Hello, I am a mature, 100% straight single woman. I hate to admit this publicly but it has been years since I have had a sexual partner and when I confided this fact recently to a friend they suggested that I explore the possibility of finding a recreational lover. So I decided to start this thread to see if I could get some advice on how best to do that. My questions are mainly targeted to the LPSG women but I'm open to hearing what the men have to say too. I probably should state that first and foremost my preference is to enjoy a relationship with a man on a long-term loving basis and for him to be a friend to share things with, to go out and have fun together, but until I am lucky enough to find such a man I would be willing to explore a "friends with benefits" type relationship. Admittedly, I have no experience with this type arrangement, nor do I know how to even find such a man so any advice would certainly be welcome. I'm also at a bit of a disadvantage because I am new to the area so I don't know a lot of people or places to go. I'm not into the bar scene - been there, done that when I was younger. I know there are many women on this forum who have recreational lovers, partners, and friends with benefits" type of relationships so my questions are as follows but please feel free to comment on any I have failed to think of: How do you do it? Meaning how do you find someone that you feel comfortable enough to sleep with if you dont already know each other and have an easy friendship? Also, how do you keep from getting emotionally involved? Do you find that one partner or the other gets too attached, possessive or territorial? Meaning they dont necessarily want to date you, but they dont want anyone else to either, they want you all to themselves? Do you find that romantic emotions develop even though that was not the intention going into the relationship? What are your experiences in this type of relationship and do you have any suggestions as to how I might go about finding someone? Any advice is welcome!