Masturbating Concerns

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    Mark2003: OK, I masturbate 1-2 a day but rarely does my dick get really hard - when it's pointing up across my stomach when I'm sitting down shouldn't I find it difficult to move it at all (backwards and forwards) because it's quite flexible rather than rock hard or is this a normal hardness? I usually masturbate for about 10 minutes and sometimes it goes quite soft and I have to start from scratch again. Again is this normal or is my dick weak in terms of hardness and durability than most others? Any advice appreciated.
     
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    rainfletcher: To answer your specific question, I'd say that you should be getting substantially harder than it appears you are.

    Is that as hard as it gets ever? I mean, when receiving oral or having sex, does it get harder than that? If not, then the problem is more likely mental (which is what I suspect)....some people have a hard time getting aroused during oral sex (as has been documented elsewhere), some during masturbation. Have you tried masturbating to porn or something like that?

    You could also try jelqing and kegels. I've heard that it helps with erections and making them stronger and last longer.

    Also, there are pills such as Enzyte (I know that's the worst, but it's the only one I can remember - those damn commercials on 24x7) that also help with that. I'm sure other posters can list specific ingredients.
     
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    Mark2003: Well erm... I've never had sex and never received oral so I wouldn't know. I masturbate usually after watching some porn.
     
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    Mark2003: If I miss a day without masturbating it's usually stronger and better but I have the urge every day so it's very difficult to resist. You know how it goes...

    Also, I always have a piss just before starting as it makes my balls hang more (don't ask!). Would this affect the performance afterwards?
     
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    rainfletcher: I see, Mark. I'm not really sure, and would look forward to the opinions of some of the more seasoned members, here.

    I guess my thoughts are that it's most likely just in your head. It just sounds like your just having a hard time getting aroused, which can be an emotional or mental thing far more often than a phsyical thing. Im' sure your dick is in working order, man.

    With your size, maybe the jelqing isn't such a good idea, but maybe towel lifts or some other exercises that don't necessarily promote growth?

    Go read through the PE section and get some ideas there.

    Best of luck man. Please let me know personally if there's anything I can do to help!

    <Rain
     
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    Mark2003: Because of this happening at the moment I'm a bit concerned that (if) I ever get to have sex in the future, I won't be able to function as well as I should do.
     
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    buddy43610: maybe you are just getting bored with masturbation. buddy
     
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    wvalady1968: Mark,

    We know that if a guy hasn't had sex for a while, he'll get harder. So, frequent masturbation, while it's a lot of fun, could be working against you.

    And well some hung guys, as you qualify, don't get really hard all the time.

    It's possible that the root cause [tongue firmly pressed against cheek] is a combination of that and what Buddy said.

    I don't think you have anything to worry about.

    How's your vision? :D

    Allie
     
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    aussiechick63: Mark, this is not an easy question to give a simple answer to, without seeing you. What you say is flexible may be quite normal. If it's flopping around then I would say it should be harder, but if it is just backward and forward movement then this could be normal flexibility.
    You have to take your age into this as well.

    When you go soft are you getting distracted, worried about getting caught. All these kinds of things will make you lose an erection.

    Do you have a group of buddies that masturbate together. Maybe you could join in. A good friend you could talk to, maybe even your Dad. Parents can talk very openly to their kids usually. I have had some amazing chats to my teenage daughters.
    Good luck with this mark. Let us know how you go.
     
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    longtimelurker: [quote author=aussiechick63 link=board=meetgreet;num=1065810820;start=0#8 date=10/10/03 at 13:29:30]
    Do you have a group of buddies that masturbate together. Maybe you could join in. A good friend you could talk to, maybe even your Dad. Parents can talk very openly to their kids usually. I have had some amazing chats to my teenage daughters.
    Good luck with this mark. Let us know how you go.[/quote]

    Hey, do you know whether your son takes part in group sex and circle jerks?

    Nah, I really can't see that one happening!

    Besides, it's not like one of the things you'd tell your parents.
     
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    Mark:

    There is so much that can be done to achieve and keep erections as long as you like. I encourage you to see an urologist.

    Even if your mind doesn't quite get you in the 'mood' there are chemicals that keep a penis erected. Give some a test until you find which one(s) do the job.

    Get back with us and let us know your decisions and their outcomes, Mr. Overall Moderator
     
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    AnonyMs: Uh... I dunna think Mark2003 is our highly esteemed overall moderator. Mark2003 only has 23 posts and has only been a member since July of this year.
     
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    AnonyMs: dang it! I double posted! Hate it when that happens... 
     
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    Ooophs, screwed up again! I tuck my tail and run off in the distance!

    Thx, anonyMs. I should check all info more thoroughtly, before jumping to conclusions.

    Sorry, to all concerned.
     
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    Mark2003: Some bits of info that might help - I'm 24 years old (yes I know...). In terms of flexibility, I can push it easily forwards and backwards when its 'hard' but I wouldn't say it flops. If I go a day without masturbating then I usually have a morning erection which is quite hard but if I do masturbate then I don't or if I do then it's just a sort of semi-hard when I wake up - a bit bigger than when flaccid but not hard. I'm never worried about being caught as I lock my door. I have been known to go through phases for around 3-4 days where I have to have at least 3 a day to satisfy the urge and the performance is better but is doesn't happen that often.
    I mostly have to stimulate my dick to go hard, I don't often have a hardon without doing anything unless I'm particularly 'horny'. My dick always goes straight across when hard if I'm standing up, I don't think it's ever pointed upwards.
     
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    Mark, the vast majority of hard ons don't stick UP, like close to or on the abs. The horizontal angle is the more usual one, as you said "str8 out".

    Since you don't wake up with a full hard on if you have jacked off the day before, perhaps you need AndroGel, which can be applied to shoulders, chest and upper back each morning to increase your body's production of testosterone. This is a prescription drug and must be prescribed by a doctor.

    Have you given any more thought to going to an urologists?
     
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    Mark2003: I'm a very happy boy tonight as I had the best you know what in a long time. I've been wanting to do it all day in work and as soon as I came home, I pulled down my pants, big hardon straight away. I also noticed when I was stroking it, I couldn't move it backwards and forwards like I have lately - it was too stiff for that. I'm really happy knowing that I've still got it in me and when I'm really in the mood for it, it's great, rather than going through the motions just for the sake of it. I guess that's what makes the difference.
     
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    Hey, Mark, I'm glad you were in such 'stiff' condition last night and thx for telling us about it. I know the hard on is extremely meaningful to all of us guys and has a strong effect on our psyche and sense of well-being, which is even more improtant than just being denied the sexual pleasures of masturbation and ejaculation.

    Happy stroking, dude!
     
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    gigantikok: One very important question: Do you ejaculate? Or are you so soft, sometimes, that you can't?

    If you reach a point where you become so flaccid you cannot ejaculate, then that is a definite reason to visit an urologist.

    My best advice will be to keep masturbating every night (since it is difficult to resist) and not worry so much about your penis' hardness. I will make a safe bet that when you actually have sex or contact with a woman, it will stand on end. You have just become so used to masturbation, and conditioned yourself to it, it isn't as exciting as it might have once been. You usually need an adrenaline rush, a partner, or abstinence from masturbation for a while to get really, really hard. On top of all that, we are all different. As long as you can get erect enough to ejaculate, you have nothing to worry about.
     
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    Mark2003: You're right gigantikok, that's what it is - the adrenaline rush. That's what I've missing up until a couple of days ago and it makes all the difference in hardness and enjoyment. I often get a sort of itchy feeling between my legs which needs to be taken care of but if you've got the adrenaline rush feeling too it's great.

    I've never masturbated without having the goods at the end of it even if I'm just doing it for the sake of it. It's never been as soft as that, just a bit too flexible for my liking. Yesterday and today have been fantastic though, just hope it continues.

    Do you get turned on by the sight of your own cock? I think that helps too as well as the adrenaline. Sometimes I'm like 'yeah, whatever' and I'm not that hard as a result but when I have the adrenaline going and I pull my pants down and I'm like 'phwoar bloody hell!' just looking at its size and my balls hanging down just looking so masculine. It's a big turn on just having these big manly sex organs attached to me. Anyone know what I mean?
     
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