married women not having sex anymore

[crazytmo]

There is another joke that I have posted here:

Why is does a bride smile when she walks down the aisle on her wedding?

Because she knows she has given her last blow job.

lmaooooooo

 

[Kayden96]

Maybe women are just pathetic leeches. The arguments regarding cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. etc blah blah are bunk. I clean way more than my messy girlfriend, work way harder at work considering all she does is wash dishes while I do construction shit, I'm much more attentive when it comes to the children and all she does is fucking party all the time like a moron.

Then I came to the stark realization in college that most girls my age can't cook, aren't clean, don't even shine bright in the darkest abyss, and all around are fucking worthless.

Fortunately for women society has pressed that the woman has essentially all sexual control, so their selfish absolutely abhorrent and worthless ways, along with a dead stereotype, seems to cover them all the time.

P.S. Females in general do not have to do anything during sexual intercourse. So if you're too tired, lay the fuck down and shut your goddamn mouth. He'll pull your legs apart for you, don't worry about it. Go to sleep even.

I feel your pain. =( We don't even have kids and she's still aways tired, but she does usually cook.

It's still bullshit though. She gets home and sits on her laptop. I get home and ask her how her day was. She'll bitch about someone for 10 minutes and then go back to her laptap. I'll ask her if she wants to do something and she just says she's tired and goes back to her laptop. I'll ask her what's on her mind and she'll just grunt ... and go back to her laptop. She spends almost all her time on Craigslist looking for "friends" and reading yahoo news. She has a garden full of weeds she just HAD to have, but she never weeds it because she's "tired". However, the moment one of her girlfriends call, she's out the door with a bounce in her step.

After a few hours, she starts for bed and I'll try to kiss her on the neck or something and she'll pull away from me and give me the stink eye. "No, I'm not going to have sex with you. You only pay attention to me when you want sex!" And then she'll storm off to 'her room' in the basement. I sleep on the porch on a bean bag with my dog.

Fuck my life.

 

[dolfette]

and you choose to stay.

 

[Snowy1]

My husband doesnt have a high sex drive, he doesnt even have the typical male sex drive. He is more of a "go along for the ride" sorta guy. I initiate most sex. I usually wake him up in the middle of the night after masturbating when im wet and ready and he's always willing to have sex and go back to sleep. (this is more during his busy work week)

If he's had some good rest for a couple of nights (moreso on the weekend) he will approach me at some point during the day about wanting to have sex that night. He's always been that way. He knows i have a higher drive than he does and most of the time no matter how tired he is will oblidge. I just might not get much in the way of foreplay.

I dont mind not getting warmed up most times because once i feel him inside of me thats all that matters is that we got to that point. I dont care if i have to masturbate while he is sleeping or after sex sometimes to get an orgasm. The most valuable part of sex to me is the connection of our two bodies, not how long he eats me out.

The sex we have is always intense, always worth the pain of trying to get him in and when i fall asleep next to him afterwards everything in my world feels just right. I try not to EVER turn him down because him approaching me for sex is so rare that if miss this opportunity he wont be approaching me again about it for a while. And i enjoy changing up the roles a little bit and not being the sexual aggressor all the time.

I cant say i'd have the sex drive i do if i were with a worthless guy. Some guys arent good men and there is nothing about them that would turn their women on. Sometimes loading up some dishes or turning over the laundry is pretty sexy to us. Taking things off our plate is a huge step in the right direction towards us being available later that night for sex.

Rouge you are a very special woman.

Im not married and dont intend to but you have to me an amazing attitude towards sex and being in a relationship.

Im not sure if i can do you justice with this post but you have a great appreciation for things that i find inspiring.
A quality which i admire in people and in a woman.
If i could meet a woman with a similiar attitude to yourself id be a happy man and would do my utmost to cherish her.

 

[Kayden96]

and you choose to stay.

Not so much "choose" at this point.

Have to for the most part. I know I have the option of selling the house at a loss, but between my hours being cut, student loans, groceries... all that shit... I need her for, if nothing else, money.

I can't kick her out because I can't afford the house. I can't leave because she can't afford the house and I don't want to take the hit to my credit.

So, yeah, I know I'm a dumbass and all, but I'm looking for a better job and the right time to sell the house and not lose my shirt.

 

[Enid]

Maybe women are just pathetic leeches. The arguments regarding cleaning, grocery shopping, etc. etc blah blah are bunk. I clean way more than my messy girlfriend, work way harder at work considering all she does is wash dishes while I do construction shit, I'm much more attentive when it comes to the children and all she does is fucking party all the time like a moron.

Then I came to the stark realization in college that most girls my age can't cook, aren't clean, don't even shine bright in the darkest abyss, and all around are fucking worthless.

Fortunately for women society has pressed that the woman has essentially all sexual control, so their selfish absolutely abhorrent and worthless ways, along with a dead stereotype, seems to cover them all the time.

P.S. Females in general do not have to do anything during sexual intercourse. So if you're too tired, lay the fuck down and shut your goddamn mouth. He'll pull your legs apart for you, don't worry about it. Go to sleep even.

I'm a little confused. Your profile says you're 20 and you have both a live-in girlfriend and kids? And you've been to college too?

The little I've read from you before didn't seem so angry, in fact I'd say you seemed observant. This post seems very bitter though, perhaps you should consider ending your current relationship if it causes you this much grief.

 

[voyeuristic]

I relate to some of what you wrote, MR. I very, very rarely turn down requests for sex from my boyfriend - even if I don't start out feeling horny, it always excites me to see him aroused, and I'll invariably work up to it in a few minutes. I love having him inside my pussy, mouth, and ass and being able to bring him pleasure. One thing I need to work on is initiating more myself - I'm a textbook submissive in a lot of ways, and really prefer to have my partner make the first move. I ended up with a fellow submissive, though, so I'm trying to reprogram myself and find ways of asking for sex when I'm horny, even if he's not hard and I'm feeling discouraged. He's assured me that if I initiate, he'll usually be up for following through, so I need to try to do that more often.

One prevailing theme on this thread seems to be that everyone wants their partner to take time to re-connect with them, take their needs into account (emotional, physical, and practical), and make an effort to be the person they fell in love with. Not all of us give up on life once things turn serious - I still make every effort to make delicious desserts, exercise, and try new things in bed in the hopes of keeping things fresh. Granted, I'm not married, but I'd like to hope that if I were, that wouldn't change.

 

[HaroldZoid]

To: My Dear Wife,

You will surely understand that I have certain needs that you, being 54 yrs. old, can no longer satisfy. I am very happy with you and I value you as a good wife. Therefore, after reading this letter, I hope you will not wrongly interpret the fact that I will be spending the evening with my 18 yr. old secretary at the Comfort Inn Hotel. Please don't be upset.............I will be home before midnight. :wink:

When the man came home that night, he found the following note on the dining room table:

My Dear Husband,

I received your letter and thank you for your honesty about my being 54 yrs. old. I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that you are also 54 yrs. old. As you know, I am a math teacher at our local college. I would like to inform you that, as you read this, I will be at the Hotel Fiesta with Michael, one of my students, who is also the assistant tennis coach. He is young, virile and, like your secretary, is 18 yrs. old.

As a successful businessman, who has an excellent knowledge of math, you will understand that we are in the same situation, although with one small difference............18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18. Therefore, I will not be home until sometime tomorrow. :biggrin1:

lol.

 

[voyeuristic]

Ha! Good one Durban.

 

[invisibleman]

We don't even have kids and she's still aways tired, but she does usually cook.

It's still bullshit though. She gets home and sits on her laptop. I get home and ask her how her day was. She'll bitch about someone for 10 minutes and then go back to her laptap. I'll ask her if she wants to do something and she just says she's tired and goes back to her laptop. I'll ask her what's on her mind and she'll just grunt ... and go back to her laptop. She spends almost all her time on Craigslist looking for "friends" and reading yahoo news. She has a garden full of weeds she just HAD to have, but she never weeds it because she's "tired". However, the moment one of her girlfriends call, she's out the door with a bounce in her step.

After a few hours, she starts for bed and I'll try to kiss her on the neck or something and she'll pull away from me and give me the stink eye. "No, I'm not going to have sex with you. You only pay attention to me when you want sex!" And then she'll storm off to 'her room' in the basement. I sleep on the porch on a bean bag with my dog.

Fuck my life.

I feel for you. :frown1: You need a laptop, your own special room, and "dude nights out". It isn't fair that she gets those privileges and you don't.

 

[deleted356736]

I have read these 'no sex after a few years of marriage, regardless of having children or no children' posts online for a few years now. I have also had friends and work colleagues explore this situation with me. Given Australians are typically stoic, and given discussing no sex in a relationship is a very personal subject, for a man to open up on this to another man shows a depth of feeling. I think these men opened up to me because they probably sensed my sex life was good or great, and I loved my wife a lot, and they probably thought they could get the right sort of advice from me.

What could I say? By accident I married into a culture that treasures sex and doesn't believe in denying it? You married the wrong sort of woman? I could only go along with the line about helping out and being romantic and so on, knowing that those things don't make any difference. Witness the posting on the childless couple where she's too tired for sex, but not for using the laptop all night. This, unfortunately, is not the only example.

The declining sexual desire of women after four to five years is a well-known psychological issue, and a couple of studies have been undertaken in the recent past on this. The solution, apart from marrying a non-White, is to be better educated and earn significantly more than your partner, because in these relationships the sexual frequency generally remains high regardless of having children or not. It is theorised that the women in these relationships consider their man as a good catch, and use sex to keep other women at bay. In 'normal' relationships, women ration sex after a few years for reasons that have not been adequately explained. It was thought in the two studies that having found a mate to procreate with, women ration resources to keep their mate 'interested'. I don't find this a logical explanation, because it is the converse of the well-educated well-paid partner for reasons that aren't clear to me.

So I think all the postings about helping out and being romantic, and the advice I gave to the poor husbands in sexless relationships to do these things, don't help much. A minority of women feel sexual for lengthy period of times but the majority don't. There doesn't seem to be much that men can do about it other than have a double-degree and earn a six-figure salary, or marry a woman from a non-white culture, or both in my case.

 

[dolfette]

what a twat.

 

[voyeuristic]

Give me a break, cbrmale. As if all us caucasian women are a bunch of frigid prudes!

 

[dolfette]

Give me a break, cbrmale. As if all us caucasian women are a bunch of frigid prudes!

no, dear. you're only a prude until he can afford to buy you.

 

[Rubenesque]

Is he the same bellend who bangs on about white women being jealous that he married a black woman?

If so... why would we be jealous if we don't want to fuck anyway?

 

[deleted356736]

Is he the same bellend who bangs on about white women being jealous that he married a black woman?

If so... why would we be jealous if we don't want to fuck anyway?

That was someone else; there are a few of us who have stumbled across African women. Another guy dated a Zulu woman for a while, and his experience lines up with mine. I also know African men with African wives, and through these friendships I understand African sexual standards better.

As far as sex and the denial of sex goes, what I do know is that tragedy can strike at any time and we never know what the future holds or how much time we have. So one thing I would never, ever do is deny myself. So some of the poor men on this forum; I truly feel sorry for them. I feel sorry for my father who had a largely sexless marriage as many white men do, and then he died of cancer before he reached my age now. And clearly my father was from an older generation, two generations older than yours, and yet things were the same. Get married, have some sex, have some children, don't have sex anymore. This is the reason why I couldn't commit to the women I dated, because I had this deep fear...

Christianity is about denial, and even if we aren't Christian we are greatly influenced by the morals and values that are around us when we are raised, and almost all of these morals and values stem from Christianity.

Other cultures in the world aren't into denial; so it's here and now and (to some extent) let the future look after itself. And here and now includes love, romance, passion and sex.

 

[deleted356736]

Give me a break, cbrmale. As if all us caucasian women are a bunch of frigid prudes!

I actually quoted two psychological studies undertaken in Germany on this issue, so it's a studied issue that causes much grief and many relationship breakdowns, and one that psychologists are keen to understand for obvious reason. Clearly when discussing psychology we are talking a majority, and not each and every individual white woman in the world.

The preliminary study did have some overwhelming trends, which were in the order of around 70% of women in relationships after four or five years regardless of having children or not. Of the remaining 30-odd percent, the majority of those women fitted pattern two, which was the better educated / better paid partner or husband scenario, or a third pattern where they were apart for regular periods of time (such as being separated for short but regular bursts because of business travel).

Again, it goes without saying that not every relationship where the husband is better educated and better paid are very sexual, just a majority. And it goes without saying that not every relationship where the husband or wife does regular business travel is sexual either, just a majority.

 

[dolfette]

and can you provide links to the source?
these studies are always so amusing.

 

[deleted356736]

No links, I read the studies in hard copy, and reading the results rather than the abstract would be difficult without a background in statistics. Something I do have, given I studied social and anthropological psychology as an adjunct to my commerce degree. Indeed, I did a thesis on Western-Christian influences on sex, but I digress. Actually I don't digress, because studies on how sex is impacted by social conventions have always interested me. This is typed from the abstract of the preliminary study.

Female libido declines rapidly when in a secure relationship, so that after just four years the proportion of 30-year-old women wanting regular sex falls below 50 percent, and this continues to decline to 20 percent. Few things are able to keep a woman sexually interested, but living apart for extended periods can help.

The findings for women contrast with those for men, whose desire for sexual did not noticeably decline at up to 40 years after marriage.

Women whose husbands or boyfriends have higher educational qualifications than their own also maintain their sex drive. It is speculated that such men are regarded as a "valuable mate of choice" by other women.

The initial study was 500 couples only, the final study was 4851 couples, and gave similar results and percentages.

As regards me, I was always proud of our strong and healthy sex life, which I assumed was proof that I was a romantically wonderful husband. As it turns out, what I have is due to the culture of the person I married, possibly amplified by my qualifications (double-degree and post-graduate).

 

[D_lkjhgfdsa1234]

There are more brothels for men in Germany and Brazil than there are brothels geared towards women. Why? Men's sexual libido is still strong after 40 while women stop having sex after marriage. I have spoken to many guys in the brothel and they say the same thing. Some are still married and have full permission of their wives, some are divorced because of the lack of sex and understanding. You can't control and turn off millions of years of programmed carnal desires just because the clergy tells you to do so. It doesn't work that way. I'm not saying it is just the women but some men stop having sex after a certain age also because of impotence and reduction of testosterone.
Brothels are the best solutions to save marriages like this and prevent them from ending in a divorce. Germany has many clubs called the FKK clubs (Frau Korpus Kultur). For guys, there are also a lot of erotic escort services you can google. For ladies (and gay men) you can go to rentboy.com which is one of the few male escort sites.