Meeting guys online

[athleticguy]

Does anyone do it? I'd like to, since I don't go out on the scene much, but it never seems to work. I have accounts on Plentyoffish, Gaydar and Ladslads, and am quite open minded, but never seem to meet people that I'd be interested in seeing in real life.

What do you guys use, and what for? Relationships, one night stands, casual dates?

 

[buzzrider7]

I just joined OKCupid this week (though it may be just a US site?) thinking that it'd be fun to have a coffee date or two. It's very bi/gay friendly, and one of the most popular ones here in San Francisco. The quality of guys and gals there seems to be pretty good. It's mostly for casual dates and meeting new friends, not really a "hook-up" site. I always thought Gaydar was pretty good quality in Europe. No?

 

[athleticguy]

I find on GD a lot of people just don't reply to you, which kind of sucks.

 

[Countryguy63]

I've met some pretty good people on-line. Of course lot's of flakes also.

Most don't consider this place a dating site, but I met someone very special here :smile:

Buzz, have to say that I'm surprised that you don't have folks lining up for you :wink:

 

[athleticguy]

I was gonna say that, too, Buzz. Funny how I never really considered this as a place to meet guys...ha.

 

[Countryguy63]

I was gonna say that, too, Buzz. Funny how I never really considered this as a place to meet guys...ha.

You just don't have a gallery to show enough, but just based on your avatar, I'll bet you fit in that category too :wink: :smile:

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

I believe you can meet someone nice anywhere. Even by coincidence.
Most of the times it happens when you aren't expecting it. Most of the times joining datesites makes it even harder because everyone is so focused to meet mr/mrs right that you become fixated on finding a relationship.
So not really an advice, just my experience with it.

 

[willow78]

J came here to just lurk in the background at perv at dicks, but then I started getting involved with the threads, posting and commenting and started to get some reactions. I then put up a couple of pics so the people could see who they were talking to and since then I've made a couple of close e-friendships. But they all live on the other side of the world from me so meeting them is still a long way off.

Countryguy63 and pieterjoke are both spot on! LPSG is not really a dating site but has lead to some great connections - not just sexual. And it can happen when you least expect it. I think with dating sites, there is a lot of pressure and expectations about finding 'the one'. I guess that's why LPSG works for some people - even though there are specific areas/forums for meetings (both real-life and cyber), it's mostly a place to chat, communicate, hang out and make friends. Without all the pressure, these e-friendships get the chance to develop slowly without any expectations or pre-conceptions or criteria and you end up making friends with people you would probably never meet through specific dating sites.

 

[kewlkid75]

I am on plenty of fish and I got pics and I ask for friendships, dating. Now, I get responses but all the guys live 4, 5, or even 6 states away[you know long distance dating]. I would love to date someone locally, but it is difficult here. DL guys, college guys[not wanting over 30 yr olds], just plain nothing.

Tried club and bar scene, just got fed up. Still searching though..........This sucks ass.

 

[rob_]

I just joined OKCupid this week (though it may be just a US site?)

Well, they have OKCupid in Canada as well.
I met my last boyfriend on there, and I've dated a few other guys from that site.
It's a great site and I recommend it to everyone interested in trying internet dating.
Although, I think I'm done trying internet dating. Or dating in general, for that matter. At least until I figure out what I want. GUH.

 

[buzzrider7]

Aww, thanks! No, there was no line at the door the last time I checked. Maybe they're just still trying to find where I live?

Buzz, have to say that I'm surprised that you don't have folks lining up for you :wink:

 

[ohboyyy]

Hmm Adam4Adam. Met like two people off there. They seemed cool. One was a weirdo. I have deleted my account since then.

 

[TheRob]

it's really not safe to meet someone fromthe internet man or woman

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

it's really not safe to meet someone fromthe internet man or woman

You should explain that thought because I highly disagree.
Especially knowing that many people these days find a partner because of the internet.
But please do explain.

 

[captainwhackit]

I use a mutual wanking site, because it's full of guys interested in masturbation just like me.
I meet up with a few guys regularly, and meet a new guy I'm interested in about once every couple of months. Some of them I just watch porn with while we have a wank, some of them like to swap hands, some like to suck dick. But all of the guys I regularly meet are now friends too and we go to the pub, go camping or just hang out. It's not always about dick, but we usually end up finishing the night with a mutual stroke.

I've always said it's more important to build the friendships. I don't like the hooking up thing without any intention to be mates, that's not what it's about for me. I like the male friendship to be a part of my sex.

 

[redejb87]

I met my bf of 6 yrs online.....quite by accident on yahoo. Although I wouldn't reccomend that chat service anymore, full of bots and junk. Just keep trying and you'll find someone nice eventually!

And I don't understand the reasoning that meeting someone online isn't safe. If you are careful and follow certain precautions, there's nothing wrong with it. You can have serial killers as your next door neighbors and not know about it lol. Most people are pretty nice.