Not_Punny
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There are three kids I have to consider. Two of them being from a previous marriage, they and have seen a lot in their short life. As you said, if I stay I will have the financial stability and would be able to maintain our structured life. As I mentioned before, there are many pros staying with him. He is a wonderful man; he loves me, and is not abusive in any kind of way. The issue I have is: cheating on him. I was not brought up that way but I have considered it to make this work. Thank you for your advice. It really hits home. Like I said this is the problem I am struggling with most. How long have the two of you been divorced?
We've been apart for ten years (the divorce took a while, so we've only been officially divorced for six years). It was hell because I loved him very much. We had a great house, nice life, financial stability, etc. etc.
IT TOOK ME SEVEN YEARS TO RECOVER FINANCIALLY, AND THE KIDS SUFFERED.
My ex and I are now good friends and very close. Very close. I know it would have worked out just fine if I had not had such a fairy tale - and selfish - view of marriage.
I think he has SHOWN you the way that he is willing to stay married. I would take that as a example.
As to the sex, your husband may be scared to give you an STD. Mine was -- and we always wore condoms (my only birth control at the time)(we had three kids and were done) -- I'm glad we did because he caught a major STD, and I am STD free.
So I would additionally advise this: No more unprotected sex with your husband. Also, get tested every few months. Both of you, whether or not you have sex with anyone else. He can still be a carrier and give something to you.
I guess my recommended read is: The Proper Care and Feeding Of Husbands (by Dr. Laura) which is a great book to keep marriages together. But in your case, there needs to be a major revision in chapter that's about sex. Make up a chapter of your own on that subject.
Good luck.
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