There are many reasons people cheat on their spouses. It is difficult to make judgements without knowing everything involved. Years ago, I would have thought that cheating is bad. Because my marriage has become a sexual wasteland, I cheated. I'd still rather not be going in that direction, but I made a recent decision that I didn't want to continue life as a frustrated celibate. I love my wife and the marriage is great otherwise (yes, that is possible!) In response to your question, I would prefer a relationship with a married woman. It is probable that she is as sexually frustrated as I am (which may translate to some very hot sex) and is also determined to keep the relationship discrete. It is also comforting to know that she will return to another person who can give her the time, emotional support and love that my situation would inhibit. While I understand that much of this is self-serving, life doesn't always present your with the best of choices.