Masculinity and the Penis

[nervousvirgin]

It's taken me many years to finally except that men with large cocks come off as more masculine than those with smaller cocks. I mean look at the two pics below and decide which man is more masculine.

Large Penis.jpg Small Penis.jpg


If you hadn't seen the first picture the second one might seem decent enough but you don't get the instant feeling of masculinity and sexuality as with the first picture. I guess some men are just more luck than others.


Your thoughts...

 

[earllogjam]

I like the smaller penis picture. Looks more fitting and comfortable. Looks like it can maintain an erection for a long time. I think masculinity can be overrated. Look how sexy Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenagger, and Hulk Hogan are. Yeah... not very. I think Anderson Cooper is hot but he is thin and petite. Tom Cruise is very short. And sex symbols like Brad Pitt have average endowments. Whatever floats your boat.

Your avatar is hypnotic.

 

[Duality]

What the shit is this? The first pic is doctored, not as obviously as the 2nd, but it's altered just the same. On top of that, it's a fucking porno picture. You think they're gonna ask the girl to come back for another photo shoot if she's frowning in all the pictures!?

The porno industry preys off your [SIZE=-1]sullen demeanor[/SIZE]. They want you to look at that and be envious. It keeps you coming back for more, staring at a computer screen for sex instead of getting the real thing out in public. That keeps them in business.

"Men with large cocks come off as more masculine than those with smaller cocks" How many men with (confirmable) large cocks have you even met in your life? Last I checked, walking around in public, at school, at your job without pants is illegal. Most of the masculine guys you've met in your life weren't huge down there (fact).

Are you worried about what a girl who's been with a guy that big is gonna think when she sees you? Let me let you in on a little secret: the first time you see each other naked, she's gonna be scared too. She won't know what else you've seen (even if you're a virgin it's obvious you've been looking at all sorts of naked girls on the net), so she'll be worried if she 'adds up' too. The insecurity is part of the game, unfortunately.

Avoiding some of the female populace here, who are more likely to admit a size preference (which is their right, this is the Large Penis Support Group after all), most in the real world don't care. They don't, for serious! The amazing thing about a woman's body is that it's designed to receive pleasure in a whole multitude of ways. Many of those ways aren't affected at all by a whopping inch or two of extra flesh 'down there'. The thing is, they're not stupid. They know how important penis size is to us. They'll say it's big to make us happy, and small to make us pissed. Treat a woman right and she won't put you down.

I'm 'big' down there. Go here to get a glimpse at how awesome my childhood was. I haven't had sex in years. Wow, being big really helped there too. I guess I just wasn't there when they told us big guys how lucky we are. I could bitch about my life a bunch more, but I'll stop now.

Is a bigger cock more appealing visually? Yeah, maybe it is. But it's out of our control. Why are you beating yourself up over something you can't change? Do you spend this much time fussing over your height? Your eye color? Maybe you need another hobby, to keep your mind occupied by things more important that this. :biggrin1:

 

[liberalcynic]

there is a reason for this, self esteem, a guy with 4" is going to self crap knowing that the organ which define's he's manhood is only half the size of a guy who is 8".
what do men have? a penis, simply the bigger the more masculine people act do to self esteem. what i have stated is a form of phycoanalisis, it doesn't apply in all case beacause it's phycology; each person is different. Sigmund Freud wrote 2 noteable works in he's life; one of them the three essays on sexuality reverlutionised the way we think about sexuality. he aslo claimed that girls are envious of males and seek a penis so they are attracted to their fathers, and "hate" their mothers because they being female have a penis through their husbands. he also was a cocaine adict, which fueled his ideas, and lead us finally in the 1960s! that homosexuality was not a mental illness (which it was classifed from 1850s-1960s)

 

[HazelGod]

(...yawn...)

 

[liberalcynic]

the cocaine adict who died 100 years again was right, we really should listen to more cocaine adicts. Freud was always right. a larger penis, the organ which defines the male sex, phycologically equates to a more masculine mind; in general.

 

[TripodMillenium]

There are, indeed, a lot of people who automatically associate dick size with masculinity. That makes it obvious, however, just how TERRIBLY DEEP they are.


I dunno about such people.... I just can't bring myself to look at penis size as being something separate from masculinity. Maybe I'm weird, but I just gotta think it has everything to do with how a guy thinks and behaves, instead of what he's packing. :wink:


Besides.... I've met my fair share of small-cocked masculine guys and meek or girly hung guys... So I can't help but thinking there just might be something to my philosophy, here. :wink:

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

Maculinity comes from within. The size of the penis doesn't mean anything about the manliness. Macho ranks right up there with penis size. In my experience, the big macho guys are real wusses when it comes to putting it all on the line in tough emotional situations. If they can't physically fight their way out, their cajones will float.

 

[liberalcynic]

we are forgeting that masculinity is not determined just on the notion which males are masculine idea; but the idea that a majority males act in a certain way in each culture which is considered masculine.
In 19th century France, Germany, and to a lesser extent the USA, men wore frilly hats and dresses in the upper classes, now it is considered feminine.
In the 1950s Italian men were considered masculine to wear Stilettos and no female was alowed to were then at the Milan fashion shows but, in the 1960s it swapped, Stilettos wears had become feminie.
what is masculine?
In Roman mythology, Mutinus, was a minor rustic fertility god of purely phallic character, protector of livestock, fruit plants, gardens and male genitalia. Beacause of his overly large penis, no woman would sleep with him, and if women, or little boys for that matter broke certain laws he would rape them. a large penis was not considered masculine 2000 years ago, and Michelengelo's David, has a tiny little thing, too small to call a penis, so obviously during 1501 and 1504 huge penii was not masculine on a man who was 17 feet tall.

 

[forbiddensociety]

It's taken me many years to finally except that men with large cocks come off as more masculine than those with smaller cocks. I mean look at the two pics below and decide which man is more masculine.

Large Penis.jpg Small Penis.jpg


If you hadn't seen the first picture the second one might seem decent enough but you don't get the instant feeling of masculinity and sexuality as with the first picture. I guess some men are just more luck than others.


Your thoughts...

It's all how you portray and see yourself. Some guys may "feel" more masculine because they're bigger but if they don't know how to use the monster haha, what good is it? It's not always the size of ship, you gotta factor in the motion of that ocean haha. I can see your reason for concern in a sense but, it's all how you feel about yourself. Don't worry about everyone else and how big they are. I've come up with a motto:

"If you want a 12 inch, go to Subway" :fing02:

Not everyone is going to be huge. I myself don't think I'm big or anything but I've been told otherwise. It's all about self confidence. Don't worry about modeling yourself next to porn stars. I may not think I'm big man but I know a certain someone who will more than disagree and be a very happy lady :wink:

Don't fret over it. In my opinion man, you're doing quite well for yourself size wise. As long as you're happy with it, that's all that matters.

-Chris

 

[B_theOtherJJ]

So typical, we are always trying to put LABELS on things. I have seen VERY feminine, gay men who have had HUGE dicks, and VERY masculine looking men with small ones. It IS what it IS.. Each person is unique with his own personality. If he has size, it only adds to his persona. But I suppose its all in your own perception of things?

 

[HotBulge]

How do you account for wrestlers and bodybuilders who seem to have small if not shrivelled dicks? (Especially the bodybuilders who take steriods, having the adverse effect of shrinking their genitalia?). In contrast, some of the tally , lanky guys that you see walking around the street have long schongs? Withn our superficial labels, we would stereotypically label the body builder as being more masculine than the tall, lanky guy, even though the muscle guy's dick is much smaller.

I think you are confusing notions of masculinity with notions of virility. (Even with virility, there is no correspondence between penis size and virility).

 

[invisibleman]

Penis size doesn't make you more masculine. I know some fellas with big cocks yet are not very masculine. I have met some fellas that were very masculine and had "gherkin" sized weenies but they had big balls. Strange?

I know a REALLY attractive married guy. I wish that I could hit that one. He is good lookin'. He is VERY masculine and he has micro penis and raisinette balls. (IT HAS TO BE A GROWER.)
He is very masculine though. He doesn't take any shit off of anyone either. He has 4 kids.

:smile:
Everybody is NOT getting ready to fuck Tom Cruise or Sharon Stone okay? Hollywood plays on fantasy, you should know. Hollywood isn't big on showing much penis on the screen either.

Life isn't fair--true. But if you believe that having a big cock equals masculinity. You are really misled. But you are entitled to your opinion. That is like saying that a women with big Dolly Parton/Candy Samples breasts are more feminine than say Glenn Close's or Meryl Streep's breasts. :smile:

I think that you have two "Masculinity and the Penis" threads.

 

[liberalcynic]

Virvility and masculinity are historically linked but, what we percive as masculinity is based on culture. And culture changes masuclinity. the action that men take( the way we act) makes the person seem to uphold the notion of Virvility or Muliebrity. we must phychologically analisis people to understand this; i belive acting more masculine and being heterosexual at the same time is dictated by self esteem. as i said earlier a man with a 8" cock is more likely to have higher self esteem than a guy with a 4" penic.

 

[invisibleman]

]Virvility and masculinity are historically linked but, what we percive as masculinity is based on culture.[/B] And culture changes masuclinity. the action that men take( the way we act) makes the person seem to uphold the notion of Virvility or Muliebrity. we must phychologically analisis people to understand this; i belive acting more masculine and being heterosexual at the same time is dictated by self esteem. as i said earlier a man with a 8" cock is more likely to have higher self esteem than a guy with a 4" penic.

Yeah right, higher self-esteem. This is Large Penis Support Group.

A man with a big dick doesn't make him a great person, though. Masculinity should NEVER be limited to one's cock size. Masculinity should be open. After all, femininity isn't all big breasted women and J-Lo booty.

 

[Bbucko]

My opinion is that there is something about smaller penises that I just find endearing and erotic. Given a choice, I'll take a gherkin over an anaconda anyday.

I'm not here because I like large penises, I'm here because I have a large(r) penis. Small-hung uncut guys send me into orbit.

Call me weird...

 

[Wave]

Dear Nervous Virgin..

You posted this query several days ago and perhaps you've had your fill of answers by now. I sure can't speak for anybody but myself, but i CAN tell you about a few patterns i have observed about human nature/guy nature/male sexuality and psychology. And i'll put it all in bullet-points cuz here's to micro-fiction...

*Many great points have been made concerning this thread, particularly Duality, Tripod Millenium, and Liberal Cynic's comments.

*It doesn't matter how large your unit is if you don't feel good about yourself and if you have dammaged masculinity. Body-building, expensive or fast cars, fine clothes, big cocks.....if your esteem is dammaged, these acoutrements to life will do nothing for you. and if your esteem is fine, they're not necessary.

*think of all the famous heroes and warriors and statesmen and explorers and entertainers of History - from Charles Lindbergh and Thomas Jefferson to Marco Polo and Commodore Perry. (i know, i know, what an odd list!) we have no idea what their measurements were, and once you're dead and buried, that small appendage shrivels up and wilts away into dust, leaving no remnant. Life seems to be teslling us something there about what's important.

*masculinity is about bravery and courage and heart and guts and soul....overcoming obstacles and contuinuing in excellence. it's not about whether you sink into a chick 5 inches or 9 inches or more. that stuff is just for the bedroom, although with out Internet and porn-addled culture, it's easy to get caught up in the simulacra that's not important. in a decaying society, the imporetant things are ignored more and more and the trivial things are idolized...thus the decay.

* i have been with women who had had past dudes with 9.5 iinchers, and one guy was so big that he couldn't even wear regular condoms. they both enjoyed sex with me, despite the fact of my average size. and i have been with guys who are quite large and thus seemingly "masculine," yet they wanted me to penetrate them! so much of sexuality is relative.

enjoy what you have. learn to use it wholesomely and with integrity. most chicks want love, as they are heart-centered beings, not giant crotch rockets. that said, aesthetics are nice, so take care of your body. and moisturize daily!!!!