Me and my girlfriends theory on size...

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by Imported, Feb 27, 2005.

  1. Imported

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    the_force: Ok, my girlfriend and i just got done having this discussion...and we've come to some conclusions. I'm curious to know what girls for the most part, think of this. Women are much different then men (please hold the "DUH FORCE" comments lol)...women, for the most part, engage in sexual activity because they have feelings for the guy. Whereas men, can fuck just for the fuck of it lol. A woman, generally speaking, is more about the substance of the person, then the physical, which is different then a guy. Hence why men are more visual then women and have a easier time getting off staring at porn then women. So when women say that size doesn't matter...it's generally true. Because she's with the guy because she loves him. So size doen't matter, because she's with him for who he is...not his cock. But on occasion, a woman wants pleasure..just like a man...and usually will go for a larger dick. Obviously their are exceptions to every rule...and this is just a idea...what do you ladies think?
     
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    Some say the intent of men is just to pass on the genes, where as to women want someone who can protect them and their children.

    Thus the reason a guy will screw anyone semi-attractive to them, but women are usually a bit more selective on who their mates are.
     
  3. Imported

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    the_force:

    Sounds darwinian :glare:
     
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    The problem with yer theory is that yer making generalizations. All the girls I know love porn, and can have one night stands. And some of my guy friends like, want meaningful relations and don't like one night stands.
     
  5. Imported

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    the_force:

    you missed the part in my theory that says their are exceptions to every rule :p I know that some women are size queens and some love porn and some guys want relationships and not one nighters...but some assumptions are safe based on the general public...so yes, they are generalizations...but they're safe ones
     
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    it goes much deeper. i remember a fascinating documentary about sexual attraction and its connections to instinct... one part of it consisted of an experiment like this:

    a small number of women are given sweaty undershirts and told to order them from worst to best smelling (or least nasty, i guess).

    they almost unanimously chose the "more masculine" sweat-donors. men who were fit, had strong jawlines, masculine musculature..

    really, really fascinating stuff.
     
  7. D_Martin van Burden

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    I thought this was going to be a size theory, to which a couple of my girl friends argue, "If he's lacking in the back, he's packing in the front."
     
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    TF,
    You asked what the ladies thought but so far all the replies are from men. So, I took this to my wife. She agrees that in general women choose their partners for who they are but she thinks men do too. She also believes that sexual compatibility is part of the equation and that could mean different things to different women/people. Overall, she feels you are being too stereotypical in your theory (for men and women) and that attraction and choice of a partner (at least a long term partner) has a great deal more nuance than you suggest.
    Also, she thinks you should clean up your spelling and grammar before jonb gets wind of it.
     
  9. txquis

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    I know you asked for the ladies response, and there are certainly a few on here,
    but...hehehehe, you cant keep us regulars from replying to these things.

    Yes, your theory is a generalization, but in general, I see a lot of validity there.

    And...Nix, i wish i knew girls who liked porn.
    I have never known one who did, in fact....the opposite.
    Perhaps they just dont want me to know ;)
     
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    Yeah I agree with the theory, then you have the size queens who dont follow the rule but most women do. Size is always a nice surprise for a girl. I always wonder if it takes one big dick or a few to 'turn' anyone into a lover of large love lollies lol (made that up just now :p)

    But yeah I agree.
     
  11. Dr. Dilznick

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    Probably because most of it is very male-oriented and degrading to women.

    I mean sure, *some* girls may get off on that, but I can't even watch that shit most of the times. And faking an orgasm really is a turn-off for me. Most of the men in porn are a bunch of lames who wouldn't know how to get a girl off if their lives depended on it. Then you have the asshole wife-beater types determined to make the experience as uncomfortable for them as possible. It annoys the fuck out of me.
     
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    There were no misspelled words (unless you count the instance where he used "their" instead of "there") or grammar errors in his post. I would prefer proper use of punctuation, but his use of English in his post is much better than that found in many of the posts found in this forum.
     
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    We all should use "than" for comparing and "then" for time.
     
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    I think what you say is generally accurate, but what is more important with regard to women is that they get more enjoyment out of denying that they care about size consciously and then preferring it when the opportunity arises than just admitting to themselves in the first place that they prefer it. I've been crucified for bringing this theory up elsewhere at LPSG and the respondents who opposed my thinking got so heated up about it that I ended up editing out all my previous entries just to assuage their intolerance and closed-mindedness.

    This denial characteristic was addressed by Lenny Bruce, the comic genius who was martyred by our legal system when he attempted to say the same kind of thing in the late 1950s. He didn't talk about penis size as much as just women denying that they wanted sex, which was the state of sexual openness at that time. Repression has lightened up and glimpses of a future where women openly acknowledge the appeal of large penis size have occurred, but overall we're still in the Dark Ages with respect to this dynamic.

    As soon as the denial is lifted, then both the fantasy and the reality will become less charged, and size will hold a lot less power than it does now.
     
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    There were no misspelled words (unless you count the instance where he used "their" instead of "there") or grammar errors in his post. I would prefer proper use of punctuation, but his use of English in his post is much better than that found in many of the posts found in this forum.
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    Yeah, and mostly I get mad during flames. If someone says "your an idiot", I'll call them on the irony of that statement.
     
  16. Imported

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    the_force: I don't particularly think it's as much a generalization as it is a attempt to explain the human sexuality. It is a a psychological belief that men are designed, anatomically speaking, to spread continue on the species as much as possible...and a woman seeks someone to protect her and her offspring. It's a sociological mating ritual basically. When seeking that, a woman will typically not care so much about the size of a man, because regardless of size, it performs it 's responsibility. The pleasure is just something to make the man and woman want to procreate.

    In reference to the womens denial of their desire for larger dicks. I would say that most deny it out of fear of hurting their lovers feelings. To an extent, their denial though, is fairly accurate, especially if they love the man they're with.

    And about my spelling errors, SHUT UP lol their are greater tragedies in the world then to worry about someone's spelling errors for simply typing too fast for the most part :p
     
  17. madame_zora

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    Yes, I basically agree with your premise, most women will choose a guy based more on personality and relationship issues than penis size concerns. While I do think that a woman who has been with larger men may be more predisposed to liking larger, it really depends on the woman's own size. A smaller size woman may well be relieved of the burden, while a larger (vagina size) woman may find she misses the extra inches. Also, women who are comfortable enough with themselves to fully enjoy sex at all are still in the relative minority. We must remember that different studies report different facts, but it's safe to say that between 25 to 50% of women do not experience orgasm with their partners at all! While guys are wondering if their penis is big enough, women just wish they'd notice us at all!

    True size queens (like me) are in the extreme minority, I don't care what anyone says. I've been seeing a guy for over a month now, and he says he's never before met a woman for whom it was a prerequisite. He says he was turned on by it, but it had never occured to him before and that his previous lovers (mainly) hadn't known until they got there.

    I've met quite a few hung guys this past year, but this is the first guy I've been interested in for a relationship, so it certainly wasn't a "size only" thing at all, just a "size first, then see what else we have in common" thing. Most guys not familiar with this site aren't what I expected, because A) they've found it hot that I was into their size, B) they've been very willing to talk about their experiences, even if it was clear that we weren't going anywhere and C) a sex-only meeting was agreeable to most, since they had a choice of whether to reply to my ad or not.
    Despite what may seem like a sterile way of meeting someone, I am quite pleased with the results, as I would never have met the guy I'm seeing now if not for that, and we are having a blast in the whole "getting to know you" phase.
     
  18. Imported

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    So i guess my question to you is...if size is a prerequisite to dating you...how do you determine size? Can you just look at the person and guess? Or do you, after dating a couple times...get them to the point you're about to sleep with them, have him drop his pants...and if he's large...go for it...if not, leave?
     
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    LOL! No, I ran an ad (not kidding) and some men responded.
     
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    Great work, Zora!
     
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