I think you do not understand how disconnected and unaware average women are of their own bodies. It isn't that they are lazy, don't try, or do not want to please their partner, in fact, the opposite is often true. It has more to do with women not knowing how their body works - parents, doctors, etc., do not teach women about how to achieve sexual pleasure. (Yes, kegels would be a primary benefit to her pleasure)
Which leaves a great deal of women to just do the best with what little knowledge they have. Those that are determined may find a book or some other source which gives basic anatomy and techniques, and they will discover what works, but there isn't a great deal out there and most is geared toward pleasing the man, not the woman figuring out what feels good for her body. What makes orgasms stronger. How good it feels for her to squeeze around a cock, as opposed to "do this and drive your man wild".
excellent point another reason why surveys on female sexuality need to be taken with a grain of salt.
e.g. the oft quoted statistic that that 85% o women are "
satisfied with the size of their parter's penis." I could be "satisfied" with a toyota camry, but maybe my heart's desire is a Ferrari. or for that matter it would easier to be "satisfied if one had never ridden in a Ferrari, Most women haven't dealt with a wide range of sizes--or shapes
similarly surveys seem to treat one female orgasm as equivalent with little attention given to the variety or intensity.
have said that, I respectfully disagree with a lack of information concerning female sexual satisfaction, particularly from a "how to" perspective. plenty has been published: WHEN THE EARTH MOVES by Mikaya Heart, Lou Paget's stuff,
anything to do with Tantra. No one can say there's a
lack of information.
One can question the
quality and not the lack of consistency. In which case, the failure lies with sexology. Our knowledge of female sexual response is far from complete, yet panopoly of "experts" feel assured speaking as if they have the final word. OTOH "amateurs" (lovers?) are frequently ahead of the curve with practical
emprical data.
a little history is in order, about 50 years ago William H Masters & Virginia Johnson established themselves as the foremost experts on human sexuality. It was they who discovered that most nerve endings in the vagina were in the first three inches. They leaped to the conclusion that a woman would feel the same with a 3 inch penis as a 6 inch penis or a 9 inch penis. Everyone fell in line and said that if any woman had a preference for a larger penis it was merely
psychological or couldn't possibly be physical.
by the end of the 1960s the clitoris was widely celebrated as the key to female sexual satification. In the 1970s, Shere Hite went further and said that all orgasm were clitoral, and the vaginal orgasm was a patriarchal my designed to oppress women and was widely lionize by leading feminist. In the 1980s, the g spot which was actually discovered in the 1940s reached popular consciousness. It amusing the recount the hue and cry that accompanied the publication the book by Ladas, Whipple, & Perry. And even today some people seem to want to question the existence of the g spot.
since then female ejaculation, AFE orgasms, and other discoveries have reasserted not only the existence of vagina orgasm, and its ability to be achieved by intercourse, but it's variety. Kegel exercises are a welcome technique but I suspect only the most basic exercise given traditional knowledge in the far east & polynesia. I think our ignorance has been the result of thinking of the vagina as merely a "sheath" a mere receptacle for the penis. And "experts" of both sexes are guilty of holding this unstated premise.
In conclusion, I just want to caution that anything stated authoritatively about female sexuality will be likely subject to revision. And the process of revision need not wait on the experts.
