Well the title of this thread says it all. Im sure most of you are automatically thinking this guy is simply seeing the bartender flirt and thinks its for him, when in reality, all she wants is bigger tips. And I will stand here and say thats my thought as well. However literally every other friend of mine, whether they have seen me and her at the bar or not, have said she actually does like me.
So heres the story, I moved from a big city to a small little town several states away in May and started going to this bar around July. For about two months me and my roommate would go to this bar about once or twice a week. There are three main bartenders/servers there, all are very friendly. However very quickly my friend said that one of them liked me, lets call her N. We became fairly well known at the bar, as soon as we would walk in the girls would give us the beer we would order, without even asking us. Eventually when my beer would be empty N would come over and just give me another beer, without asking, but then would ask my buddy if he would like another one. Once again I just thought this was a way to be nice and get a bigger tip, since the girls there know I tip very well, especially for being in a small town.
My roommate moved out in the end of August so it left just me and maybe some random coworker to go to the bar. I started going a couple times a week. N is a very attractive and outgoing person, which leads me to believe her actions towards me is all for the $.
Personally I am a very shy guy, however I have noticed moving away has caused me to break out of my shell in a way. And very quickly me and N would start to talk when I was at the bar. It turns out N just turned 18 and is a senior in high school, I am not that much older then her and typically the crowd at this bar is more of the older type.
Within the past month or so we have really started to talk a lot at the bar, typically its funs little jabs/jokes at each other. Two weeks ago I brought a female coworker to the bar for drinks and dinner (simply as a friend, she is about 8 years older and in a relationship). My friend knew I had something for N and had always said N had something for me. Well it turns out N was our server for the night. The entire night N never looked at my friend, even when she was ordering, she would just continuously look and stare at me while at my table. When me and my friend would order drinks N would always bring my drink out first, and forget to bring out my friends. My friend just flat out said that N likes me. Me and my friend have been to the bar before and she basically said the other two female bartenders like me as a person, but it is apparent that N likes me more then just a person. She said N always looks over at me and smiles, which is something I have noticed as well. And that she pays more attention to me then any other customers.
Then this week came. I went to the bar Sunday night, obviously a little slower night. N was the main bartender on shift and as soon as I walked in she looked at me and smiled, just like every other night. I sat down and she brought me my beer. We then started right into it with our little jabs/jokes about each other. Eventually she would start putting dishes in front of me and say its my turn to do dishes, when she had to peel/cut some mint she was like how about you help? And just little small talk all night.
As the night went on and some people started getting drunker there was one guy who was a loud mouth and pretty close to closing time it was basically me, two other guys, and N in the bar. A guy on my left who was at the bar for the first time flat out told me I should pursue N because it was obvious she liked me, I just kind of laughed it off. The guy on the right was hammered and all of a sudden put his arm around me and started telling N that I was the kind of guy she should be with. While I was laughing, both in a nervous and an I wanna kill this guy way N was just smiling and we were basically just looking into each others eyes. Personally I thought she would have laughed and been like oh my god and walked away. Both of these guys had never seen me or N before, so its not like they knew something. When N was about to close the bar she came over to en empty seat next to me and did her little nightly tally of her money, and of course the jokes/jabs between us went on. She had never done this before, typically the bartenders go to an empty table and do this in a quiet area, but she did this sitting next to me.
Last night I was at the bar again, N was working but as a server for the rest of the restaurant while I was at the bar. Like always she smiled when I walked in and we made some jabs at each other. At one point the other two bartenders asked N how Sunday night was, since they were off, N said it was good and that she had some good company while smiling and pointing at me. I laughed and said N got me drunk, N went on to say that I was dancing on the bar and so on, which was obviously just a joke.
When N was about to get off shift she again came and sat next to me and did her little nightly tally of the money. Then she brought over a piece of cheesecake and three spoons, one for her, one for me, and another for the guy sitting next to her who is such a regular he practically owns the place. N obviously ate most but would continuously put it in front of me, while only putting it in front of the other regular once. At one point I saw one of the other bartenders look at N, look at me and back and forth a couple times and smile.
On Sunday night N found out two things about me, one my age (she just turned 18, I just turned 24) which she seemed to like a little bit? She also found out my profession, lets just say people in my profession typically dont want random people finding out what we do, and quite honestly I figured in no way would an 18 year old girl want to associate herself with a person in my job. But she seemed pretty cool about it.
What does it seem like to you guys? Is she just a flirty young bartender looking for tips, as I believe? Or does she actually have something for me? For me I have always said its all for the big tips, and I do leave big tips especially for her, but all my friends have said its not for the tips. And the ones who have seen me and her interact say she acts differently towards me then others. Quite honestly I just dont want to actually get the confidence to ask her on a date, only to find out there was no attraction and it was just for the tips.
Thanks for any response.
So heres the story, I moved from a big city to a small little town several states away in May and started going to this bar around July. For about two months me and my roommate would go to this bar about once or twice a week. There are three main bartenders/servers there, all are very friendly. However very quickly my friend said that one of them liked me, lets call her N. We became fairly well known at the bar, as soon as we would walk in the girls would give us the beer we would order, without even asking us. Eventually when my beer would be empty N would come over and just give me another beer, without asking, but then would ask my buddy if he would like another one. Once again I just thought this was a way to be nice and get a bigger tip, since the girls there know I tip very well, especially for being in a small town.
My roommate moved out in the end of August so it left just me and maybe some random coworker to go to the bar. I started going a couple times a week. N is a very attractive and outgoing person, which leads me to believe her actions towards me is all for the $.
Personally I am a very shy guy, however I have noticed moving away has caused me to break out of my shell in a way. And very quickly me and N would start to talk when I was at the bar. It turns out N just turned 18 and is a senior in high school, I am not that much older then her and typically the crowd at this bar is more of the older type.
Within the past month or so we have really started to talk a lot at the bar, typically its funs little jabs/jokes at each other. Two weeks ago I brought a female coworker to the bar for drinks and dinner (simply as a friend, she is about 8 years older and in a relationship). My friend knew I had something for N and had always said N had something for me. Well it turns out N was our server for the night. The entire night N never looked at my friend, even when she was ordering, she would just continuously look and stare at me while at my table. When me and my friend would order drinks N would always bring my drink out first, and forget to bring out my friends. My friend just flat out said that N likes me. Me and my friend have been to the bar before and she basically said the other two female bartenders like me as a person, but it is apparent that N likes me more then just a person. She said N always looks over at me and smiles, which is something I have noticed as well. And that she pays more attention to me then any other customers.
Then this week came. I went to the bar Sunday night, obviously a little slower night. N was the main bartender on shift and as soon as I walked in she looked at me and smiled, just like every other night. I sat down and she brought me my beer. We then started right into it with our little jabs/jokes about each other. Eventually she would start putting dishes in front of me and say its my turn to do dishes, when she had to peel/cut some mint she was like how about you help? And just little small talk all night.
As the night went on and some people started getting drunker there was one guy who was a loud mouth and pretty close to closing time it was basically me, two other guys, and N in the bar. A guy on my left who was at the bar for the first time flat out told me I should pursue N because it was obvious she liked me, I just kind of laughed it off. The guy on the right was hammered and all of a sudden put his arm around me and started telling N that I was the kind of guy she should be with. While I was laughing, both in a nervous and an I wanna kill this guy way N was just smiling and we were basically just looking into each others eyes. Personally I thought she would have laughed and been like oh my god and walked away. Both of these guys had never seen me or N before, so its not like they knew something. When N was about to close the bar she came over to en empty seat next to me and did her little nightly tally of her money, and of course the jokes/jabs between us went on. She had never done this before, typically the bartenders go to an empty table and do this in a quiet area, but she did this sitting next to me.
Last night I was at the bar again, N was working but as a server for the rest of the restaurant while I was at the bar. Like always she smiled when I walked in and we made some jabs at each other. At one point the other two bartenders asked N how Sunday night was, since they were off, N said it was good and that she had some good company while smiling and pointing at me. I laughed and said N got me drunk, N went on to say that I was dancing on the bar and so on, which was obviously just a joke.
When N was about to get off shift she again came and sat next to me and did her little nightly tally of the money. Then she brought over a piece of cheesecake and three spoons, one for her, one for me, and another for the guy sitting next to her who is such a regular he practically owns the place. N obviously ate most but would continuously put it in front of me, while only putting it in front of the other regular once. At one point I saw one of the other bartenders look at N, look at me and back and forth a couple times and smile.
On Sunday night N found out two things about me, one my age (she just turned 18, I just turned 24) which she seemed to like a little bit? She also found out my profession, lets just say people in my profession typically dont want random people finding out what we do, and quite honestly I figured in no way would an 18 year old girl want to associate herself with a person in my job. But she seemed pretty cool about it.
What does it seem like to you guys? Is she just a flirty young bartender looking for tips, as I believe? Or does she actually have something for me? For me I have always said its all for the big tips, and I do leave big tips especially for her, but all my friends have said its not for the tips. And the ones who have seen me and her interact say she acts differently towards me then others. Quite honestly I just dont want to actually get the confidence to ask her on a date, only to find out there was no attraction and it was just for the tips.
Thanks for any response.