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have sex with other men.

I am not passing judgement on anyone. Not my place to judge anyone but myself.

However, I am curious about married men who are in monogamous relationships and have no verbal agreement with their wife to have out side sexual relations. But you meet men on the DL. I see so many men on these hook up sites that state MWM a on the DL?

Do you feel you are cheating on your wife? And do you think your wife is suspicious at all?
 

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My wife stopped being a good wife years ago. We might have sex once every 3 months when she needs something so I don’t feel it’s cheating. She has no idea and I only mess around when I’m out of town for work. I usually meet married guys in the same situation
 

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have sex with other men.

I am not passing judgement on anyone. Not my place to judge anyone but myself.

However, I am curious about married men who are in monogamous relationships and have no verbal agreement with their wife to have out side sexual relations. But you meet men on the DL. I see so many men on these hook up sites that state MWM a on the DL?

Do you feel you are cheating on your wife? And do you think your wife is suspicious at all?
I'm married, am bi, my partner knows, and it doesn't feel like cheating because I tell her in advance. All she asks is 'don't do it here', and 'be safe'.
 

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I am not married, but I am bi and only into men sexually, not romantically. As a bi person, I go through waves of wanting nothing but pussy, to wanting nothing but dick, it's like a cycle. Many bi people simply choose a partner and that is the end of it, just like a straight person not having sex with anyone else -- their partner is all they need.

For others like myself, we do crave both, but at different times. For me, having a woman that is open to sexual adventure with others is important to me, as my bi side loves watching my gf get fucked by a hot, hung dude. But even so, I am fine with a woman that has no interest in sex with anyone but me, but at least let's me be open to get some side D on occasion. That said, I have zero interest in sharing my heart, only my D. For me, I have to be in relationship that is open, or at least open enough to let me get my male release on the side.

Each person is different, this is just me. I would wager most bi men are not like me, and can care less about what is between their partners legs once they are in love and happily married.
 

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have sex with other men.

I am not passing judgement on anyone. Not my place to judge anyone but myself.

However, I am curious about married men who are in monogamous relationships and have no verbal agreement with their wife to have out side sexual relations. But you meet men on the DL. I see so many men on these hook up sites that state MWM a on the DL?

Do you feel you are cheating on your wife? And do you think your wife is suspicious at all?
Yes I am cheating on my wife. Yet my urge to get sexual satisfaction over powers my guilt. Yes, sometimes I think of myself as a man whore.
 

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My wife stopped being a good wife years ago. We might have sex once every 3 months when she needs something so I don’t feel it’s cheating. She has no idea and I only mess around when I’m out of town for work. I usually meet married guys in the same situation
I am in the same boat... But my spouse decided she no longer was interested in sex at all, I would have been delighted at once every 3 months.

I have no qualms whatsoever about finding someone to enjoy sex with (male or female).
 

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I don't think any of the married guys I have a sexual experience with would class that as cheating.
I suck, toss them off, no strings, they get their rocks off and I get a load of spunk so both happy - and the little lady doesn't have to lie there having her dried pussy humped.
 

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Sex and love are two different things in my opinion and I can seperate them. I don’t fuck men but have explored and wank with guys and swap horny stories on here and other places. I don’t have guilt because it’s something she can’t give me. I’m not looking elsewhere for what she can offer, my kinks are about having horny chats and opening up with men. I wouldn’t fuck a woman solo because I can get that at home. Although I would if it was group setting because she isn’t up for that but I love it

I feel guilty sometimes that it could hurt her because I truly love her with everything I have. Although my horny overpowers that.

Thats the way I get around it morally in my head anyway
 

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I am not married, but I am bi and only into men sexually, not romantically. As a bi person, I go through waves of wanting nothing but pussy, to wanting nothing but dick, it's like a cycle. Many bi people simply choose a partner and that is the end of it, just like a straight person not having sex with anyone else -- their partner is all they need.

For others like myself, we do crave both, but at different times. For me, having a woman that is open to sexual adventure with others is important to me, as my bi side loves watching my gf get fucked by a hot, hung dude. But even so, I am fine with a woman that has no interest in sex with anyone but me, but at least let's me be open to get some side D on occasion. That said, I have zero interest in sharing my heart, only my D. For me, I have to be in relationship that is open, or at least open enough to let me get my male release on the side.

Each person is different, this is just me. I would wager most bi men are not like me, and can care less about what is between their partners legs once they are in love and happily married.
johnweek1, I am just like you the urges come and go but when I want D I MEAN I NEED IT! I'm also in a relationship with an open woman so it makes life fun ;)
 

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have sex with other men.

I am not passing judgement on anyone. Not my place to judge anyone but myself.

However, I am curious about married men who are in monogamous relationships and have no verbal agreement with their wife to have out side sexual relations. But you meet men on the DL. I see so many men on these hook up sites that state MWM a on the DL?

Do you feel you are cheating on your wife? And do you think your wife is suspicious at all?
So, to put some "skin in the game (ggg)"... Are you married? And has it crossed your mind?

This question (which has been tossed around here for years) usually falls into the "Yes, it's cheating. Period (by those that never cheated)". Or "No it's not, because of my wife is not having sex with me now". Or the "I don't view it as love so I'm not cheating". And finally the "Yes, I know it's cheating... But I still do it". There is no good answer in my opinion. We all chose our paths...

Now for the last one: "Do you think your wife is suspicious at all?" My opinion is if you think your wife is suspicious... She knows. Period.

Now the devil's advocate here: There is the opinion that many women MAY find it harder to know if hubby is cheating on her with another guy. Why? "Going to Bob's for a beer... Or watch the game... or golf...". Plus a huge number of these hookups happen on business trips.

Now if you post this in the AAW section (I haven't checked if it has)... I can tell you what 99.99% of the answers will be. Which may be the correct answer!
 

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have sex with other men.

I am not passing judgement on anyone. Not my place to judge anyone but myself.

However, I am curious about married men who are in monogamous relationships and have no verbal agreement with their wife to have out side sexual relations. But you meet men on the DL. I see so many men on these hook up sites that state MWM a on the DL?

Do you feel you are cheating on your wife? And do you think your wife is suspicious at all?
Some posts/questions are entirely too intrusive.
 

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Some posts/questions are entirely too intrusive.
No one is forced to answer a question. It's fair game (although a search would have found very similar questions).
 

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I am in a now-sexless marriage.

Prior to my wife's menopause, sex with her was frequent and fun. With menopause, her interest in sex shrivelled to zero. While she did talk to her doctor about it, she did not follow any of her recommendations; instead, she told me to "take matters into my own capable hands".

My sex drive was always much stronger than hers, which I addressed with masturbation. She assumed that I would simply masturbate full-time.

There was no way that I would do that. I started seeing men. At first, I was with men, whom I met while on business trips. We would be be in the hotel pool at night, strike up a conversation, and, let nature take its course. Then I met other men, such that I am sleeping with men exclusively now.

We still have high school-aged sons. They have a right to a stable home life; my wife and I have a responsibility to provide that to them. While we could divorce at a later date, we operated in a "Don't ask...Don't tell" scenario. Neither of us has complained about it.

Judge me, if you want. I don't know you, and, don't care, if you don't like it.
 
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I am in a relationship for almost 3 years now and soon going to get married. Anyway for business I travel a lot abroad and initially used to cheat with women but lately have had the courage to meet guys too ( i say courage cuz i have always been bicurious but never dared to meet a guy for sex). My gf is happy and doesn’t suspect anything and I have done this deal with myself to meet guys only when i travel for business abroad and never at home. I think I have found the right balance
 

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Sorry but my conservative ass doesn't get how can you cheat on someone you love? Why would you want to marry/ date someone if you know you won't be fully happy as she can't fulfil all your desires. Can you imagine how heartbroken she would be if she finds out one day? You don't do that to someone you love, it's really selfish in my opinion, you think only about yourself and your horniness but don't consider that it could hurt others who love you and wouldn't do the same to you. How would you feel if your partner cheated on you?

Why just not be single and meet whoever you want or find someone with who you can be open about your sexuality (although I would personally still feel like I'm not good enough if my partner needs to meet others if someone asked me that) rather than using others to have some "normal" looking life from outside.
 
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Sorry but my conservative ass doesn't get how can you cheat on someone you love? Why would you want to marry/ date someone if you know you won't be fully happy as she can't fulfil all your desires. Can you imagine how heartbroken she would be if she finds out one day? You don't do that to someone you love, it's really selfish in my opinion, you think only about yourself and your horniness but don't consider that it could hurt others who love you and wouldn't do the same to you. How would you feel if your partner cheated on you?

Why just not be single and meet whoever you want or find someone with who you can be open about your sexuality (although I would personally still feel like I'm not good enough if my partner needs to meet others if someone asked me that) rather than using others to have some "normal" looking life from outside.
Love and sex to me are very different concepts. I love my gf but need to take care of my fetish sex side too which she doesn’t like. So I try to find balance, and I think we all are happy. As I said I never cheat at home, so the probability for me to get caught and hurt her isn’t an option. This way I feel more relaxed and we have a great relationship.