Married Straight/Bi Guys: Telling wife about "gay" experiences?

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  1. PointedArrow

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    Hey everyone,

    So just curious to know if any married guys have ever told their wives about any "gay experience" they've had. No judgment here, but "gay experience" being anything from JO bud to sex with another dude. What was it that you told, when and how did you bring it up, what was her reaction, etc.? Do you regret it (the experience or telling her)?

    Thanks for the input!!

    P.S. - if you don't believe in marriage, but have had a long onterm relationship, please feel free to contribute :rolleyes:
     
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    apologies in advance for bumping this, but does really no one have any insight to this issue? thanks!!
     
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    Why would you talk about it. It's like hearing stuff about her ex. Do you want to know. I WOULDN'T. But if she has curious about it, then have a three some.
     
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    long story short(because i told this in detail in another thread)
    a freind of a friend's boyfriend is known for having a big dick.he pulls it out and jerks off in front of his friends like he's walking on his hands or something.welll the friend of a friend gets engaged to the big dick dude(long as a half gallon milk carton,they say)come to find out the friend of a friend 's brother used to jerk and get jerked off by the big dick guy a back in high school on the regular.on a couple's getaway in bed the friend of a friend asks big dick dude,he comes right out ans says"oh yeah,but i used a surgical glove so it's not really gay"
    then he tells her that one of his buddies he hangs with "used" to suck his dick.and since he wore a condom and didn't cum in his buddie's mouth it's not gay.plus he says it's just because his friend likes his dick.and he still from time to time at parties still shows his dick on request.
    well....after all this the wedding is this august.
     
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    She ain't going to say to no big dick. LOL.







     
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    thanks for the input! I think it's important to be open with your partner, so it's encouraging to know that women are still cool with the guy!
     
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    I don't believe in discussing past sexual encounters period. I find it in bad taste. With a same-sex encounter, you are also adding on a layer of potential prejudice.

    The only time that I might make an exception to this rule would be at a time when your wife might hear the story from another source first. At that point, you may wish to say something; however, you would know her reactions best.
     
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    really? even anonymously on a site like this?

    ... why are you here again?
     
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    I was actually dating a guy when I met my wife. We met in collage and she heard I was gay. She came right out and asked me if I was gay before we even started hanging out, much less dating. So, yes, My wife knew I was bi even before we started dating. Over the years we have discussed my same sex desires but no details of sexual encounters.
     
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    I have only been honest with one girl I was dating. It was largely because she told me about a lesbian experience so I told her about my highschool days when I jerked off and blew a few guys. She loved the stories and admitted that she was very turned on. She also enjoyed watching gay porn etc. We are now good friends and still talk about it - it's great to have someone to be honest with and chat to about my bi fantasies etc. We also did a lot together including a "sexclub /swingers thing", and took drugs and tried everything during some wild days so I guess the level of trust was very deep.

    However, my current girlfriend (likely to be fiance soon) doesnt know a thing about the past or my 20% "thoughts". She is slightly more "down the line" and I don't think she would understand. She is also very jealous and hates hearing anything about (female) ex's so i feel like adding a bi element would cause more worry. I love her to bits but our relationship is different to the other one.

    The only problem is that I sometimes feel a little guilty that I have this secret side, and she doesn't know 100% of me.
     
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