I'm back working in the studio and who should walk in this week but an old acquaintance from almost 20 years ago. He was also a bass player in another band we were touring with back then, one of the only married guys in the whole group. And that's where the problem came in. His wife accompanied him on the tour and she was always backstage, onstage during rehearsals, on the bus and in the hotel. Being soft and nice-looking she was pretty popular, and she and I became close - closer than I wanted to be actually. It was apparent that I was becoming very attracted to her and she showed the same for me. This was during my free-form lifestyle period, but I swore I would never wreck a marriage - especially a mate's. But she was the first one to make a move and I freaked out on her. Damn, I felt absolutely horrible at the time, but I knew I had to do it. So that was it. After the tour was over about three weeks later I never talked to either of them again. I've heard about him and we both kept up with each others careers, and arguably he's become much more successful, but I've never tried to reconnect, and neither has he. And now he's recording here, and I'm helping produce. He's been friendly, but it's been all music, gear,sound, direction, etc. I'm trying to be as professional as can be but still this was a mate and he wasn't directly involved in any wrongdoing. So the dilemma: do I even bring up personal stuff like how's the wife (assuming they're still together) or remember the fun we had? So far we've only had a single session, but he's coming back next week for a couple of more. Usually I entertain the artists with drinks and meals, but I'm kind of reluctant in this situation and could easily pass him off to another producer. That's kind of an overreaction on my part, but it's a real feeling. Normally, I have a level head about personal dealings, but I'm a little too close to the situation to think clearly about this. I even bounced it off my wife, and even she's at a loss. Of course she asked "Was she pretty?" I told her I don't do ugly chicks, but for some reason she didn't take it as the compliment I meant, even if it was tongue in cheek. Came home tonight and she has the iPod plugged into the stereo, and what should come blaring - "Tempted by the fruit of another." She's got a nasty streak.