strong and we decided to get married, I figured it was no use to come out and let anyone know about me. Fast forward 10 years and that secret of who I am is eating me inside. I know I can't be honest with my wife because she would not have it. I also grew up in a very strict catholic family, which is why I kept it a secret. Most of my life I was led to believe being with guys is a sin and wrong.

I was fortunate enough to find the guy I had experiences with that also kept my secret or where in the close themselves. My story is long and basically, I would like to find a friend who understands what I'm going through. Someone I can have conversations like this and be myself with. Are any of you bi guys out there in the same situation?

As has been said there are many of us out here like you. I would be willing to bet that you know at least one person that is in the same boat as you are.

Be glad to chat anytime.

 

[Mikemoorehead2135]

I fit right into this post.
Curious here all of my life.
Married and when my wife shut down sex, my feelings to the other side has gotten stronger.

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