Alex said:
My point is, while he knew he had feelings of being homosexual, I think he should have put a lot of thought before getting married. He was lucky to have such a great loving and understanding family. He struggled for 18 years while being married and secretly not being happy.
Response:
I agree with you totally. And when I step back to observe marriages in general, that last on average of 3 years before divorce, I still see that same pain and unhappiness that's magnified with kids and bills.
Your friend and his wife should have no regrets. He has a loving family and they experience love for 18 years. They raised their kids until they were
old enought to spread their wings? (MY interpretation
MY take: There is no perfection in relationshiups. It is always a struggle and a compromise for educated people with options. We make choices and we live with them until we no longer can. I, for one, am far from miserable and bitter.
My point is, while he knew he had feelings of being homosexual, I think he should have put a lot of thought before getting married. He was lucky to have such a great loving and understanding family. He struggled for 18 years while being married and secretly not being happy.
Response:
I agree with you totally. And when I step back to observe marriages in general, that last on average of 3 years before divorce, I still see that same pain and unhappiness that's magnified with kids and bills.
Your friend and his wife should have no regrets. He has a loving family and they experience love for 18 years. They raised their kids until they were
old enought to spread their wings? (MY interpretation
MY take: There is no perfection in relationshiups. It is always a struggle and a compromise for educated people with options. We make choices and we live with them until we no longer can. I, for one, am far from miserable and bitter.