Here's something that some men do that causes a lot of problems, and it's a big thing: stonewalling. TheBF has never done it, but previous boyfriends have and I think that some women do this, too. I've dated men who clam up and refuse to tell me what's wrong when they're mad. I've broken up with guys when they did it, because I was confused, or hurt, or frustrated, or tired of being treated badly. If something is wrong, bring it up and talk about it. I'm glad I've never had to deal with that with TheBF.
Here's a really little thing that isn't important at all, I just don't understand it. TheBF has a bad sense of direction and no ego about it. He freely admits that he gets lost easily and he jokes about it all the time. The part I don't understand is the fact that he's hostile about using the GPS. I love the GPS. In fact, he bought it for me to help keep me from getting lost, but he never wants to use it. He'll roll his eyes and complain when I insist on using it.
Some guys are extremely messy and I've dated a few of those, but I've also dated a few neat freaks that put me to shame. I prefer neat freaks because some messy guys are like "living in a garbage dump" level of messy. One thing that TheBF just recently stopped doing, just since I had the baby, was leaving food on the counter so that it went bad every time he made any food. Without fail, he'd leave at least one thing out, like the mayonnaise or leaving the bread bag open so it went stale, if not every single thing he pulled out of the fridge, like the moment he completed making his food he could no longer see the mess. I'd find the mess hours later, sometimes after he had offered to cook for us, so that I felt conflicted about complaining about it. He's gotten so much better at it that most of the time the kitchen is clean when he's done in there. I am so proud of him! (Actually, he just did it tonight, but he cooked dinner while I took care of the baby, so how can I complain that he left half a jar of spaghetti sauce on the counter with the lid off?)
Here are a few more little things that he does:
- He can't sort laundry because he can't tell the difference between synthetic fibers and cotton. I've actually spent quite a bit of time trying to teach him this, but it appears to be something he's never going to get.
-He collects empty cans of tuna and soda around his desk, stacking them higher and higher. Everyone once in a while there's a crash when they all fall over. It's hilarious!
- He's afraid of cutting the dog's toenails because he's afraid of hurting her and he would pay a groomer to do it if I didn't do it.
- He can't seem to master filling the dishwasher so that all the dishes get clean and none of them end up nested or collecting water or food. I've tried to show him a few tips and tricks, which he uses, but he still messes up something every single time. If I didn't know better, I'd suspect this was an attempt to avoid having to fill the dishwasher. :tongue:
To be fair, here are some things about me:
- Anything child proof is also Miss Petite proof and must be opened by TheBF
- I am afraid of the lawn mower. If he didn't mow the lawn, I would pay a lawn service to do it, or someone in the neighborhood. I'm not afraid of the other lawn equipment and I actually do more work on the lawn than him, I'm just afraid that I'm too small to control the mower. It doesn't help that one of my grandfather's neighbors lost his leg when he lost control of his mower.
- I do want him to kill bugs for me. If I have to, I can do it, but I'd rather he do it and he doesn't seem to mind. (Once he walked me through killing a giant spider on the ceiling while on the phone with me because he was at work. It went badly because it ran in my direction and dropped from the ceiling, causing me to panic and scream and drop the phone. When I finally picked the phone up after I was done checking my hair and back for the spider, he was still laughing.)
- I also prefer it if he cleans up dog vomit.
- I ask him to fetch things that roll under the porch because I'm afraid of spiders.
- He also cleans the toilet more often than I do, because I think it's gross. (Have you noticed there's a "gross" theme here?)
LMAO!!!!! Ok I am guilty of the seat belt thing as well, but then so are both my sisters. Must be genetic:wink:
The part that drives me craziest about the seat belt thing is that I suspect that if I wasn't in the car, he wouldn't be wearing it because he's forgotten to put it on, since I have to remind him to put it on so often. It makes me very suspicious about what he does when I'm not in the car. I don't want him to die in a car wreck, so it's really important to me!
As for the can't find things? I will make an honest attempt at looking for things, but it will usually come to me having to ask someone else to find it (though I do prefece my request with "I am probably just being blind, but...")
Most of the time that he can't find something, it only takes me about 5 seconds to find it, because it's actually right out in the open, so I know that he's making the calculation that it's more efficient to scream out my name so that I run in and find whatever he can't find immediately. He knows that he'll have to pay for doing that, too, since I do make fun of him every single time. :tongue:
The gas tank bieng empty? Both my Sis and BIL do this to each other though...the both swear they don't!
:lmao:
I've never gotten it myself, and I AM a girl! Why should the men be the ones inconvenienced? I think everyone should be inconvenienced equally.
Although you shouldn't leave the LID up if your toilet is in the same room as your toothbrushes.
The reason why I don't like the lid up is because then things fall into the toilet. I know it doesn't happen often, but it's happened once, and that's too often for me. :tongue:
We also have a dog. She's clever and she knows that she doesn't need to abide by all the rules if we don't see her break them. She can't lift the lid of the toilet, so keeping the lid closed prevents her from drinking out of it.