People are usually surprised to find that I'm bisexual -- because I'm masculine. I am surprised that people are surprised that a masculine guy would be bisexual -- because I thought that men who are gay or bisexual are gay or bisexual because they like men, that is, masculine people. At what point did the perception come about that gay or bisexual men have to be effeminate? I can't relate to that at all. Maybe in the LGBT community I am what would be considered "butch." I am attracted to other males who are masculine because I love masculinity. I love maleness. I sometimes feel that I must really confuse people. I think that I could easily blend into a crowd of straight guys. And, in fact, I sometimes get hassled at gay clubs by bouncers because I don't "look" gay to them. This always shocks me. How do you "look" gay? Masculinity - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia NOTE: Please no one make this a "flame thread" again, okay? If you're an effeminate gay man, God bless you. Okay? If you're a masculine gay or bisexual man, the same.... I don't think anyone is better than anyone else. Just different. That's all. Please keep the drama out of this thread. Thanks!