There is a topic in the AAW forum asking if women have a problem with their partner wanking 3-4 times a week.
My answer to the original question would have been that I don't think that masturbation is the same as sex in a man's mind and if it doesn't cut into my time, I don't care. So this post puzzles me:
If you have a partner, does masturbation inhibit your drive towards your woman? Do you masturbate less often when sex is available? What are your thoughts about the above quote?
My answer to the original question would have been that I don't think that masturbation is the same as sex in a man's mind and if it doesn't cut into my time, I don't care. So this post puzzles me:
Here is my thinking on this. I've done my fair share of jerking off, and I can certainly enjoy it because it feels good! BUT, you know what, after jerking off, I'm less interested in having sex with my partner [men--be honest with the ladies here!!].....and I don't like that either. So if you are jerking off 3-4 times a week; that's 3-4 times you're not that interested in having sex with your partner........... Not good (in my opinion). Also, I think most women will be surprised that men want to jerk off that often--3-4 times per week!!
So I'm trying something new. I talked to my partner (who enjoys sex and has an open mind about keeping things fresh), and instead of sneaking off to the bathroom, shower or spare bedroom to jerk off......i am telling her that I'm horny, need release and we are trying to incorporate masturbation into something we do together. Sometimes it leads to lovemaking; other times to giving and receiving oral sex; sometimes she helps me or lets me stroke myself while holding and kissing me...for her, watching and feeling me touch myself turns her on. ALL of which are better than stroking myself all alone. If she's not in the mood, then I'm waiting till "she is in the mood."
So far, it is working out OK. She knows I can get horny in a minute and may like to jerk off (or have sex) often...and she is good with that. She feels better that I am seeking and receiving pleasure and sexual release with her, rather than off by myself......just my thoughts. Peace.
If you have a partner, does masturbation inhibit your drive towards your woman? Do you masturbate less often when sex is available? What are your thoughts about the above quote?