Is anyone else surprised by the, what appears to be, large number of married men cruising?
In the past I felt that the number of men open to having sex with another guy was pretty limited, especially those in a straight relationship. but as I get older it seems like there are more married guys looking. Maybe as they age they are less uptight?
Thoughts?
Okay, the first thing that I want to say is "DUDE, I KNOW RIGHT?!?!?!"
With that being said, I'll continue. Rappers Yogotti and Lil'Wayne said it best: "Women Lie, Men Lie". Growing up, our friends, families, ministers, teachers all painted a world for us where we all have mommies and daddies. They fall in love, they get married, they have children, and they all just live and grow old together. The part of the picture that we never saw or could ever think existed were the secrets. The secrets where vows are broken. Doors are closed. Lies are told. And ignorance is bliss.
What I love about this site is that truly meet different kinds of people from different walks of life. For those of you who came out of the closet, you decided to be honest with yourself and the rest of the world. Those of you in the closet, decided to be honest with yourself but lie to the world. And of some of you lie to the world, and put forth a great fight of lying to yourself until urges bring forth truth. And it sucks, too. Some of these men can only fuck their wives from behind to help with their own fantasies during intercourse. Getting dildos for their wives to "spice up their sex lives", but when the wife's away, the husband will play- with or without an audience. There are even some men who dread special occasions where love making would be expected.
When I was 16 years old, I used to go in the m4m chatrooms on AOL. I remember speaking to so many men, quite a few had girlfriends or were married. I remember speaking to this one man. He was such a nice man, and from what I gather had a very successful life. He had been married for almost 60 years. He told me about how he would go to the gym and stroke off with other men in the hot tubs... Or they'd touch one another in the saunas. He always just wanted to fuck and get fucked by another man. Even wanted to have a relationship with one. He told me that it was too late for him. The only way that he could be set free at this point is if his wife was to go in the ground, or he did. The last time I spoke to him was right before I graduated high school. I have no idea if he's dead or alive. He'd be about 87. You only get one life to live, and it's hard enough leading that one. To lead a double-life is hell, I'm sure.
It was at this point that I realized that I enjoyed getting to know people on a sexual and intimate level (and no, I never met him or messed around with him). Because it's at this point that you truly get to see people for who they are, not what they show. Rhetorical question to those of you who have cammed/cybered/phone-boned some of these married men: Does it blow your minds that you more than likely know these men more intimately than their wives, the mothers of their children?
Please know- anyone reading this- I'm not judging anyone. We are who we are, and do what we do-their marriages are not my problems. Some of us just feel that the truth can do so much damage. And being the son of a mother who found out that her life partner- father of her child, childhood sweetheart and best-friend- was in fact gay, I can tell you this from experience. It's not the truth that does the damage, but the lies.
And No, it's not because as they get older they're less uptight. As they get older, trust is established, and routines are learned. It's just easier to sneak around and get what you want.
