married women not having sex anymore

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  1. bigdog83

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    how come i always hear guys at work(example) talk about how they never get any once they got married and have kids? is this normal? From what I can see they are healthy relationships, minus sex.
     
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    Yeah its like a requirement to have your knees sewn together after he puts a ring on your finger.
     
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    maybe they are lousy fucks
     
  4. Principessa

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    Because once a woman has a baby or babies they are totally dependent on her for their care. Some husbands pitch in and change a diaper or two, maybe they clean up the dishes after dinner.

    But the woman has to go to work, care for the children, grocery shop, clean the house, cook the meals, and do all the stuff her husband can't be bothered with. Like pick up his dry cleaning, take the cars in for repairs etc., etc. In 85% of American households all the man has to do is go to work, cut the grass and maybe play with the baby before it goes to sleep. If he gets home in time that is.

    Most married women are exhausted at the end of the day, especially if they have children or pets to care for. The best foreplay a husband can give a wife is a maid twice a week and to appreciate all she does for him. :cool:
     
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    Actually, it reminds me of this joke my dad told me:

    This lady goes to work and says "My husband always wants sex and by the end of the day im just too tired and i told him he should try cleaning the house, cooking, taking care of the kids and going to work!"

    So he decides he is going to do all of the housework and prove her wrong. So the lady's co-workers ask if they had sex at the end of the day that day....

    she said "No, he was too tired."
     
  6. Wish-4-8

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    Ummm.... How is that a joke? Jokes usually have a twist in them that makes them funny. That was to be expected.

    OK, I will make it funny:
    So he decides he is going to do all of the housework and prove her wrong. So the lady's co-workers ask if they had sex at the end of the day that day....

    she said "Yes, he hired a maid!"
     
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    There is another joke that I have posted here:

    Why is does a bride smile when she walks down the aisle on her wedding?

    Because she knows she has given her last blow job.
     
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    Why would you rarely give a blow job if you are going to still have sex with him. If you are going to cut out blow jobs you may as well take the pussy too. I think thats why porn depicts them so much.
     
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  10. dolfette

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    so damn true for me.
    i was too tired to have sex.
    i was too angry to have sex.
     
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    I rarely had sex with my husband after we'd been together about 3yrs, because he stopped making the effort. There was no real attempt at romance, affection or attention. It was just "I'm horny, you have a hole let me stick it in it". OK, he didn't say the words but the sentiment was definitely there.

    There was no way I was responding well to that... I'm not a utensil to be taken out when required and then put back.

    I'm a real giver in bed, but not for a selfish taker!
     
  12. dolfette

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    that too!

    he could be a real arsehole all day, then hop into bed and expect me to be in the mood. sex was something i just switched off for. just because he does foreplay, doesn't make it better.
     
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    If you want to have good and regular sex after marriage and children, marry a non-Anglo. Most men I know who are married to Anglo women don't have sex now or didn't have it for long periods of time. Most men I know who are married to African or Asian women didn't notice much change in sexual frequency over time.

    In my case my wife is African. Her take on it now for then was that (a) sex is only half-an-hour or so, and it would be pathetic to think you couldn't give half-an-hour of your time to your husband for something special, and (b) sex at that time made her feel loved and it made her feel like a woman rather than a mother.

    Beyond that: love, romance and helping out is the thing to do, but the men I speak to who do those things still don't get much sex.
     
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    Who said they weren't having sex? They're just not fucking their husbands.
     
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    Maybe women are just pathetic leeches. The arguments regarding cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. etc blah blah are bunk. I clean way more than my messy girlfriend, work way harder at work considering all she does is wash dishes while I do construction shit, I'm much more attentive when it comes to the children and all she does is fucking party all the time like a moron.

    Then I came to the stark realization in college that most girls my age can't cook, aren't clean, don't even shine bright in the darkest abyss, and all around are fucking worthless.

    Fortunately for women society has pressed that the woman has essentially all sexual control, so their selfish absolutely abhorrent and worthless ways, along with a dead stereotype, seems to cover them all the time.

    P.S. Females in general do not have to do anything during sexual intercourse. So if you're too tired, lay the fuck down and shut your goddamn mouth. He'll pull your legs apart for you, don't worry about it. Go to sleep even.
     
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    Got a feeling someone is going to get flamed (i do agree with some of that though)
     
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    Wow - Symphonic hasn't known the right women - the ones I know don't fit his description at all, but they're older. Maybe it's generational.......or maybe you need a new girlfriend, Symph - you surely don't appreciate, love, or respect the one you have and don't sound happy.

    I dunno - despite taking care of a handicapped daughter and a schizophrenic son and a mother with Alzheimers until she wandered away to become missing for 14 years before they discovered her skeletal remains (yeah, really), having several leadership positions in church, having an online jewelry business, playing/singing at church, weddings, etc. and playing in a community orchestra, I never was too tired for sex (and honey, I don't just "lie there"; I'm an active participant!) - I have a stronger sex drive now than I did when I was 20. I think it all depends on whether a woman is highly-sexed or not when real life sets in.


    Though I don't have it at present (my choice, because I'm one of those broads who can't separate love and sex and have only loved one man in my life - waiting for him.) sex is more important to me now than it's ever been before in my life so I intend to get it right.
    I know what I want and need and intend to have it without messing it up, God willing.

    Let's face it, most men have stronger sex drives than most women, so odds are they're going to be disappointed down the line - unless they marry someone with an equal or greater drive, which is not the norm.

    (But I'm not planning on even letting my man up for air if I ever get him back!)
     
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    *laughing at the lemons*
     
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    Jaysus - and we women have a reputation for being whining, moaning old fish wives! lol
     
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