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married women not having sex anymore
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Indeed.
I've read this thread a few times and given my 2 cents.
There's always two sides to every story. However much I think I may like someone here, I remind myself to wonder what their other half would have said.
A lot of times I think people stop having sex because they just don't do it for each other anymore, or one partner thinks that. And then, I think they actually want to drive the other person away, to cheat, so they can take the moral high ground and feel justified that it wasn't their fault that the marriage failed. But it was, in part, at least.
But really, they are the cheats. They broke the deal first.
I've read this thread a few times and given my 2 cents.
There's always two sides to every story. However much I think I may like someone here, I remind myself to wonder what their other half would have said.
A lot of times I think people stop having sex because they just don't do it for each other anymore, or one partner thinks that. And then, I think they actually want to drive the other person away, to cheat, so they can take the moral high ground and feel justified that it wasn't their fault that the marriage failed. But it was, in part, at least.
But really, they are the cheats. They broke the deal first.
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The excitement wears off, the newness wears off. He's having to put up with her bitching and she's cleaning up the urine around the toilet. To sum it all up, resentment, monotony, mundane day after day shit we all have to put up with from the other person. It all explains why sex isnt the first thing you think about doing when you are around each other.
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Hmmmm...i dont feel like im brain dead or that someone else has ruined my life. I enjoy being married actually, but i think it makes a huge difference to pick a person you are very compatable with on the important things in life.
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I would say it more like....if you arent pissed off at one another about everything else that goes on in your marriage because its going pretty smoothly most days, you are likely to not mind having sex with that person when they want to, vice versa.
Amazing how a bitch can come onto a site devoted to big cocks and blast men while claiming that they work harder and have "suffered" more. Amazing. Et tu Brutu?
Why not try another site you Trojan Horses.
Why not try another site you Trojan Horses.
Feminism isn't just for women. It addresses the cultural prejudices that are damaging to all sexes in our male/female dichotomy (And, anyone who thinks Feminism is about rotating the privileged term in that dichotomy doesn't know shit about Feminism). Cultural prejudices that include the idea that housework is not work at all, or is some kind of younger sibling to work. I'm empathetic to the men in this thread that have lazy partners (I guess I can give you the benefit of that doubt), but forgive me if I'm not ready to march under your banner, as housework has been shackled to women long enough.
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Ditto. And I've got a dick.
Isn't it funny how opinionated women are "bitches" or "shrill". I like feminists, I think they give the best head and have the most orgasms. I don't mind someone who wants to play sexually submissive but truly submissive "old-fashioned" girls always seem less fun in the sack than assertive ones.
Isn't it funny how opinionated women are "bitches" or "shrill". I like feminists, I think they give the best head and have the most orgasms. I don't mind someone who wants to play sexually submissive but truly submissive "old-fashioned" girls always seem less fun in the sack than assertive ones.
Oh, totally! It's not like marriage hasn't been a tool to control female sexuality. Spousal rape isn't recognized in many countries and is an iffy deal even in America. I'm thinking marriage has been a pretty sweet ride for men thus far. Stop acting as if your (totally erroneous) right to the body of your wife is being infringed upon.
From someone older who can remember the world pre-feminism, feminism was one of the best things that happened to men. Pre-feminism, when a woman got married she was sacked. No ifs or buts, stay-at-home neurotic housewife. This is just one example of the way things were until very recent times.
These days, things are truly different. The best conversations my wife and I have are about our respective jobs and careers, and helping one-another out with problems. We communicate as equals, we live as equals, and we have a fantastic sex life where we alternate who takes the lead and who doesn't. In my father's time, it would have been like having sex with a starfish, legs spread. Now it's all about mutual pleasure, her orgasm, she getting on top and you caught up in her pleasure. Or me taking the lead, as things go.
I think most younger women understand that men and women are different and that some of the seventies and eighties feminists went too far. Indeed, I appeared on nation-wide television here on this very subject, but I degress. Feminism was a learning experience at the time, and now it's evolved into something that's still not quite right but much better than what went before.
As for married women not wanting much sex, feminism didn't cause this. My parents hardly had any sex because my father told me my mother didn't like it (no surprises there). Pre-feminism, married and no sex. I know of other couples in this age group who rarely got it on, so the getting married and not enough sex has been around for a long time.
Some couples marry and have great sex lives over the decades, most don't, so I suspect there are a number of reasons why it doesn't work out. One I feel is that too many couples have 'friendship' love rather than both friendship and erotic attraction. If you don't know erotic attraction, it's easy to be fooled by someone you think is your soulmate, and it's easy for that person to be fooled as well. But when you strike a more fuller type of love, you really DO recognise it. When I met my now wife, and it was a short time we spent together too, from the moment we sat down and talked I sensed her sexual attraction towards me like nothing I'd ever experienced before. It was so powerful, this force that enveloped me, it was like I could have held it in my hands. I'd been with sexual women before, but never, ever had I come across anything like this. Did any of the married men here experience such a thing? Wrap up some really good compatibilities in terms of what we like, what we don't like, and our personalities, and you've got perfect love. And maybe all these things, including that erotic attraction, has a lot to do with our perfect sex life.
We can marry many different people in the world, but I suspect that the perfect love; compatibility, friendship and erotic attraction, may only cross our paths once or twice in a lifetime.
These days, things are truly different. The best conversations my wife and I have are about our respective jobs and careers, and helping one-another out with problems. We communicate as equals, we live as equals, and we have a fantastic sex life where we alternate who takes the lead and who doesn't. In my father's time, it would have been like having sex with a starfish, legs spread. Now it's all about mutual pleasure, her orgasm, she getting on top and you caught up in her pleasure. Or me taking the lead, as things go.
I think most younger women understand that men and women are different and that some of the seventies and eighties feminists went too far. Indeed, I appeared on nation-wide television here on this very subject, but I degress. Feminism was a learning experience at the time, and now it's evolved into something that's still not quite right but much better than what went before.
As for married women not wanting much sex, feminism didn't cause this. My parents hardly had any sex because my father told me my mother didn't like it (no surprises there). Pre-feminism, married and no sex. I know of other couples in this age group who rarely got it on, so the getting married and not enough sex has been around for a long time.
Some couples marry and have great sex lives over the decades, most don't, so I suspect there are a number of reasons why it doesn't work out. One I feel is that too many couples have 'friendship' love rather than both friendship and erotic attraction. If you don't know erotic attraction, it's easy to be fooled by someone you think is your soulmate, and it's easy for that person to be fooled as well. But when you strike a more fuller type of love, you really DO recognise it. When I met my now wife, and it was a short time we spent together too, from the moment we sat down and talked I sensed her sexual attraction towards me like nothing I'd ever experienced before. It was so powerful, this force that enveloped me, it was like I could have held it in my hands. I'd been with sexual women before, but never, ever had I come across anything like this. Did any of the married men here experience such a thing? Wrap up some really good compatibilities in terms of what we like, what we don't like, and our personalities, and you've got perfect love. And maybe all these things, including that erotic attraction, has a lot to do with our perfect sex life.
We can marry many different people in the world, but I suspect that the perfect love; compatibility, friendship and erotic attraction, may only cross our paths once or twice in a lifetime.
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This is really a mysterious area. I saw a report on nbc years ago by jim avila based partly on the 2000 census. He reported on a study released by the university of chicago called sex in america. The study concluded many couples hadn't had sexual relations in years and many women for a number of reasons were becoming single as they aged. It also concluded that the average sex live of the america woman ends prematurely at age 50. This is also true for european women.
There are many reasons. Its known that 40 percent or so of americans will suffer from heart disease. Its estimated that 20-25 million men are impotent. I don't know where sex is on the scale if you're worried about a stroke or heart attack. But something else i heard on a news report years ago puzzled me. It reported that 35 percent of females dislike sex. If i remember they asked a female from ucsf i believe { uc san francisco medical school } and she said she thought that figure was low. Its possible that 40-50% of females don't like sex which would partly explain why some couples don't have sex if its true.
I grew up in san francisco. I never thought of it as a world class city. I think its slowly becoming one with tourists from all over the world having one big party there. When i walk the streets of sf i think of three sights i see regularly. The lost souls. The people looking at maps of sf. And older men with snow white hair with younger and in some case much younger females. I don't think they're all millionaires. I don't see the opposite. And sf is filled with 200 massage palors , strip clubs where you can have sex with the strippers. And that's just the beginning. Who's keeping 200 massage palors open ? My point is that men have far much sexual options than females but i guess everyone knows that.
There are many reasons. Its known that 40 percent or so of americans will suffer from heart disease. Its estimated that 20-25 million men are impotent. I don't know where sex is on the scale if you're worried about a stroke or heart attack. But something else i heard on a news report years ago puzzled me. It reported that 35 percent of females dislike sex. If i remember they asked a female from ucsf i believe { uc san francisco medical school } and she said she thought that figure was low. Its possible that 40-50% of females don't like sex which would partly explain why some couples don't have sex if its true.
I grew up in san francisco. I never thought of it as a world class city. I think its slowly becoming one with tourists from all over the world having one big party there. When i walk the streets of sf i think of three sights i see regularly. The lost souls. The people looking at maps of sf. And older men with snow white hair with younger and in some case much younger females. I don't think they're all millionaires. I don't see the opposite. And sf is filled with 200 massage palors , strip clubs where you can have sex with the strippers. And that's just the beginning. Who's keeping 200 massage palors open ? My point is that men have far much sexual options than females but i guess everyone knows that.
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