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  1. kaientai

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    A bitt embarresed to post this but still, about 2 years ago I was on anti depressants and for the live of me I could not cum. Now I am in a better place for a while and i get a new girlfriend who is realy tight I have to admit but i turned into a minute man all of a sudden before the meds i culd last a good 15 min and now evertime it's like a minute or so and i'm done . I raly love her and I haven't had a girlfriend in years and while i can jerk it for 45 min no prob when i'm with her, I'm going nuts with this thank god for my talented tongue but still. Any thoughts or help? Thanks guys
     
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    you should see a doctor or ask for advice from a pharmacist. nothing serious.

    cheers.
     
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    Number one, it could go back on it's own, two there are things that help like certain cremes, lubes and condoms that help to regulate the sensibility of the glans, because of this affect of certain anti depressants was discovered there is currently work in progress to sell it as a sex med like viagra.
     
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    I was on tricyclics to help mitigate body wide pain that felt like I was living in a suit of live, burning coals. Neuropathy is a fucking bitch whore that drinks all my beer and eats all of my chocolates. Good thing I got her roommate Diabetes to behave itself -

    The tricyclics are often used in an "off label" manner to suppress the pain of nerves dying, but primarily they are used as anti-depressants. So I can speak from experience here -

    It takes upwards of 6 months to reverse the effects of these medications in your body once they have reached titration levels in your body to make them effective. Either way, YOU SHOULD see a physician. You will need to be weaned off the medicines and kept watch over for any psychological twinges that can occur. When I got the glucose under control, the pain and dying nerves problem subsided, and a year later I am literally completely *medication free*, but I could not for the life of me climax during that time. Afterwards - I had a hair trigger.

    The whole point here is, see a physician, make sure that you can be off the meds. As you work your way down off of them, libido will return, and if you are like me, like a tidal wave. o_O Then the compass needle swings the other way to what is more acceptable as being normal. Normal of course is a relative term, and none of my relatives are within the city limits of that place. ;D
     
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    I suffered from premature ejaculation with most of my first girlfriends. Sex started off well but went downhill until I could only go a couple of minutes. Sometimes I'd come as soon as I entered. I think it was mostly due to my being insecure. I was too anxious to please. That kind of performance anxiety can either turn into erectile disfunction or premature ejaculation. For me it was the latter. But during a period in my late 20s when I was between serious girlfriends, I had a period of sexual healing when I had some more casual sexual encounters with women who were between partners like me and the sex was much better. With one of these women I found that I could fuck her to orgasm. I realised that I'd never done that before. Previous girls had made the right kinds of noises, but they had been faking it. Once you've experienced a woman actually having an orgasm when you fuck her you know the difference. I came away from that experience a different man. I think I learned to have the confidence to take control of the action.

    You've got to realise that we're programmed to come quick so that we can impregnate a woman fast. Women's vaginas are designed to make us come quick. When a woman gets really turned on during sex her vagina automatically massages the your cock. Even if you stop thrusting a woman's vagina can make you come by clenching and twitching, and she has no control over that. It's involuntary. It's difficult not to come when that's going on. It took me a while to learn but I developed the confidence to call the shots and go at a pace that suits me and keep myself safely on the right side of coming. I'd get it wrong sometimes but it doesn't matter. You've got to realise that women are flattered if you find it hard to control yourself with them. So long as you're happy to move smoothly on to pleasuring her with your tongue before she goes off the boil there's no problem. And unless you're over tired you should be able to get it up again in a short while, and second time around you should last longer.

    Don't worry kaientai, it will get better in the long run.
     
  6. kaientai

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    thanks guys
     
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    a standard symptom of anti-depression pills is delayed ejaculation
     
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    You need to consult the Doc on this and make it clear that having a reasonable sex life is a part that is necessary to your recovery. The sad part is that most MD's think a sex life (except theirs) is totally unimportant. "You have high blood pressure, your blood pressure is more important than your sex life.....we will work on the sex later.....NOT!"

    These kinds of responses are typical of a certain species of MD who derives his profits by how many different pills he or she can give you.

    You need as has been said to be weaned off of these pills in a prescribed manner and if necessary your MD needs to look for an alternate medication that does not destroy your love life and personal relationships.

    There are numerous things to treat premature ejaculation. There is one oral drug that can do it and there are others which can be applied to the penis itself. The main thing to do is to explain to your new GF that premature ejaculation is a side effect of a medication change for you. She needs to know what is going on sweetly and honestly. If she likes you she is definitely going to stick around and allow you to do a little self repair and healing.

    Good Luck!
     
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    Very good points FuzzyKen. I was too quick to see the premature ejaculation in my own terms. You're right. The anti-depressants will be a major factor in all this. I'm with FuzzyKen here kaientai: Getting your sex life back is going to be tricky until you've fully recovered from those drugs. Do talk this through with your gf. She should be very flattered that you want to include her in all this. After all, it affects her sex life too. You'll be a happier bf, and much easier to be around, once you're on top of this problem.
     
  10. kaientai

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    thanks for the advice guys really
     
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