Men and porn

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  1. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Firstly let me say i love a man who masturbates, and i love it even moreso when he lets me watch. And on that note i once had an ex who had a good collection of porn but wouldnt watch it when i was there. He would masturbate for me just not with the aid of porn. When i asked why he said it felt dirty and almost as if he was being unfaithful. I often tried to sit with him and make it a "mutual" effort but that was a disaster, the porn came on he couldnt cum

    So just wondering how you feel about your man watching porn (with or without you) and men how do you feel about your ladies/gents being involved in your porn cuisades?
     
  2. snoozan

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    Yes to all, I love it.

    Let me add a caveat to that, though. It can get to be too much to become worrying. I don't know at what level that is because I've never experienced it.

    I like my porn.
     
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    I watched some porn with an ex of mine
    no problem so far
     
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    My wife and I use porn a LOT during foreplay....it really gets her juices flowing. We usually watch 30 minutes of various genres, and by that time she is hot,wet and breathing hard.

    Without it, unless she's really horny, it takes me a long time to get her juices going, sometimes not at all.

    The problem is, after a while, all porn seems the same....
     
  5. conchis

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    watching porn is like watching sport on tv, passive_and I'm into active sport.
    despite this, sometimes I watched porn with my gf, yes (living in the Pope city doesn't means I'm a priest :).

    We never saw a complete movie, always have had sex before the end.

    so my recipe:
    porn in 2 + sex: ok
    porn alone (with or without 'selfsex'): a little bit sad
     
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    I've watched porn with a girlfriend before but just as we were fooling around on the computer and not necessarily as a sex act.

    I do see why your boyfriend thought it weird to masterbate in front of you while watching porn to get off. I think it might be awkward at first, but not psychologically crippling as in his case. If it really stimulated my girlfriend, I would be happy to do it, although the porn part probably wouldn't be needed for actual stimulation. I would want her close though and not across the room or watching from afar, as that would not feel very intimate at all for me. At that rate, I might as well just make videos and send them to her when we're not together.
     
  7. ManlyBanisters

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    I blow hot and cold on porn - as does Mr.B. Generally speaking we like it - we have no objection to it, that's for sure. Sometimes we seek it out (either together or separately) and other times we don't find it that stimulating. I think, someone said it too, after a while it gets a bit samey - but then sometimes you find something that pushes a certain button and that's great. We also like to find images and stories that turn the other on.

    We're both comfortable masturbating in front of eachother, as foreplay or mutual masturbation or even just if one of us needs a release and the other isn't in the mood.
     
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    I use to watch porn a lot. I have found that some porn desensitizes me in regard to real affection.

    Don't get me wrong I think a certain amount of porn that is of the right nature can feed our sexual imagination. The problem is that much porn keeps pushing the envelope in regard to body image. For men and woman who do not possess that body image it can distract us from the real thing.
     
  9. dolfette

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    it's non of my business how he gets off on his own.

    pics/vids/stories

    i'm not going to stop looking at porn or getting myself off!
     
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    We've integrated porn into our 'regular' sex life, so the majority of my porn viewing is with my wife.
     
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    Some guys see masturbating to porn as a singular experience...not one they'd like to share with their partner because it's socially regarded as a "secret" thing that you do. However, there are many people who get off to their partner liking the porn as much as they do.
     
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    since i was about 19,every girlfriend i've ever had i've either got them back into watching porn,or introducing them to it.and they all still watch it.they know all the males and females,all my firends joke saying you can tell who my ex's were by asking them porno trivia(lol)
     
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    Women I've known platonically have had such negative comments to the idea of their men watching porn and stroking off....if they knew that they were just as hot and sexy as the women in the vids, they just couldn't grasp that he wasn't cheating on them, even though he was jacking and fantasizing about fucking the hot women in the flick. As a gay man, when I was in a monogamous relationship, I wouldn't even think of letting my lover know and watch me....it was my private time. I think that any men, g or s, just like to pull our puds sometime and get off, no need to pay attention to anyone else's needs, demands, emotionality. Male sexuality isn't the same as female sexuality...of course, but equal, etc, etc. :rolleyes:
     
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    Hi, well I am just entering this forum, I am the wife from Charlypan47, one little comment: porn is very extent, depends the way you see it. Is better you be with you partner watching it (soft porn, couples) enjoy it, and then finally, make love together.
    By the other way, if you dont like it, try to communicate with your pal, and then find the better way to enjoy it.
    Hope this will help you.
    Ciao
    Tami
     
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    I watch porn with most of my friends, classmates included... the boys don't mind, and it's never caused a problem.
     
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    You're too COOOL. Are there more out there like you?
     
  17. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Actually one observation i made (early thankfully) and guys correct me if im wrong but when you guys watch porn you are fantasizing about the actions and not nessecarly the man/woman in the video. Now i realize this i love nothing more than sitting beside my man (when i have one :redface:) and jacking him off while we're watching porn
     
  18. JMeister

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    When a woman wants to jerk me off I feel cheated. I can do that plenty well myself, so if I am with a lady I want to do something else.

    But I got no problem with a woman sitting on my cock watching a porno. :biggrin1:
     
  19. No_Strings

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    I love handjobs, and while I'd rather watch her face or look at her body, if she wants to put some porn on then that's cool too. :smile:
     
  20. conchis

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    usually I don't like to be masturbated by a hand that's not mine.
    handjob can be good, used as foreplay, but I definitely don't wanna cum in that way
     
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