masturbation and acceptance

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  1. Imported

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    jason2777: When i was in my teen I felt guilty about masturbating.The later in my teens I got the more childest I thought it was.I thought for sure I would stop by 18. By the time I was 25 I finally accepted that masturbation would be a life long habit. It also when I cam completely comfortable with no only the idea but the proccess.

    At what age did you finally accept masturbation as a life long habit? And what age do you think guys FINALLY realize we all do it?


    teens- you think your the only one

    20's- you think you and the guys that don't get laid

    30's- is the age when most guys accept it as a universal thing

    from my experience
     
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    Habit?

    No way. It's a vital part of a man's life. I'd be willing to bet that if we lose our interest in masturbation, we lose interest in sex.
     
  3. Imported

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    Karen:


    Hey! That shouldn't be gender specific! :p
     
  4. Knight-7x6

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    Well I always masturbated since 12 and thought it was okay since my friends said they all did it, we all kinda found out together, at the same time...in the local forest hehe. We stole some pornmags from a friend's dad...but anyway.

    I've never had a problem with masturbation but after reading www.jackinworld.com I see a lot of people do. Although the act is okay, only myself and my closest friends talk about it, not really anyone in my family, except when joking. Whereas some convos I've had with friends have been 'have you tried wankin straight after you've already done it? 'No, it feels weird...it hurts'

    So since about 12 I've done it, kinda thinkin it was okay but when I was 16 I read jackinworld and that was confirmation. What do you think of masturbation Karen? ;)
     
  5. jonb

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    I don't think I can remember when it was only for those who didn't get laid.
     
  6. Imported

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    the sac: I fully accepted masturbating as a fun and enjoyable activity at a very young age somewhere around when i saw my first porn film and realized what i had been doing for awhile was done by others maybe like 7 or 8
     
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    As a teen-ager I often thought that I would soon run out of sperm and semen. As I matured into my 20s I realized that I should check on a daily basis if I had run out yet. During my married life I achieved a happy sexual life; and I continued to masturbate.

    Currently I still enjoy masturbation and have accepted the fact that for males and also females masturbation is a fun fact of life.
     
  8. benderten2001

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    Jason,

    For the record, most all of us feel "guilty" to some degree about masturbation--at least at some point in our lives. We "get over it" when we DECIDE (by any age) to get over it. --There's nothing to feel guilty about! It's a natural "release" of pent-up sexual tension.....period. So, WHY do we torture ourselves about this stuff? Single people do it. Married people do it. People in relationships "do it".

    And---this idea hit me in reading over this thread. I think another part of the "guilt" over masturbation is its association with that other (nasty!) word-----HABIT.

    Why does masturbation HAVE to be called a "habit" ?
    THAT term alone sets us up to think of this otherwise natural act of sexual release as something terribly, terribly bad. --Well, it's not.
     
  9. InnocentBystander

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    Totally agree with benderten.

    I do it so much that I think I'll win a prize if I do it enough times (bad attempt to recreate a Dave Attell joke). Anyways... through most of my teen years I never had any sexual encounters, and I used to get that guilty feeling over it. But then I had some encounters (a few bad, a few good... really good) and I've come to really appreciate the sort of consistancy of masturbation. I know how to handle the equipment - it's mine after all - unlike a couple others I was with.
     
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    Maybe it was just the way I was raised. Dad discussed masturbation with us and made sure we understood that it was normal, healthy and natural. It wasn't like he encouraged us to jerk off in the living room :p but made sure we didn't have hang ups about it and told us that "all men, even your Dad" masturbates. I have never felt an ounce of guilt or shame about pleasuring myself.
     
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    This has gotta be one of my favorite subjects, so I'm responding. Have any of you considered your guilt feelings about masturbating (as most have indicated), might be due to the way you were pottie trained? I think my guilt feelings have been as strong as anyones and I attribute that to my pottie training. Someone recognized the damage wrong pottie training could have on a child and came up with a book a decade or two ago for parents to read and explain to their children going through that period. My grandchildren profited from this, long after the time I grew up.

    Benderten gave some negative terms often used which reinforce guilty feelings from the act and made me think of "self-abuse", the term I grew up with. How could anything abusing ourselves not give guilt feelings? I recall there was a long period of time when everythime I got hard and wrapped my fist around my dick I thought of the serious sin I was committing.

    There was some good to come from this, however, because when I walked in on my son masturbating I was cool and told him it was ok, that we all did it. I believe the way I handled that helped to make him the well adjusted individual he is today.
     
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    EXACTLY. ;) And----The ONLY way to go !
     
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    When my youngest son was around 12-13, I caught him jacking. He was in his room and hadn't closed his door. When I came upstairs he was laying on his bed jacking. He tried to cover up but I told him there was nothing wrong with what he was doing but that he should close his door when he did it. I just laughed and went on to my room. Nothing else was ever mentioned about it.
     
  14. Imported

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    estpadre: wish i had come to acceptance earlier. nearing 70 and J/O regularly still have some guilt but with marital sex nearly non and some ED this is my joy. still reach 5-6 with nearly 5 girth and yes things do change with age. had some of prostate removed by lasser so have less cum and just dribble but can swing it a good distance. lol One good contraction is the norm but still pleasureable.
     
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    suaige: I would guess the guilt thing comes mostly from your moral/religious beliefs. Many people say it is natural part of being alive (deer do it too), others say it is an inappropriate use of the gift God gave us to have pleasure with a spouse and have kids. I would expect those who feel they are doing something immoral are those who feel guilty. Until they either give up masturbation, somehow reconcile their actions and beliefs or give up on their beliefs there will be some guilt.

    Personally I am the dissenting opinion of the topic. I'm of the opion that while it is a natural process that it has higher purposes then personal satisfaction on demand and has restrictions by commandment and should be used accordingly. And as with all things it has consequences of benefit or loss depending on practice or not.
     
  16. jonb

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    Well, teleology is dangerous. I could just as easily argue that since masturbation is possible, it must have some divine purpose. It's like the gay marriage debate: The teleological viewpoint's in the peculiar position to argue that just because it occurs in nature, doesn't make it natural.
     
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    And I say, you're just plain nuts.
     
  18. Imported

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    suaige: just stating my opinion like every body else. helps keep it balanced that way
     
  19. jonb

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    As long as you realize that religious arguments about masturbation go back to the time when they thought sperm were fully-formed human beings. So every time you ejaculate even during coitus, you're killing more people than Hitler.
     
  20. madame_zora

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    Well, that makes me glad to be a woman, I couldn't handle that kind of responsibility!
     
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