married women not having sex anymore

[Tattooed Goddess]

There are more brothels for men in Germany and Brazil than there are brothels geared towards women. Why? Men's sexual libido is still strong after 40 while women stop having sex after marriage. I have spoken to many guys in the brothel and they say the same thing. Some are still married and have full permission of their wives, some are divorced because of the lack of sex and understanding. You can't control and turn off millions of years of programmed carnal desires just because the clergy tells you to do so. It doesn't work that way. I'm not saying it is just the women but some men stop having sex after a certain age also because of genetics.
Brothels are the best solutions to save marriages like this and prevent them from ending in a divorce. Germany has many clubs called the FKK clubs (Frau Korpus Kultur). For guys, there are also a lot of erotic escort services you can google. For ladies (and gay men) you can go to rentboy.com which is one of the few male escort sites.

Get ready for a whole army of people to blast you for saying that. I have seen that many societies over the centuries have had places for married men to go for sex with full consent of their wives in order to "take care of the overwhelming urge"

There have been stories about a woman getting pregnant, not feeling up to sex and totally giving their man permission to have sex elsewhere- as long as he doesnt hit her up for sex thats all that matters.

I've spoken to many married men who claim their (strangely) over-bearing, jealous wives have said "Go fuck someone else" because they have zero sex drive. And many more married women have been aware of an affair going on or something more like a frequent one-night-stands happening.

Strip clubs of men dancing for women are really unheardof because we cant be fooled or bought with nudity as easily. Same goes for porn. This is no surprise. Women on the whole have been portrayed as not being as driven to have sex or orgasms. This is not a conspiracy, its just commonplace.

Women are notorious for not being sexually stimulated by the visuals as much as men. Or else we'd have the market cornered on porn for women and not men. Most ladies on this website don't fit the "normal" sexual stereotype. But also on the same note, if a faker comes on the board trying to portray himself as a female, we sense it immediately because the sexual descriptions usually sound more like a mans perspective.

Whorehouses, strip clubs, prostitutes on the street, concubines, polygamy all suggests male sex drives being stronger on the whole throughout all decades of ones life.

 

[Drifterwood]

If it takes two to have good sex, it's probably fair to assume that it takes two to have bad sex.

It's worth remembering that in a UK wide survey (sorry it was a few years ago and I can't remember who conducted it, but it got a lot of press), 90% of women reported that they were satisfied with their sex lives. This may of course just show that these women were controling their sex lives which might have been zero.

Symphonic has a point, though his emotion made him rant somewhat. The danger in a post feminist culture is that you might think that you should not do things that are "expected of a woman", whilst still expecting things from a man. The failure of expectation breeds resentment in both partners.

And can we please move away from this sugar and spice and all things nice horse manure. To listen to some of you, you would think that all women under 45 were still cordon bleu cooks, wonderfully clean and tidy, holding down a CEO job, pumping out four kids and the best fuck in the world. Hell, most of you can't even remove a spider from the bath tub.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I can remove spiders from the tub, but i cant pay the mortgage, as for being a good cook, im superb. But i really hate to take out the trash, so uhm....stick that paradox in your pipe.

 

[Principessa]

There are more brothels for men in Germany and Brazil than there are brothels geared towards women. Why?

Because most women have standards and need an emotional connection. Men are whores who will fuck anything with a hole.:tongue:

Men's sexual libido is still strong after 40 while women stop having sex after marriage.

Where do you get this crazy, twisted, and totally wrong information? If mens libidos were so strong after 40 they never would have invented Viagara and Cialis. :duh:
Women who stop having sex after marriage always have a good reason. A lot of men let themselves go after marriage and expect us to be happy to have their sweaty Dom De Louise looking belly bouncing off us. NOT!

I have spoken to many guys in the brothel and they say the same thing. Some are still married and have full permission of their wives, some are divorced because of the lack of sex and understanding.

If you get so fat after marriage that you can't see your dick, we don't want to see you naked.

You can't control and turn off millions of years of programmed carnal desires just because the clergy tells you to do so. It doesn't work that way. I'm not saying it is just the women but some men stop having sex after a certain age also because of impotence and reduction of testosterone.

This statement completely contradicts what you said in the 2nd sentence about men over 40 having strong libidos. :tongue:

Brothels are the best solutions to save marriages like this and prevent them from ending in a divorce. Germany has many clubs called the FKK clubs (Frau Korpus Kultur). For guys, there are also a lot of erotic escort services you can google. For ladies (and gay men) you can go to rentboy.com which is one of the few male escort sites.[/QUOTE] :261: Cheating is not a viable option for divorce!

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I think a lot of women would expect a man not in the mood to fuck them regardless, but she wouldnt give him the same respect. Let's face it, a lot of married women just wouldnt go out of their way for the man they married, why, because many pick horrible men to marry and then withold sex from them. Or if they saw those big red flags, they ignored them anyway and then naturally we cant fuck when we are angry. So we are angry 24/7 with that asshole we married and then we have a sexless horrible marriage. I know many who picked horrible husbands to not fuck.

Women dont need any reason to avoid sex if they arent horny. Many prefer a migraine over an orgasm.

And NJ, not all women need a reason to stop fucking. Maybe you would have a reason for it. But dont compare yourself to every other woman in the world. You love sex, lots of it and anal sex at that. The women here are not anything like the norm in the sex department. These guys are talking about women who wouldnt register at lpsg and they wouldnt even tell their women about lpsg. Think about those women and what they are like to be married to.

As for weight gain, women take the CAKE on weight gain after marriage and children. Often times a man would still have sex with his morbidly obese wife even though she was a thin woman when he married her. Next thing you know her health problems and depression make her sex drive go away and her man starts jacking off in the shower every morning for any sexual pleasure.

 

[Drifterwood]

You are always so subjective MR.

I have total sympathy for many women. Our economic model is now based upon double income households. Having both partners stressed and tired by work is compounded by the need to look after a home and kids. It sucks and it is hardly surprising that surveys should show that couples who are relieved of these burdens, by lifestyle choice or wealth, have better sex lives.

For the record, my experience of sexless marriage comes from the married women I am having or have had affairs with, because their husbands have switched off the sex and empathy tap.

 

[polesmoker]

Women who don't fuck their husbands for whatever reason should know there are plenty of women out there who will.

 

[dolfette]

No links, I read the studies in hard copy, and reading the results rather than the abstract would be difficult without a background in statistics. Something I do have, given I studied social and anthropological psychology as an adjunct to my commerce degree. Indeed, I did a thesis on Western-Christian influences on sex, but I digress. Actually I don't digress, because studies on how sex is impacted by social conventions have always interested me. This is typed from the abstract of the preliminary study.

so...
you don't name the study/researchers.
you don't provide the actual results, because nobody but you would understand those tricky, tricky numbers.
you don't give any indication as to the method of evidence gathering.

but we're supposed to take it all as fact, just because you say so...

 

[dolfette]

So we are angry 24/7 with that asshole we married and then we have a sexless horrible marriage. I know many who picked horrible husbands to not fuck.

my ex was wonderful until i was having his child.
a magical overnight transformation.
he doesn't have kids with his new wife, and his relationship with her is how it was with me pre-kids.

it still confuses me. and when they talk about having kids together, i seriously worry that history will repeat. but as far as she knows right now, she's married to mr wonderful...and it's not my place to warn her not to breed.

like the guys who married sex pots only for them to turn cold fish.
sometimes there's stupidity & ignoring of signals.
sometimes people just change.

 

[invisibleman]

Because most women have standards and need an emotional connection. Men are whores who will fuck anything with a hole.:tongue:

You watched THE ONION MOVIE, didn't you?:biggrin1:

Women who stop having sex after marriage always have a good reason. A lot of men let themselves go after marriage and expect us to be happy to have their sweaty Dom De Louise looking belly bouncing off us. NOT!
If you get so fat after marriage that you can't see your dick, we don't want to see you naked.

Yeah, if you are married to a fat guy. You are going to see some naked fat body unless you are blind, then you will be feeling some fat manly body. You have papers.

Hey, there are women that get fat as well. Men deal with having fat wives. And some are happy fucking their wives no matter firm or SNUGGLE fluffy cloud soft.

This statement completely contradicts what you said in the 2nd sentence about men over 40 having strong libidos. :tongue:

Brothels are the best solutions to save marriages like this and prevent them from ending in a divorce. Germany has many clubs called the FKK clubs (Frau Korpus Kultur). For guys, there are also a lot of erotic escort services you can google. For ladies (and gay men) you can go to rentboy.com which is one of the few male escort sites.[/QUOTE] :261: Cheating is not a viable option for divorce!

Well, you have to consider this NJ: one if you aren't getting your sexual needs from your spouse for whatever reason. You have a partner that is horny and you aren't having sex with him...well...<light sarcasm>"he is going to fuck anything with a hole because we (MEN) are whores"</light sarcasm>.

Why bother getting married if you aren't getting your sexual needs taken care of? I wouldn't want a sexless (gay) marriage or date a man that isn't interested in having sex regularly. Sex is the best thing.

 

[invisibleman]

Women who don't fuck their husbands for whatever reason should know there are plenty of women out there who will.

And don't hate the husbands that do fuck those available women either.

The only reason to hate a husband is when you do fuck him regularly and he STILL cheated on you with other women. AND even more reason to hate him if he EXPECTS you to be devoted to him after he got caught.

 

[invisibleman]

As for weight gain, women take the CAKE on weight gain after marriage and children.

Often times a man would still have sex with his morbidly obese wife even though she was a thin woman when he married her.

Power to that man who loves his wife enough to have sex in that situation. That is love right there.

Next thing you know her health problems and depression make her sex drive go away and her man starts jacking off in the shower every morning for any sexual pleasure.

Wow. I feel for them both.

 

[Ed69]

Women who don't fuck their husbands for whatever reason should know there are plenty of women out there who will.

My mother would have been much happier if she had understood this.She divorced 2 men because she caught them getting bj's from women that would do it.Now mom is in her late 70's and does not understand why she lives alone.

 

[korinaus]

Given Australians are typically stoic,

Does it hold true in comtemporary Australia? I don't know, maybe my observation is superficial but it seems Australians, especially young ones, are far from being stoic when it comes to sex.

 

[Symphonic]

Symphonic your got some anger issues there bro:smile:
Maybe some abandonment issues?

No, but a lot of mythology and stereotypical thinking irks me. I actually kind of laughed when NJQT posted nonsense about mothers doing everything and whatnot when in a relationship if it's anything near standard and sensible, unlike what we have in the media, everyone does everything as necessary.

I still don't understand how I can be less tired than some people who do little to nothing at their jobs, in their homes ( sans making them messy to begin with ), and in their thought processes ( yes, I am saying some people don't think hard enough to even come to the simplest of epiphanies )...

Though I've met my fair share of hard-working women too, just trying to agree with the OP.

 

[TroMag]

Female libido declines rapidly when in a secure relationship, so that after just four years the proportion of 30-year-old women wanting regular sex falls below 50 percent, and this continues to decline to 20 percent. Few things are able to keep a woman sexually interested, but living apart for extended periods can help.

cbr, have you seen similar studies conducted using non-Western participants?

Here's an interesting site: NoMarriage

 

[Kayden96]

Because most women have standards and need an emotional connection. Men are whores who will fuck anything with a hole.:tongue:

Where do you get this crazy, twisted, and totally wrong information? If mens libidos were so strong after 40 they never would have invented Viagara and Cialis. :duh:
Women who stop having sex after marriage always have a good reason. A lot of men let themselves go after marriage and expect us to be happy to have their sweaty Dom De Louise looking belly bouncing off us. NOT!
If you get so fat after marriage that you can't see your dick, we don't want to see you naked.

This statement completely contradicts what you said in the 2nd sentence about men over 40 having strong libidos. :tongue:
:261: Cheating is not a viable option for divorce!

You really are a worthless human being.
Everything must always be the mans fault. After all, women are such intelligent, higher level creatures, they couldn't ever possibly be the cause of any problems.

Maybe viagra and cialis were invented because men became sick of fucking the same fat, bloated, pmsing, nagging harpy for the past 4 decades? He'll, even if it's because men are as deficient as you seem to belive, most men still don't need help until 50-60+. That's DECADES after marraige. A women is sexually useless after 4 years, if that. Yeah, yeah, there's four of you on a website dedicated to big dicks that still enjoy sex. What an odd coicidence, yea?

In my relationship, my GF has let herself go. I'm in better shape that when we met. I still try to have sex with her. And no, it's not because I fuck anything with a hole. It's because I used to value our intimacy and want to have what we used to. If I was going to fuck anything with legs, I'd pick a lot easier mark.

The women on this site like you make me sick. You're judgemental and cynical hags that blame men at every turn. Your on a men's website where men want to talk with men about male issues. Your idea of a constuctive answer is 'Maybe she'd fuck you if you weren't fat and worthless?' Honestly? All you have to bring to the table is girl power bullshit?

I don't know if you can believe this, but guys actually do have feelings. We enjoy sharing bodies with our partners, we value the physical and emotional intimacy, and we do feel hurt and insecure when someone that supposedly loved us no longer seeks our affection.

Just because you fucked some guy in highschool and he ditched you doesn't mean all men are galavanting about looking for as many places to stick their dicks as they can find. If you can't offer more helpful advice than, "lol, ur a man, ofcorse ur dum, its all ur fault!" then just shut the fuck up and turn of your computer.

 

[deleted15807]

There is a long long blog about the subject in the NY Times. Apparently it's pretty common and creates lots of angst.

When Sex Leaves the Marriage - Well Blog - NYTimes.com

 

[Incocknito]

Married women are having sex. Just not with their husbands :tongue:

 

[TroMag]

In my relationship, my GF has let herself go.

I bet she gets back into shape when you finally break up with her.