I personally do not care for such women at all, I think the world is filled with enough strife and difficulty; people who have to put down others or who try and push other people's buttons constantly, I just loathe. Some other posts mentioned the motivations behind such types of women, their insecurities, projecting a false confidence, and those all ring of truth, but I think there is another type of woman who is generally mean to everyone. Well, I'll mention two types, that can very easily be one and the same- 1) overly competitive, disciplinarian, authoritarian types (the big C word (not 4 letters), to a fault, which I despise), and 2) the kind of women who really hold a grudge against men in general though they will always tell you they love men, so out of boredom or other reasons they enjoy pushing men's buttons just to see how they handle it.
This second type of woman knows the reality that in the end, men have the muscle, the final power in the end of any chain of events taken to an ultimate extreme, and so these women enjoy mastering power over men by psychological means and social means. Words are extremely powerful, and men are easily manipulated, and some women get off testing every man they come across with their sexuality and their verbal sorcery.
When such a woman encounters the kind of man who is immune to sexual charms that normally work on almost any guy, and who is immune to verbal blows like she regularly delivers (for most of my life I was NOT one of them due a huge sense of pride ("no one talks to me like that!")), it humbles such a woman to the realize there is then nothing left in her arsenal to overpower that man, and she will have a greater respect for him than she does for 99.9% of men.
Yes, I am describing a very specific person I have known for 15 years. Very, very long story.
I find it encouraging so many who answer your survey lean towards a good girl. To me, a good girl does NOT mean weak; no woman should put up with a man who regularly gives her shit for no good reason, I like a woman who gets feisty when she's offended or defending someone. A good girl does not mean boring or quiet, or lacking in personality. It just means she is a pleasant person for people to know, she makes other people happy and is giving and thoughtful; wouldn't most people prefer that in most people regardless of gender? Good girls can still be wildcats in bed, in fact that is the sexiest thing of all to me, a woman who is sweet and gentle in public and everyday living, but once in a sexual situation with a man she trusts, turns into a wild oversexed beast!
Of course the world does need some rowdy people in the mix for variety, but still. Being mean is not the least bit sexy to me personally. A few women I've known had this incredibly stupid idea- seems to work on most men, but certainly not on me- that making me pissed at them will make me fuck them better later when I am holding on to some resentment of them. I know many guys operate that way mentally, but it just makes you a fucking tool for her manipulations, it means you can't think and act for yourself. Do the opposite of what she intends you to. Be unpredictable. Keep her guessing, keep her exasperated trying to figure you out even after years of knowing you. That's my approach. I smell out attempts at manipulation like this a mile away, but most people are predictable to me after a few moments to get a read on them. Wasn't always that way, to be certain! Ah, no substitute for experience...
Rude people in general- either sex- who are nasty to strangers in public, is a HUGE pet peeve of mine. People who are abrasive to those they know, I quickly find ways to avoid them or altogether remove them from my life. I have enough stress to deal with. I love being in social environments were courtesy- if not necessarily formality- is highly expected and returned, like an engineer's office, or other professional settings. Very respectful people of any walk of life quickly earn high respect from me.
Funny enough I just added a LOT of books on my Amazon Wish List regarding how to deal with mean people, mean women, overbearing types, etc. I have always despised such people but not always dealt with them in the best way possible, I want to know how to utterly diffuse or even humiliate such rotten souls, to every time they try and push my buttons, instead of getting upset, I say the exact right thing back to completely disarm them and make them impotent. :-D
-Vince