Married Woman Situation

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_hungnate, Aug 23, 2006.

  1. B_hungnate

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    Hi everyone. I've been a lurker here on and off and I've got an issue I'm dealing with. I'm 23 and this year I've started to discover the joys of older women. This last situation is great but I'm not sure about it. I met this woman about a month ago at my job (she's a customer). We haven't spend much time together but last week we hopped into bed. Had some great sex and all but then before she left my place she told me she's married. I'm kind of torn on this. On one hand I don't want to be a homewrecker or anything. The other side of it is I'm not the one doing the cheating and shouldn't I let her decide who she wants to fuck? I admit it's hard for me to look at it clear. She's 35 with a serious hardbody. I mean really toned. The other thing is, and this is what first got me thinking about posting on this site, is I'm about 8 inches and not every woman thinks that's great but she went out of her way to say she loves my size. I was pretty turned on by that and I asked her how big her husband is and she says I'm probably 3 inches longer than her husband. That was another turnon for me but it doesn't change the situation. Anyway I don't know anything about the guy like if he cheats or if he's the perfect husband or whatever. Either way, she told me she wants to get together again and I told her sure but now I can't stop thinking about this. On one hand I think maybe I should bail and on the other hand like I said she's got a serious body on her and I'm thinking I should just let her make her choice and go for it. Anyway whatever you guys 'n gals think, lay it on me. Thanks.
     
  2. Lordpendragon

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    My advice - leave married women alone - they are dealing with personal issues in their marriages and besides, there are plenty of gorgeous divorced and unmarried "older" women.

    Make sure her husband doesn't work for the mob, otherwise your cock may not be 8 inches for much longer.
     
  3. jordyal

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    Classic Reply! In a similar situation myself, although haven't persued it to actually doing anything, but the offer has been there. Guess I would hate to be involved in the break up of a family. You don't really know what people have going on in their home lives.
     
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    I have said this before in a different thread, "Don't shit in front of your door."


    Up to the point where she told you she's married, it is not your fault. However, if and when the husband finds out, I doubt he would agree with me on this point.

    Now that you know the situation, you will also ahe to be responsible for what happens after this.


    Do you feel you have been used as an object?


    That's not relevant. Two wrongs don't make a right.


    Hmmm, sounds like the sex was great. I am happy for you. But the sex lasts only that long, the after glow shorter, and the orgasm is only about, say, 30 seconds. the consequences last hell of a lot longer.

    I wish you the best, and I very much hope it was worth it.
     
  5. stud_hunter

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    The most interesting posts seem to come out at night, don’t they? At least night in the US. Maybe it’s because when I’m up at this hour I’m tipsy on insomnia. OK, own to business now.
    All the cheating wives seem to be cheating with hung guys! Or perhaps this site is just where people who think about size issues come. As for your situation, I have a few thoughts. First off, even if you are 3 inches longer than her husband, I assure you that is not the main reason she’s cheating. It may be a nice side-effect for her but not the main reason. The fact that she told you you’re bigger than him that sounds to me like she’s got some bitterness towards him, which of course we’d expect since she’s cheating. So my point is, while I’m sure you’re gorgeous and a stud in bed, the reason she’s cheating probably has more to do with him than you.
    Translation: if she wasn’t cheating with you she’d probably be doing it with someone else. That’s not a recommendation to go for it, but I’m just saying. Ultimately you’ve got to make your own choice but I generally like to believe everyone is responsible for their own stuff. It’s her life and if she wants to go to bed with you I personally wouldn’t morally fault you for doing it.

    On the other hand Lorgpendragon makes a good point. You don’t know what kind of person her husband is. Of course, odds are you won't get caught, and odds are he won't hurt you if you do, but you may not want to take that risk. :confused:

    You know, the more I think about it, the more I agree with Lordpendragon. I'm sure it's hard to turn down a "hardbody" who wants you, but there are other fish in the sea. You don't need to get all hung up in this situation.
    Get it? "Hung" up? Ha ha. Lightheaded at 3 AM. Heh heh.
     
  6. D_Merringtonne Meathead

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    I'm older, married and have no problem cheating with married women as long as that's all it is: we're both taking risks so we do try to be careful. Whenever I have gone to bed with a married woman the 'decision' to do so was taken before she saw the size of my trusty friend. It's true they have often commented on my size and enjoyed it but that's the same with single/divorced women too. I try to avoid discussing spouses, whether about their performance in bed or otherwise since the affair should be separate: I've no wish to damage any third party. Currently I have one married 'other' I'm seeing on average once a week just for a good uninhibited fuck: there's no doubt being big adds to the enjoyment. I have another one I see less frequently but for the same purpose. Both of them are regularly fucked by their husbands, and my wife and I fuck 2-3 times a week, which all helps to reduce the likelihood of anything going wrong. I see no problem in any of this.
     
  7. Gisella

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    Hungnate..if I was you I just would avoid married people. Well, ok she has a beautiful body but is not worth the headache of the baggage she may have and etc...as LP said there are lot of women to 'choose' from that have nice body and etc but not married...

    And as SH said she may you may be one of many and etc...

    Is nice to have fun and sex with free people and that has not many bagagge still being carry on...i myself cant handle situations like that i just avoid, cut, run and etc...:biggrin1:
     
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    If she and her husband have the kind of relationship where they have freedom to sleep with other people, then by all means go for it. But don't take her word for it. Ask her if you can meet her husband and get his permission, from him. If she says "no", you should say "no" too. You will find someone else at some point.

    Her relationship with her husband makes no difference. If she is cheating (in other words, if she has to sneak and lie to him about it) then she is bringing you down to her level. Only you have control over your character and integrity.
     
  9. B_Linda Sizequeen

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    Here's another way to think about it.....perhaps she's a woman who thinks for herself and fucks whomever she wants? Why do men and husbands always have to be involved or making the moral choices for us? Just a thought.........
     
  10. Lordpendragon

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    She may well be - but that wouldn't change my advice to the guy asking the question.
     
  11. Stursberg

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    This is the most cogent comment in this thread. There are other unbridled women who will give you the same freedom to be just a fuck buddy (I assume at your age you are not looking for a perminent situation) as this married woman will. Find smarter pastures! After about 2-3 weeks, a (this) woman's body is the least important of all the things she brings to the table sexually.
     
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    Interesting. How many other partners does your wife have?
    I suppose you don't discuss details with each other.
     
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    I would let this one go and stay away from married women. Don't know how many lives you could be ruining. Sex is always around the corner so don't feel like it will take forever to find someone like her again. You just have to be open to finding a replacement.

    On another note, I find it hard to believe that women don't appreciate your size. I could understand if you were say...over 10" but you are around 8"? Thats pretty reasonable to accomodate. Sounds like you are going after the wrong women. Maybe be more upfront about your size and dismiss women who aren't enthusiastic about it immediately. There has to be a size queen or two in your area.
     
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    Ah, a married situation.

    I have been presented with two or three of these. Nate, you are going to find that the board has a bit of a split perspective about this.

    a)Some believe that cheating is wrong, and that having an affair with a married woman/man is not something that should be done, due to the fact that it could potentially ruin a marriage.

    b)Others will pat you on the back, and suggest that you are mearly a pawn in this marriage, and that if you are making the woman happy... then that is all that matters. You get to fuck, and she gets to feel some enjoyment.

    Personally, I am in disagreance with the above point (b). I have always been an advocate of being honest with people. If I was in a relationship, and wasn't satisfied sexually, or wanted to explore more, I would tell my spouse or significant other, and see what their opinion was.

    However, my opinion and those of the board really don't matter. What DOES matter, is " Can you sleep ok at night, knowing that you had sex with a married woman?"

    If the answer is yes, then enjoy the ride, buddy.:tongue:

    If the answer is no, then you are going to have to talk to her. She may have regrets as well. Communication is key, even when it is talking to a woman who you are sleeping with.:rolleyes:
     
  15. Sklar

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    Cheating women (and men for that matter) make it the choice of the third party when they offer up the information that they are married and/or in a relationship, Linda Sizequeen.

    I don't see how intelligent she can be if she breaks her marital vows. I'm not even going to speculate on if she has kids or if her marriage is in trouble. I'm just going to go on the fact that she is married.

    Why bother getting married if you are not going to be faithful to the one you are married too?

    Hungnate, tell her to either get a divorce or to get out of your life.

    I also do not agree with the philosophy of: They are going to cheat anyways, so I might as well take advantage of that. I'll use the old cliche of: If everyone was jumping off a cliff, would you do it, too?

    Of course not. God gave us the brains to make strong, moral decisions.

    Cheating is cheating is cheating.

    People have an eithical duty to NOT make affairs socially acceptable. Why bother having marriage then?

    The martial vows are not something to be taken in vain. If people are not serious about them, they shouldn't be getting married.
     
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    I agree with you, wholeheartedly, Sklar. However, people can be quite serious about their vows when they are married, and then 5,10,15 years down the road, they find they still love the person, but are no longer sexually attracted to them., having a love much like that of a sibling would.

    As a result, they seek out excitement. I think this married woman needs to think about what she wants. Perhaps, she is content about cheating. There are many many many people who have NO problems doing it.:biggrin1:
     
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    It's still not a reason to commit adulty, though.

    If they are no longer sexually intersted in their partner, then it's their responsibilty to re-invent the relationship, not look outside of it.

    I have friends that have been together for decades and they still have creative ways of keeping the relationship fresh i.e. they go out on dates, they hit on each other.

    Again, just because she has no problem with doesn't make it right.


    Look at all the hidden camera porn sites. They don't have a problem hiding cameras in locker rooms to snap pictures of people getting naked but it's obviously wrong to do so.
     
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    Not arguing, I agree. I am just giving you the other side of the discussion. A little "Devil's advocate" if you will. :rolleyes:

    It doesnt make it right, but you would be surprised what people will do when they are unhappy. Cheating is merely a small step, in the grand scheme of things.:rolleyes:

    You know, if the married couple is ok with having an open marriage, then does that still make it cheating?
     
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    Married women: hit it and move on. You don't need that kind of baggage.
     
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    Sweetheart, my response would have been the same regardless of any involved person's gender. I'm just saying that if you are "partnered" with another person, you have a moral obligation to that person and to yourself to be honest with them. If you have an open relationship, that's between the two of you. If you have to lie to your partner about who else you are sleeping with, then perhaps you should be single.
     
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