Me and my best mar ;)

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  1. cjfp18

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    Me and my best mate are very close. A 'bromance' as i guess some would say. He has a girlfriend & baby but spends allot of his time with me. We tend to go out for a beer, or go to the betting shop etc..

    However my mate has tried snogging me a couple of times, i've never felt this way before but i quite fancy him too. Things have gone on.. And yes hes got a BIG cock.. Only playing etc.

    Is this a laugh or something more?
     
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    At college there was this guy who would kiss his best mate when drunk. He married a girl a few years later.

    Some straight guys do things without thinking, I've seen plenty of video clips with straight guuys doing homoerotic things.

    Try things like: get changed in the same room, have a shower and walk naked for awhile, put on a porno & wank off, act like you could not care less, judge his reaction.
     
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    I never really got the meaning of a bromance. Is it what Michael Cera had with Seth (that chubby guy whose name I don't remember) in Superbad? Or does it require something to actually happen between bros? Or does it accomodate both ideas?

    About your question, what the poster above me said. I believe it could work.
     
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    I am gay and have a bromance with a straight guy (straight as an arrow) whom also has a girlfriend.

    We've hugged and kiss each other on the cheek countless of times, we change in front of each other, while watching a movie he will sometimes rest his head on my lap or in reverse put his feet on my lap, I've given him foot massages and I've even shaved his butt (he's straight but likes to trim and shave his body hair). We spend a lot of our free time together (at home, gym or going out) and if that isn't possible we will video chat as early as 6am or as late as 2am just to see how our lives are going. We give each other a lot of advice and value each others opinion.

    Even though I am gay and have seen him naked numerous of times, I don't ever think of him in that way and he has a girlfriend who knows all of this and is ok with it. Nothing will ever happen between us, but we enjoy having this bond.

    To me this is what a bromance is (or brotherly love), two males bonding without it being "gay" or anything sexual.
     
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    That sounds like an awesome kind of friendship you two have, especially since he's completely straight and knows you're gay and still doesn't mind all that. Tell me something, have you guys met before you came out the closet? I'm asking because it sounds easier to establish that kind of relationship between two straight guys rather than one straight and one gay, since the straight guy will always be suspicious. If you knew him since before, he won't be suspicious cause he never was.

    And I just found out I do have some bromances going on. :O

    When we're drunk, I do tell some friends I love them, and they tell me they love me, we'll kiss each other on the forehead or hug each other.
     
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    I'm 26 now but have been out of the closet since high school with all of my family and friends, but I am not one to advertise or make it obvious (I am one of those gay men that act pretty much straight, except that I do date men). That being said, I met my friend about 5 years ago and didn't tell him that I was gay for at least a month (we weren't friends yet, but the amount of times that we were hanging out was starting to increase).

    After a month I told him that I was gay, he looked at me then gave me a hug and said he didn't care (not in a rude way, but that he accepts me) and I feel like this is when our friendship began.

    I moved 6 months ago and unfortunetlly we don't live as close as we used to (though not too far apart), we've always been great friends but I feel like our friendship has increased so much more now because when we do have time to spend time together, we cherish it so much more.
     
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    I've got one friend I can share anything with, he's the best person in the world :D Having close friends like that, it's something special.
     
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    OP, he has a girlfriend and a kid. Unless she (the girlfriend, not the kid) is cool with you two snogging (and potentially more), then it's probably not going to go anywhere good.
     
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    I personally think this is more about love than only sex. Two guys can love each other without having the desire to make love or have sex. At the same time two guys can also have sex without caring about each other at all. Although I don't understand the last case, I know it occurs all the time.

    Since your best buddy is in a relationship, then you might want to keep the snogging to a minimum because it will only eventually hurt his marriage, his wife and his children, not to mention himself and you.
     
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    As an American, I need to ask what is "snogging" in this context ?

    Is it petting?:confused:

    Thanks, Tom
     
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    I have a very similar relationship with one of my friends. He's straight and I'm gay and although we've never actually discussed it there is no possible way he doesn't realize I'm gay.. We've been friends a LONG, long time and he's a close friend of my boy friend.

    We spend a lot of time together and if we don't actually see each other for a day or two we always talk on the phone. He spends at least two days a week staying over at my house. On those occasions, all of his attention is focused on me and all of my attention is focused on him. We literally are never more than 4 or 5 feet apart day and night unless one of us is in the bathroom. He sleeps on a mat on the floor of my room, he could sleep elsewhere but that what he likes to do. We talk about all kinds of things on all sorts of subjects all day and well into the night until one of us falls asleep.

    In public, he touches me all the time. Has his face right against mine if we're looking at a resturant menu or something. When sitting at a bar, he always has one of his legs on a rung of my barstool or in contact or even between my legs. He's kissed me in public even in front of his girl friend and his family.

    All that said, we've never done anything sexual. I've thought about it a few times and I'm sure he has too. I do know he's experimented with other guys in the past fairly extensively. Few times, an opportunity for sex has come up, but I don't want to change the wonderful dynamic of our friendship. He's such a wonderful friend I feel he's showing me his love in the way he can, rather than sexually.
     
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