"Mean Girls" yes or no?

Do you like "mean" girls?

  • Yes, I totally love mean girls

    Votes: 17 17.3%
  • No, I'd rather have a nice girl

    Votes: 71 72.4%
  • Makes no difference to me... I don't like girls (period)

    Votes: 5 5.1%
  • I don't care... a girl is a girl is a girl (love'em all)

    Votes: 5 5.1%

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I don't think the guys people would be interested in like them when they're old enough to do much about it. And I don't mean the saints with impeccable character. I mean pretty much all of the guys but the trashiest of trash. In my memory, the mean girls having any social pull at all was a junior high thing. By high school, people had grown up enough that the popular people, guys and girls alike, were the ones who were nice to everyone. Maybe my experience was better than anyone else's and my school was one in a million, I don't know. But based on what I saw, when you see movies about a bitchy queen bee running the high school, they've taken an early-adolescent phenomenon and transposed it to 18 year olds so that the story is a little more interesting.
 

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What I hate seeing is when Mean Girls get a group of sycophantic followers, who on their own are fairly innocuous, but turn into rabid, catty bitches when in the presence of their leader.

Some of them (the mean girls), not all, have some serious underlying issues of jealously, abandonment, entitlement and a need to be the center of attention. It is tiresome and irksome to be in their company for any length of time.

Sure they can be charming, but the facade only stays in place for so long. You see it IRL, on forums and OMFG in chat.

Not to say that there are not the male equivalents out there, but i am trying to stay on topic here.

I have seen my straight male friends interact with them with anything from complete disdain (like AttilaTheHung) to the "I will fuck them...then fuck the over" when they tire of there BS ways. While I don't agree with this mentality, I will not lie and say that I take pleasure in a raging bitch's fall (as much as I like seeing a complete asshat bastards comeuppance). Hearing the Mean Girls whine, bitch, moan and complain that they are treated like shit is hysterical. Hello?! Karma anyone?

I reserve my sympathy for nice people who genuinely try to do the right thing. They may screw up, but if they are not usually mean spirited person, I can forgive them.
 

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Meanness in any form is socially counterproductive and ultimately self destructive. When that trait in a person is persistent I find that it negates whatever positive attributes the person might have, including physical beauty, intelligence, wit and talent. I've run across at least my fair share of mean people (including the classic mean girls) and maybe I've just been lucky but I've never had a problem in removing them from my life.

In short I find mean girls to be totally unendurable, regardless of any redeeming qualities that they might have.
 

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Thank you folks, for all the discussion and participation. Behavior is always an interesting topic to me. I am always interested in why people do some of the (sometimes really "ass"inine) things they do.

I try to avoid conflict in my life... I am much happier when things make me laugh, smile .... and moan... (ok .. HAD to say that! hehe).

Throughout the ages, I have had to deal with mean girls, but like many of you... finding other thigs to occupy my time has been the best choices. Only a very few times in my life have I been pushed by certain girl (or girls). I am like Attilla on the attack part. Putting someone in their place verbally (preferrably in the presence of other common acquaintences) is typically the very best response.

And yes, everyone makes mistakes, as Nicodemus pointed out, but if ever I've hurt someone's feelings (and yeah it happens) I feel totally horrible... not cocky proud.

Fancy ~
 

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i like mean girls, not necessarily mean without provocation, but mean girls that react really mean when they are provoked or insulted first or when they want something.

like illythia in spartacus
 

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You bring up a new subject.... I think we were talking previously about girls that are just typically mean without provocation (you know ... mostly being mean to intimidate) ...

I certainly see nothing wrong with being a bit "bitchy" back ... but with a bit more class...

I'd like to think if someone pushed me (and it would take a lot for me to notice them) I'd have more class and not have to stoop to their level of intimidation...

But when I was younger? You would have seen some fire........... :firedevil:
Now, I think class rules.

P.S. Not really up on Sparticus (hubs loves the show) but after reading about Ilythia, I'd think being a manipulator and being decietful is what I'd classify as a "mean girl" too.. (wouldn't think she is behaving in response to being provoked.)
 
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Loved the movie...but do not like those attributes in real life. "Stop trying to make Fetch happen!"
Boo, you whore!
I wanted to make the fetch joke. :mad: :tongue:

As for the topic - no, I hate the shallow, bitchy types. I know a couple who used to be alright, and they're thawing a bit now, so I guess it's just a defence phase that some go through?
 
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I'd wager personality is more important than looks for me, and I can't stand this sort of personality. There was recently a girl interested in me who shit-talked everyone. She was average physically, but her personality was so unappealing, I'd never fuck her.
 

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I personally do not care for such women at all, I think the world is filled with enough strife and difficulty; people who have to put down others or who try and push other people's buttons constantly, I just loathe. Some other posts mentioned the motivations behind such types of women, their insecurities, projecting a false confidence, and those all ring of truth, but I think there is another type of woman who is generally mean to everyone. Well, I'll mention two types, that can very easily be one and the same- 1) overly competitive, disciplinarian, authoritarian types (the big C word (not 4 letters), to a fault, which I despise), and 2) the kind of women who really hold a grudge against men in general though they will always tell you they love men, so out of boredom or other reasons they enjoy pushing men's buttons just to see how they handle it.

This second type of woman knows the reality that in the end, men have the muscle, the final power in the end of any chain of events taken to an ultimate extreme, and so these women enjoy mastering power over men by psychological means and social means. Words are extremely powerful, and men are easily manipulated, and some women get off testing every man they come across with their sexuality and their verbal sorcery.

When such a woman encounters the kind of man who is immune to sexual charms that normally work on almost any guy, and who is immune to verbal blows like she regularly delivers (for most of my life I was NOT one of them due a huge sense of pride ("no one talks to me like that!")), it humbles such a woman to the realize there is then nothing left in her arsenal to overpower that man, and she will have a greater respect for him than she does for 99.9% of men.

Yes, I am describing a very specific person I have known for 15 years. Very, very long story.

I find it encouraging so many who answer your survey lean towards a good girl. To me, a good girl does NOT mean weak; no woman should put up with a man who regularly gives her shit for no good reason, I like a woman who gets feisty when she's offended or defending someone. A good girl does not mean boring or quiet, or lacking in personality. It just means she is a pleasant person for people to know, she makes other people happy and is giving and thoughtful; wouldn't most people prefer that in most people regardless of gender? Good girls can still be wildcats in bed, in fact that is the sexiest thing of all to me, a woman who is sweet and gentle in public and everyday living, but once in a sexual situation with a man she trusts, turns into a wild oversexed beast! :)

Of course the world does need some rowdy people in the mix for variety, but still. Being mean is not the least bit sexy to me personally. A few women I've known had this incredibly stupid idea- seems to work on most men, but certainly not on me- that making me pissed at them will make me fuck them better later when I am holding on to some resentment of them. I know many guys operate that way mentally, but it just makes you a fucking tool for her manipulations, it means you can't think and act for yourself. Do the opposite of what she intends you to. Be unpredictable. Keep her guessing, keep her exasperated trying to figure you out even after years of knowing you. That's my approach. I smell out attempts at manipulation like this a mile away, but most people are predictable to me after a few moments to get a read on them. Wasn't always that way, to be certain! Ah, no substitute for experience...

Rude people in general- either sex- who are nasty to strangers in public, is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. People who are abrasive to those they know, I quickly find ways to avoid them or altogether remove them from my life. I have enough stress to deal with. I love being in social environments were courtesy- if not necessarily formality- is highly expected and returned, like an engineer's office, or other professional settings. Very respectful people of any walk of life quickly earn high respect from me.

Funny enough I just added a LOT of books on my Amazon Wish List regarding how to deal with mean people, mean women, overbearing types, etc. I have always despised such people but not always dealt with them in the best way possible, I want to know how to utterly diffuse or even humiliate such rotten souls, to every time they try and push my buttons, instead of getting upset, I say the exact right thing back to completely disarm them and make them impotent. :-D

-Vince
 

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I D-E-S-P-I-S-E mean and petty women. It is a sign of an overblown ego, and insecurity. The ones who act like they have a huge ego, who act entitled to everything in the world, deep down know they would be lucky to eat the shit out of a baboons ass.

Many of the women in my department at work are immature, petty, spiteful women/girls. It's maddening, frustrating, and irritating. Starting rumors, poking fun, backstabbing, calling names... People ask me "why don't you want a job on 1st shift and have a life?"
I say, "I have a dandy life just fine thanks, and besides the other reasons I'm on 3rd, not having to work with those little twats is incentive enough for me."
 

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i'm attracted to different women for different reasons and in different contexts. as in, if it's just spank bank material, i could care less about your personality; if you're a friend, i don't enjoy being around anyone who is a dick to other people but will tolerate a modicum of it depending on how much we hang out; if you're my 'significant other', i'm going to want to be with and around you a ton obviously and if you're a dick, that just won't fly. the only reason i didn't check the "i like nice girls" option is that i don't like the stereotype of a "nice girl" (being a doormat or not having any edge at all). self-confident, independent, funny, sexy (physically) and SEXY (mentally) is the girl for me.

This!!


I think (some) men will put up with a lot of bullshit (bad attitudes etc) to have a really hot piece of ass/eye candy. Unless she sucks in bed?

My boyfriend said he had a ridiculously hot girlfriend. Total model material or she always said she was anyway. Total bitch! Rude. Abrasive. Sense of entitlement. Men always did what she demanded of them. He put up with her at first because she was hot. He got tired of her REAL quick. He broke up with her and she said: Men do NOT break up with me. You WILL be back. He wasn't. Lol!

So anyway. He hated to admit it - but men do sometimes make illogical decisions when they think with their dicks!

Personally, I think that a confident woman doesn't need to be mean or belittle others to make themselves look or feel superior. Having respect for yourself and others exudes class. I think that's sexy in both sexes.

*Nods.
 

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To be honest I don't think that the behaviour described in the OP is gender specific, nor is it purely the remit of the beautiful. I've seen that type of behaviour exhibited by males as well as females of all descriptions and both sexes are equally as capable of behaving like arseholes.

I like people who exude warmth and are down-to-earth, so a mean disposition does not appeal.
 
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To be honest I don't think that the behaviour described in the OP is gender specific, nor is it purely the remit of the beautiful. I've seen that type of behaviour exhibited by males as well as females of all descriptions and both sexes are equally as capable of behaving like arseholes.

I like people who exude warmth and are down-to-earth, so a mean disposition does not appeal.

Yes,m Redz, I agree it isn't gender specific, nor is it a trait assigned only to the beautiful people in the world. The question was sparked by the movie, thus the question only about girls.

But you are so right... men and women alike can possess these unattractive qualities. YOU... are a true, nice (and sexy) lady.

PS. I LOVE MM and adore your quote~