Married or Engaged couples. Who is the Sub. and who is the Dom.?

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Dear Married, engaged, or might as well be married couples.

I'm just curious, Who is the Submissive in the relationship, Who is the Dominate in the relationship.

More Curious about Husband and Wife relationships. But Husband and Husband relationships and Wife and Wife relationships are also welcome.
 

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Neither of us is submissive or dominant. We don't do that whole sub/dom, top/bottom power play thing. Not that I'm hating on people who do. We're just not those sorta gays, you know?
 

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I wasn't clear about whether you meant overall, in terms of normal everyday life, or whether you only mean in the bedroom ? Or playroom, dungeon, whatever ... :wink:

I think some people mix both, so one person will be the more aggressive / dominant partner in sex, and in all the other things ... where to live, how to decorate, how to spend time and money, who with, etc. ... but I don't think all that many couples work that way. Some actually prefer to use sex ( and the sidelines that go with that sometimes ) as an alternative / counterpoint to the other dynamics of a relationship. And sometimes that is a more-or-less conscious choice, and sometimes it isn't.
 

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I wasn't clear about whether you meant overall, in terms of normal everyday life, or whether you only mean in the bedroom ? Or playroom, dungeon, whatever ... :wink:

I think some people mix both, so one person will be the more aggressive / dominant partner in sex, and in all the other things ... where to live, how to decorate, how to spend time and money, who with, etc. ... but I don't think all that many couples work that way. Some actually prefer to use sex ( and the sidelines that go with that sometimes ) as an alternative / counterpoint to the other dynamics of a relationship. And sometimes that is a more-or-less conscious choice, and sometimes it isn't.

I mainly meant in the bedroom :)
 

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I'm strongly dominant and my wife is exclusively submissive. To the extent that she's ever taken a dominant role with anyone, she's told me that it was her acting out the sorts of things that she'd like to have done to her.

It's a drag sometimes, because I would like her to initiate sex sometimes. For the most part though, submissive is exactly what I want her to be. We're extremely compatible and the sex is fantastic.
 

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I'm strongly dominant and my wife is exclusively submissive. To the extent that she's ever taken a dominant role with anyone, she's told me that it was her acting out the sorts of things that she'd like to have done to her.

It's a drag sometimes, because I would like her to initiate sex sometimes. For the most part though, submissive is exactly what I want her to be. We're extremely compatible and the sex is fantastic.

Jon, that is amazing to hear. and I am glad you are both ok with it. I've always been a little curious about how people in serious relationships have thier roles.
 

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I'm dominant about 70% of the time. I give her 30% because she does initiate fairly often and I do get the occasional wake-up blow job. But when it actually comes down to penetration and position, she very very rarely wants to be on top. She almost always wants me in control of the rhythm and thrusting.