meeting up on craigslist- what do you think?

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  1. dannyb6

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    hey there
    i have been emailing with someone on craigslist and am supposed to go to his hotel to hook up in about a half hour. he's sent a picture, i have his hotel info, etc so i think it's probably safe. anyone have any luck with this or advice?

    thanks!
     
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    Danny.

    Have him meet you in the lobby first. Also leave the info on where your going with a friend. Have fun and play safe.
     
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    I've hooked up with a few folks from Craigslist and I've always met them in public first. I think it's a good plan, even if you just choose the lounge of their hotel - a five minute conversation can be enough for you to realize that you either trust the person or that you're really sketched out.
     
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    thanks guys; i appreciate the tips and will do that for sure
     
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    I have lost track of the girls and guys I've meet on Craig's list... Just play it smart, meet at a Starbucks or something for coffee 1st, then go fuck your brains out.
     
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    people actually do that??
    i prefer monogamy actually... i think its b/c im working through some security issues...
     
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    well, i did what you said.. met him in the lobby. everything was safe..awkward at first, for sure!

    didnt enjoy the sex too much at all... thinkin i may have to re-adjust my percentages to increase the straight!
     
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    Sorry to hear you didn't have as much fun as you'd have liked. Maybe he just wasn't the right guy... or maybe for you guy on guy is sexier in your head than it is in practice.

    Don't feel knocked back though, shit happen :smile:
     
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    What happended, why was it not enjoyable?
     
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    I've used C'sL to get a lunch time blow a few times.

    Have also found some good fuck buddies that way that have become regulars.
     
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    I have wandered thru CL, but find it....not sure of the word...creepy?

    just a very bad vibe...

    have a friend who has had some decent luck there but....
     
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    CL is no more creepy than any other online way to meet up, sorry catman but i think older people think hooking up with partners you meet online is somehow weird, or taboo, or dirty, but for me it's just an easy way to sort through the haystack.

    if you're at a party and trying to figure out who's into what or at a bar and trying to get to the essence of what somebody might be looking for it can be difficult, and i think alot of people have trouble with full disclosure and honesty in person.

    as far as I'm concerned facebook, myspace CL etc, are an improvement over the way things used to happen. and i think people who have grown up using the web to communicate get that. why not be direct? be smart about how you meet and safe about sex and it's a great way to connect with like minded people. I"ve also had 4 roomies from CL at various times (current one is a guy i met on another site) and they've all been good. Craig deserves a Nobel for his list.

    i've never been a client of a site like e-harmony but i get the sense it's alot of the same game playing poser bs that happens old school style, it's like being at a cocktail party, people embellishing their "resume" trying to enhance thier chances. and as you peel away the layers of the onion you realize it's rotten to the core.
     
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    how did you manage to get past all the spam and fake posts?!

    I'm stuck at that part.
     
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    Moez, can you really not tell the difference? I feel like it's pretty easy. I mean, when you have a smiling blonde chick with DD cups who is saying "I can't wait for you to come inside of me! Hairy, older, married guys make me so hot!", it's obviously fake.

    I find it strange that all of my ads have gotten flagged for being "too good to be true" just because I have a filthy mind and know what I want - because obviously, my physical description is more that of a real woman than a LCD Dream Woman(tm). If I was trying to bait the highest percentage of gullible strangers to my paid porn site, I wouldn't be telling them that I'm androgynous and unshaven with A cups, you know? But that's just it - there _are_ real women on CL who want to do all manner of nasty things, but most of them aren't going to meet the fantasies of the typical guy. Incidentally, even for the unconventional women like myself, it's still our market. If a typical ad gets, say, 100 responses, I may answer 1 or 2 tops, and out of those will only end up meeting 1 out of 5 people. I feel like I should offer a "what not to do" class for dudes answering CL ads. At the top of the list is people that are typing one-handed and therefore can't even be bothered to formulate a few complete sentences. Finishing jacking off before you reply, dumbasses!
     
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    this will mortify catman , if he thinks having sex with a stranger off CL is creepy, actually staying at a strangers house for a long wknd will give him seizures.

    i'm sure most people have heard of it by now but couchsurfing.com is a great way to travel cheap and meet locals wherever you go who can show you their real city instead of the usual touristy crap.

    I've used it several times to find a place to crash for short trips (sf, portland, park city, denver, chicago, nyc, and spent a couple of days in buenos aires out of a much longer trip) that are pretty spontaneous, u do have to give some notice and sometimes theres a couple of back and forths with emails but usually the people that sign up to host are ok with short notice, at least that's been my experience. and they kinda do a background check when you register, to weed out the total psycho's

    it's alot less complicated than trying to "trade houses" for a trip, usually the accomodations aren't 5 star, more likely a futon than a king size bed, but it varies, and i'm low maintenence so it's perfect. and there's alot of listings for couples to stay.

    it's not a sex matching service at all. and I've never hooked up with any of my hosts, but have always felt really welcome and at home with them. if you're not the kind of person who luvs meeting new people and makes friends easily it might not be for you. there are alot of other sites now that do similar networking it adds a great dimension to travel that you don't get if you're staying in a conventional hotel.
     
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    Not a sex matching service? I guess there is some place for that kind of business model -- but what is the point?
     
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    Sounds like a way to get mugged, killed or end up chained in a basement somewhere.
     
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    This is why I wont travel anywhere outside the US even though the chances of being robbed, sold off, and then killed for someone's else's pleasure aren't any better than anywhere else.....so i choose to stay here with close people who do not creep me out
     
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    who r u kidding, u pay to get chained up in a basement
     
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