Meeting a girl on a night out...

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I kinda have a gf n told this girl this, but me and my gf have been on n off loads lately so I ended up kissing this other girl (That and lots to drink) - Had awesome banter, went back to my friends house got really drunk n ended up falling asleep beside her - woke up n just spooned into her naked all night!

In the morning she woke up n we were flirting in bed n still kissing so there cant of been much regret, talked downstairs n laughed n kissed more!

Anyhoo, text her later on something like wish we oculd still be spooning, nothing too weird! She writes back n was just like yeah, was good off to bed now!

So I text her yesterday n just say u feeling better now, u fancy going for a drink or something sometime maybe (I know aparently you shouldnt text so soon but she was really hot!) and she hadnt replied! :(

When am I allowed to text again!? Me and my gf are like 90% over n I really would quite like more hugs with this other gal! I duno if shes not texting cos she thinks I have a gf or cos I was just a play thing for the night!

Never really done anything like this b4 been with the same girl like all my life, the rules of dating are very strange to me! Surely she should just text back n say how it is! :p
 

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Ok, how about this for a text to send her, as when I was with her she asked if she could add me on facebook but then we were like hmmm might not be a good idea...

Something like...

Hey, btw u can add me on facebook if u like, things with me and my gf don't look so good this week...

That' worded so bad, hmmm
 

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Dude, you are just looking for a beating.

First, do all parties involved a huge favor, end it with your girlfriend if you're done with the relationship. Saves a lot of pain.

And seriously, I can't think of a bigger turn-off then receiving a text from a guy I just met that reads, and I quote,

"Hey, btw u can add me on facebook if u like, things with me and my gf don't look so good this week..."

I couldn't get far enough away from a guy/jerk like that. You know what I'm texting back? FUCK OFF CREEP!
 

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hmmm probs for the best! Me and my gf are pretty over, like shes moved bk home on a break n we are still fighting... I think Im possibly thinking it was a bigger deal than it was cos in the morning we were still all over each over - But we were probably still drunk! Will resist texting her,dont think Ive made myself sound like a creep so far so you never know, maybe shell be bored one day n think about me! :)
 

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I always try to give someone the benefit before a doubt.I know you got on here all excited by a hot girl you picked up, slept with, did not fuck and you were both drunk ? Sounds like a perfect start to a new relationship with someone..And you say you are 90% broke up with your gf ? I think you are most likely broke up with your gf when she left and moved home. And you are still arguing with her ?I don't know what you are fighting over but have you checked the history of the web sites you visit ? Do you think she has checked them ? I am not going to be as harsh as Mercury Girl but that is a woman's point of view that's pretty much dead on.You sound like a young inexpierenced guy. I know I have woke up in the past and wondered "what was I thinking".
 

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Ah, me n my gf seem to just fight over anything now, different view points on what life is I think.

I'm not trying to be stalkerish, which is y I came on here for advice, I have only sent the one text without reply! Guess I was just hoping if this other girl was nice splitting with my gf wouldn't be as depressing
 

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I feel the stalker is strong in this one...

I laughed out loud when I read that! Many thanks for brightening up an otherwise dull morning :smile:

With respect to the OP, you might want to consider this: if you were a woman would you honestly want to hear words to the effect that because you are breaking up with your GF you are looking for someone to fill the space? A message like that would make me run for the hills!
 

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I laughed out loud when I read that! Many thanks for brightening up an otherwise dull morning :smile:

With respect to the OP, you might want to consider this: if you were a woman would you honestly want to hear words to the effect that because you are breaking up with your GF you are looking for someone to fill the space? A message like that would make me run for the hills!

agreed, good job I was thinking out loud on here n didn't text it... My latest text idea is just somethin like "hey, u not talking? Sorry I shouldnt of asked u out before u just seem.really nice, hope we can be friends *smiley face" then she'll text bk n be like yeah u shouldn't u have a gf, n I can tell her not really n then she'll be like wow ur single I'd love to come n fuk u all day... Then I'd wake up
 

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I kinda have a gf n told this girl this, but me and my gf have been on n off loads lately so I ended up kissing this other girl (That and lots to drink) - Had awesome banter, went back to my friends house got really drunk n ended up falling asleep beside her - woke up n just spooned into her naked all night!

In the morning she woke up n we were flirting in bed n still kissing so there cant of been much regret, talked downstairs n laughed n kissed more!

Anyhoo, text her later on something like wish we oculd still be spooning, nothing too weird! She writes back n was just like yeah, was good off to bed now!

So I text her yesterday n just say u feeling better now, u fancy going for a drink or something sometime maybe (I know aparently you shouldnt text so soon but she was really hot!) and she hadnt replied! :(

When am I allowed to text again!? Me and my gf are like 90% over n I really would quite like more hugs with this other gal! I duno if shes not texting cos she thinks I have a gf or cos I was just a play thing for the night!

Never really done anything like this b4 been with the same girl like all my life, the rules of dating are very strange to me! Surely she should just text back n say how it is! :p

Sounds to me, you were a safe one-night stand. You have a gf and were not likely to want to end a stable relationship, you just wanted something new. Also, this hot girl "beat" your girlfriend in "the competition", as she saw it. This was just a re-establishment and confirmation of her hotness (- I can get anyone I want). Also, there was lots of alcohol involved. She possibly regretted it when she woke up.

I don't think you have a chance.
Plus, you're using your current girlfriend as a stand-in for regular sex or comfort until you meet someone "better". That pisses me off so much. Grow some balls man. Break up with her.
 

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agreed, good job I was thinking out loud on here n didn't text it... My latest text idea is just somethin like "hey, u not talking? Sorry I shouldnt of asked u out before u just seem.really nice, hope we can be friends *smiley face" then she'll text bk n be like yeah u shouldn't u have a gf, n I can tell her not really n then she'll be like wow ur single I'd love to come n fuk u all day... Then I'd wake up

Yeah she's not going to reply to that text. what she will do is show her mates and they'll all have a good giggle over it. Seriously, do not text her. You've been pumped and dumped. And break up with your girlfriend. right now. you're just making yourself look like a douchbag.
 

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we have totally broke up really... just like we have a flat together so its not as easy as just its over - lots to sort out n get on with... she text last night saying she missed home but needs some space n i havent asked her bk... Im really no using her til something else comes along, I think Im trying to find something else to make it easier to move on... weve been together a long timen had breaks b4 n got bk together. I think I am rrealising that any text i send should be very short, n very unserious, at most it should be "hey, u ok? been up to much?" n delete her number straight after... I still think there was something there with us n shes not replying cos of the gf issue, but maybe its in my head n theres literally no way of telling her unless we get some banter going first!
 

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Yeah, Sarah is saying some good stuff here.

Man, there IS always a chance, but you didn't start a relationship with her on any solid grounds at all. Ya know? And there is not much you can do if she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. I would suggest, if you are actually serious about this chick, you CALL HER (not some text message bs), and ask her straight up if she will go out with you to dinner. Be straight forward at this point- you don't have anything to lose. Most likely it'll go to voicemail- leave the same as a message. If she doesn't respond, forget about it.

The other thing is... THE FUCK YOU DOING WORRYING ABOUT ANOTHER GIRL WHEN YOU ARE STILL WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND? Deal with that first bro! Treat women right!!! Because, there is NO CHANCE of having a good relationship with your current girlfiend if you are messing around- that just won't work. And if you plan on staying with her, you need to tell her that you hooked up with another chick.