Men be honest: are you satisfied of relationships with women?

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One of the most common things to discuss in bisexual spaces is that men are starting to turn to other men because it's easier, that most men are a bit bi, that men should experience sex with another man because they can please them better, etc. In straight spaces there is also lots of talk about how much of a hassle dating or marriage is and a considerable amount of men says they want to be gay. Hence why I am wondering, is it common for men to actually be satisfied in their straight relationships? I'm a woman btw
 

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One of the most common things to discuss in bisexual spaces is that men are starting to turn to other men because it's easier, that most men are a bit bi, that men should experience sex with another man because they can please them better, etc. In straight spaces there is also lots of talk about how much of a hassle dating or marriage is and a considerable amount of men says they want to be gay. Hence why I am wondering, is it common for men to actually be satisfied in their straight relationships? I'm a woman btw
Yes, I enjoy my "straight" relationships with women, which I put in quotes because I think that many (but not all) Bi men have different perspectives on norms and role-taking in relationships that make them a different dynamic than straight men. Additionally, many of the women I'm drawn to are bisexual themselves, so neither person in a few of my relationships were straight.

That being said, I've enjoyed a lot of my time with straight women. I don't think that it's necessarily true at all that men doing a better job of pleasing men than women do; I find that once the scripts of heteronormativity and how relationships and sexual encounters are "supposed" to go is thrown out the window, then BOTH partners can negotiate and more fully enjoy themselves.
 

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The honest answer is yes but only because it is with several women. A single women could never handle me without needing frequent visits to the hospital.
 
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I've come to the realization that I'm aromantic. I love having sex with women and finding comfort, but the idea of relationships honestly exhaust me and make me anxious. I'd rather be friends who enjoy each other's company mentally and physically instead of the whole romantic wining and dining stuff. Honestly, a good friday night fuck with a sex worker has been all i need as of late.
 

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Dynamics are different. We live in a very progressive time, but gender roles are still very much a live. That said, I have great relationships with both genders and do not feel that "women are not worth the hassle" in the least. Women are awesome! It's all about compatibility. You either click or you don't, this is not a gendered issue as far as I'm concerned.

Overly demanding, put your "man on trial and make him prove himself" type of women are to be avoided, just like dude bro douchebag jerk men are. Compatibility and empathy are the keys to happiness.
 

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I've known my wife for a long time. We're now both in our late 70s and have been married for 46 years.

She is my best friend, the person I most want to spend time with and do things with like travel, go on hikes/walks, enjoy our adult children and our grandkids. I've never really had many close male friends primarily because the bond I have with my wife is so strong that I don't feel the need to find other relationships. We've made a wonderful life together and do all of the things we want.

The two somewhat close male friends I have are primarily married to my wife's high school friends. The other close male friends I have are former work colleagues. We only get together when the wives organize something.

Basically, if I can't or am not with my wife, I prefer to be alone doing my own thing. Mind you, I have nothing against men, played sports with other guys all my life, had great professional relationships with work colleagues, etc. It's simply that I love my wife and she's number one in my life.
 
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One of the most common things to discuss in bisexual spaces is that men are starting to turn to other men because it's easier, that most men are a bit bi, that men should experience sex with another man because they can please them better, etc. In straight spaces there is also lots of talk about how much of a hassle dating or marriage is and a considerable amount of men says they want to be gay. Hence why I am wondering, is it common for men to actually be satisfied in their straight relationships? I'm a woman btw
As a straight man, I've only been interested in romantic or sexual relationships with women, and never, ever considered that kind of relationship with a man at any point of my life. I've had good relationships, long and short, bad relationships, long and short, but it has always been women that I've had any interest in.

I've been in romantic and sexual droughts in the past, and in those cases, porn and my imagination have been all I needed to mastubate and relieve some sexual tension.
 

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Yes, I'm satisfied in my relationship with my wife of 42 years. We both have grown in many, many ways over the years of our marriage. One question that I'm sure is on most of your minds: is the sex is still great? Yes, in my case, it sure is. And we've tried everything, sexually, except gross stuff or anything that leaves a mark.
 

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It is all relative.
If humans were say 50/50 gay/straight and so about half of relationships were same sex, then people would still be having problems.
 

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I've known my wife since she we were young. We're now both in our late 70s and have been married for 46 years.

She is my best friend, the person I most want to spend time with and do things with like travel, go on hikes/walks, enjoy our adult children and our grandkids. I've never really had many close male friends primarily because the bond I have with my wife is so strong that I don't feel the need to find other relationships. We've made a wonderful life together and do all of the things we want.

The two somewhat close male friends I have are primarily married to my wife's high school friends. The other close male friends I have are former work colleagues. We only get together when the wives organize something.

Basically, if I can't or am not with my wife, I prefer to be alone doing my own thing. Mind you, I have nothing against men, played sports with other guys all my life, had great professional relationships with work colleagues, etc. It's simply that I love my wife and she's number one in my life.
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Yes but I don't engage in exclusive relationships. The expectations around exclusivity are the reason people find relationships so unsatisfying. No one can live up to them. It's against the nature of our species.

It's biology. Our species does not instinctually form exclusive lifetime pair bonds. Few animal species do.

If our species formed instinctual exclusive lifetime pair bonds there would be no social/cultural taboo about sex outside that pair bond. We don't so the culture created a taboo--the death penalty in Judeo-Christian scriptures--for any sexual activity outside an exclusive heterosexual lifetime pair bond. Marriage.
 

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One of the most common things to discuss in bisexual spaces is that men are starting to turn to other men because it's easier, that most men are a bit bi, that men should experience sex with another man because they can please them better, etc. In straight spaces there is also lots of talk about how much of a hassle dating or marriage is and a considerable amount of men says they want to be gay. Hence why I am wondering, is it common for men to actually be satisfied in their straight relationships? I'm a woman btw
I do think there are certain aspects and ideologies of modern society that inspire and incentivize women to behave in ways that are averse to straight men, especially within the realm of relationships. I think actually straight men simply see women changing their behaviors as the solution, I think bi curious men are simply looking for an excuse to indulge and maintain some sense of heterosexual privilege by attributing their homoerotic actions to a deficit in women rather than an earnest interest in men.
I also don't think "satisfied" is a proper description of most men in relationships with women, at least not how most women would define being "satisfied" in a relationship...I think a more accurate word would be content as in most men are content enough with the few things we tend to value in a relationship, they outweigh whatever dissatisfaction may persist.
 
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I think straight men will only be able to answer, "yes" to this question. Gay relationships could be wonderful and we wouldn't know or be interested because that's just not what we want and don't know any better.

Personally, I've started to question my desire to have sex and be in a relationship. Is this a useful desire to have? Will sex and relationships really make me happy? I feel like hetero relationships are toxic and unfulfilling, but I don't want men. I don't want to kiss or hold a man. I definitely don't want to fuck one or be fucked by one. I want the companionship of a woman, but I'm not sure how much I actually like women or want to be in a relationship with them. I wonder if more men feel like that.
 

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I think straight men will only be able to answer, "yes" to this question. Gay relationships could be wonderful and we wouldn't know or be interested because that's just not what we want and don't know any better.

Personally, I've started to question my desire to have sex and be in a relationship. Is this a useful desire to have? Will sex and relationships really make me happy? I feel like hetero relationships are toxic and unfulfilling, but I don't want men. I don't want to kiss or hold a man. I definitely don't want to fuck one or be fucked by one. I want the companionship of a woman, but I'm not sure how much I actually like women or want to be in a relationship with them. I wonder if more men feel like that.

Hi Wally