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Did you just say that in a Southern accent?!! Damn! I may have to make a trip to the South this summer...
Yes, niceny... I did and didn't even have to fake it LOL :biggrin1:
Did you just say that in a Southern accent?!! Damn! I may have to make a trip to the South this summer...
Hello, I am a mature, 100% straight single woman. I hate to admit this publicly but it has been years since I have had a sexual partner and when I confided this fact recently to a friend they suggested that I explore the possibility of finding a recreational lover. So I decided to start this thread to see if I could get some advice on how best to do that.
My questions are mainly targeted to the LPSG women but I'm open to hearing what the men have to say too.
I probably should state that first and foremost my preference is to enjoy a relationship with a man on a long-term loving basis and for him to be a friend to share things with, to go out and have fun together, but until I am lucky enough to find such a man I would be willing to explore a "friends with benefits" type relationship. Admittedly, I have no experience with this type arrangement, nor do I know how to even find such a man so any advice would certainly be welcome. I'm also at a bit of a disadvantage because I am new to the area so I don't know a lot of people or places to go. I'm not into the bar scene - been there, done that when I was younger.
I know there are many women on this forum who have recreational lovers, partners, and friends with benefits" type of relationships so my questions are as follows but please feel free to comment on any I have failed to think of:Any advice is welcome!
- How do you do it? Meaning how do you find someone that you feel comfortable enough to sleep with if you dont already know each other and have an easy friendship?
- Also, how do you keep from getting emotionally involved? Do you find that one partner or the other gets too attached, possessive or territorial? Meaning they dont necessarily want to date you, but they dont want anyone else to either, they want you all to themselves? Do you find that romantic emotions develop even though that was not the intention going into the relationship?
- What are your experiences in this type of relationship and do you have any suggestions as to how I might go about finding someone?
Just looked at you're profile, and what did I find a pretty lady that's
very attractive and should not have any problems in that department.
Only problem I would have, the kind of relationship you described, well
seems rather empty, unless it can lead to a higher level. But that's
just me.:biggrin1:
I'll take you up on that offer - you may live to regret it. :tongue:
Maybe.Are you threatening me with a good time? :naughty:
It's not something that I've ever required, nor has anyone ever asked it of me. In fact, I wonder if it is uncommon in general to do such a thing in my area, because when I asked my doctor for a full screening recently, she looked at me like I was mad and asked if I have a specific reason for asking for one (ie. had a partner told me they had an STD?). I told her I didn't have a specific reason, but I do have sex with multiple partners and condoms aren't perfect. She continued to give me the 'you're mental' look, but did order the tests for me.
Maybe.
Aww! Ok, I can't resist you. :tongue::frown1: <---- This will be my face until I get further confirmation.
Aww! Ok, I can't resist you. :tongue:
:tongue::dance:
Flirty? Me? Never.Okay you flirty pair, maybe you should just go get a room?
Thank you parr. Yes, I fear that type of relationship would be empty too. What I really want is a real loving, long-term meaningful relationship, not one based solely on sex. Until I find that (and I am looking) some friends suggested that I look into getting a FB primarily to solve the issue of not having had sex in a very, very long time (I'm talking years) to help me get my groove back as one friend put it. So I am exploring that possibility but have not decided on that action yet. I'm not convinced that I'm cut out for that type of relationship. Generally I need to feel emotionally attached to the person that I am having sex with - which is primarily the reason why it's been so long.
Yes, niceny... I did and didn't even have to fake it LOL :biggrin1:
Okay you flirty pair, maybe you should just go get a room?
Only if I'm allowed to bring friends.
<---Friend!
*grins*
I wouldn't mind tweaking your 10%. :wink::biggrin1: