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The thought of masterbating in front of someone else totally turns me on...but for whatever reason I am incredibly shy about it IRL and can’t seem to initiate the move. My BF has even asked if I would and just him asking got me so excited and turned on. I think it must be because, you know, it’s always something I have done in private so how do I get past these stupid hang ups in my head? Any tips to get more uninhibited in the bedroom without having to down a bottle of wine
 

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Close your eyes

Have him join you... watch what he's doing and don't focus on him watching you

Good luck!
I think him joining in and maybe starting would def help. Something about just going at it with no warm up just feels weird idk it’s just very new for me. And I dont want to have to get sloshed just to be comfortable with it, I mean it can be fun time to time but not a good to make a habit of being wasted to let down guard which in past life seemed to be my go to.
 
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What Lurker suggested was my thought as well. Mutual masturbation n maybe some porn watching together, if that is your thing. That way the focus is less on you. Could make it have a romantic slant too, light a few candles instead of electric lighting, so that it is a bit dimmer. Could help too.
 

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What Lurker suggested was my thought as well. Mutual masturbation n maybe some porn watching together, if that is your thing. That way the focus is less on you. Could make it have a romantic slant too, light a few candles instead of electric lighting, so that it is a bit dimmer. Could help too.

Agree all sounds like would help to relax and put me more in mood. I think on deeper level without getting too heavy on psychoanalysis becoming more comfortable in my own skin all together. I have no clue what I even look like when I masterbate so I have these ridiculous insecurities of how I might look. I do enjoy porn but then it gets in my head should I be trying to look like that do I do it slower to turn him on , make noise or not, look sweet or seductive , fuck, what the hell do I even look like when I do get off, lol?!?! Yeah I guess you could say I over analyze the SHIT out of everything and it sucks the fun right outta the room, ugh, FML
 
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Agree all sounds like would help to relax and put me more in mood. I think on deeper level without getting too heavy on psychoanalysis becoming more comfortable in my own skin all together. I have no clue what I even look like when I masterbate so I have these ridiculous insecurities of how I might look. I do enjoy porn but then it gets in my head should I be trying to look like that do I do it slower to turn him on , make noise or not, look sweet or seductive , fuck, what the hell do I even look like when I do get off, lol?!?! Yeah I guess you could say I over analyze the SHIT out of everything and it sucks the fun right outta the room, ugh, FML

If you have a full length mirror or some such that you can move around, ya could do a solo trial run? See what you look like mid-masturbation, but I dunno if that would help or possibly fuel more anxiety. If self-conscious 'bout noise, could also make sure to have some sort of music playing softly too? Not to drown you out, but to fill any empty spaces mebby
 

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Sweetie, I'm the same as you. Masturbation is my "me" time. It's just for me by me. I happen to know what I like, and I don't mind doing it. But it's my fortress of solitude.

When he joins in I become a director. It's no longer masturbation. It's full on sexual intimacy. We've tried mutual masturbation only once. Didn't last. I devolved into this yucky, nasty, deep down basic human debauchery that was absolutely fantastic.

So, I really can't masturbate in front of him or he in front of me. We just can't help ourselves. Of course, masturbating each other is called something else, but that too doesn't last.
 

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I am been doing this a bit lately. I find it a total turn on. Try having him join in a little by sticking your nipples, fingering you, or touching you. He might want to stroke a little himself so it’s feels less like a show.
 

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I’ve done this on video with my sweetie. From obvious (and mutual) ”shows” to just smexy conversation that happens to have self stimulation.
But we don’t do it well in person. Well, I don’t. He does.
We tried.
I’ve done it with an ex, as more an educational evening. We’d gotten off the rails, and it did help us back.

I wonder if doing it as a general show off, say tied to a “private dancer” situation would ease you in?