masturbation in front of roommate

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  1. candel3171

    candel3171 New Member

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    hello i am in my first year of college, and i currently live on campus in the dorms. this is my first time i have had to share my room with another guy so the whole college communal thing is a new experience to me.
    So when i had my own room i used to be able to whip out my dick and have a quick jerk when i felt horny, but now that i am living my roommate i find it very hard to find time to get my self off.

    I know he masturbates as well because i can smell the cum sometimes when i walk into the room and see the used tissues around his desk.
    So the thing is sometimes i can get sooo horny and rock hard and i want to jerk off but i feel that i cant because it might be weird for him if i took out my dick and openly masturbated. i would be fine with him seeing my dick even though its not that big 5.5 inches but i don't know if he would be ok with it.

    my question is, is it acceptable for roommates to masturbate in front of one another? what should i do? should i talk to him about it?
     
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    I'm jackin'
     
  3. Charles Finn

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    yes by all means talk to him about it
    jacking off is normal
     
  4. Maxime_

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    You have to enhance the confidence between the 2 of you,first. You cannot just whip your cock out in front of a stranger. He may like it or not. One step leads to the other,you can't simply jump all of them! i think he should get used to you naked when for example you come out of shower,drop the towel and (slowly) put your underwear on;or when you are changing etc. See his reaction to this,let him and you get used to that. Then when you have more confidence you can start talking about masturbation,but taking it easy.....if he shows he's open then you can consider to jerk off together. But noteverybody's made the same. One may like this fact,some other maybe won't.....
     
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    I really doubt if he would care if you plan it out... and by that I mean ease into it over the course of a week. Chances are you guys will end up jerking off at the same time, anyway. Would have bothered me in high school; now it just bothers me when I'm in the room with someone who's close-minded and I have to rub one between my legs and jeans... which turned out to be very exciting.

    EDIT: ...or, if you want to play hardball: if he says it's a problem just play the "we used to do it all the time in high school" card so the tables are turned. This will introduce the A) aspect of popularity - which many will fall for and/or B)the fact that you're used to it and it's no big deal - which will ease him to the idea.

    EDIT2: If he just flat out denies you don't be embarrassed, just say "Well, I was trying to make it easier for both of us." in a tone that make him believe he's at loss. Then just carry on with your day like it's nothing. This may still convince him... but at least if he catches you, you can say you warned him.
     
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    I agree with Maxime, you have to feel things out. Start by being naked from the shower and drop your towel and change in front of him, as roommates its your room too and should feel comfortable in any stage of nudity. Try and find a way to bring the word masturbation or jerking off into a conversation which helps break the ice that all guys do it and you do it too helps make everyone feel normal about doing it.
     
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    I had a roommate, we talked about it after about a month together and made the agreement to do it in the bathroom.
     
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    Go out and have a few beers with him to get to know him. Even if both of you are totally straight ALL guys jack off sometimes. I'd bring the subject up after a few beers and ask him would he be offended if he caught you jerking off and how you wouldn't be if you caught him. He may turn around and say I never jack off. At least then you would know he is a liar!
     
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    Absolutely!you have to remember that you don't have to hurt anyone's sensitivity....some guys do feel bad only if you are naked in the room,as they are not used to it. So,whipping your cock out could lead to a sort of "shock" to him and a consequent trouble or embarass between the two of you. The shower thing is the best to break the ice. It's not too "burst out-ish" and it is a good way to break the ice. Then you start bringing the word jerk off once in a while in conversation,avoiding the "obsession" effect,so say it once in a while,not too often. Then you could go on with watching some porn together and then....one thing leads to the next.....:)
     
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    I am hearing two different questions.

    1. You need to wack off and you have no privacy ... in which case you can either go to the bathroom, do it when he is in class, or do it when he is sound asleep. That's easy.

    2. You want to engage your roommate in dual masturbation, or you want to wack off and have him watch. That's a much more difficult thing to accomplish and you won't be able to do it without his consent. If you both consent, then it is acceptable.
     
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    Again, when I was living with a roommate, it was nearly inevitable in such close living quarters to not eventually see each other naked. (especially since we shared a bathroom) Generally, I sleep naked, but with him there, I kept shorts under my pillow for modesty. We became comfortable together, but it wasn't ever something to take for granted.
     
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    The next time you "catch" him, giggle and say something like "need 20 minutes? it's cool" and leave for a bit. It'll make the feeling between the two of you so much more relaxed, I did it to my roomate back in the day
     
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    its part of life....when he is asleep jack off...odds are he may hear you and realize you 'dot it too' might make it easier...

    don't blow this out of proportion- ALL men get horny....


    out of curiousity- any up dates?

    with one roommate I was (trying to) quietly jack off one night while he was (I thought) asleep... after a few minutes of me jacking I heard him jacking.. it became a night 'thing' us both jacking off in the dark, we also both knew it was 'okay' to grunt as need be...

    nothing was ever said but it made life easier...
     
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    chances are.... he's worrying the same thing about you.....

    and posting similar questions on whatever forum he frequents.
     
  15. naturistMale

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    we Guys are genius at finding a place to wank
    give you're self credit Mate.
    tell him before he moved in, you wanked when you wanted
    then ask him, now what should i do?
    that let's him think he's got the control, and will act very Adult and come up with rubbish, and while he's waxing on and on, just laugh and tell him it's just a wank.
    and, oh by the way, there's a sale on tissues at the store, want me to get you some?
    might break the ice, he wants to get this resolved for himself also..
    just my 2 cents
     
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    Just say - Can I borrow your cum rag?
     
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    He'll be cool and understand, I'd bet you 6 bucks at least.
     
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    I had a roomie during summer school leading to my last yr in undergrad. We were in a townhouse type of rez, and there was a really tiny bathroom we shared with one other room. (two people). The shower stall was like thirty inches square, and it was impossible to mastrubate in there. So one evening, we were both relaxing in the room, i think we had a beer or two, and I made a joke about how difficult it was to jerk off in there, and that i really wanted to be able to do it in the room. He absolutely agreed. Anyway, we go to talking about everything after that...he ended up in my bed naked, me with my pants off...nothing really happened, but it was nice to talk and share with a naked dude. Anyway, after that we agreed it was ok to do it in the room with each other there, and that it was okay to watch. He watched me a couple times, and we did it at the same time once. It was really cool, no pressure, no demands...and a good bonding experience. Found him years later on facebook, we chatted about it, agreed it was a good experience to have had.
     
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    My college roommate experience was similar to the one above. Eventually we talked about it. First just in general and then one night we talked about the fact that if ever one of us wanted to jerk off in the middle of the night then go for it. That night he did and I joined him. We jerked off together a few times a week. It was not a big deal even at the time. We did mutual masturbation a few times and then gradually stopped altogether. However, it was not something that was planned or engineered on my part (or his I would think) It simply came from being two young guys sharing a very small room with very little personal privacy. Plus, we gradually became friends. Probably something similar will happen with you and your roommate.
     
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    IMHO this is the way to go. If you're not embarrassed about wanking while he's there (even in the dark) just do it under the covers. The next morning you can "apologize" and say, "man, I'm sorry about last night. I just had to!"
     
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