Men Choosing Video Games Over Sex

[Jeremywantscock]

Do you think men are spending more time playing video games over sex.



Young men are giving up on sex to play video games, study finds

 

[Jeremywantscock]

 

[OldFirm08]

I believe it. LOL,,look at the glassy eyed look in the guys face in pic above. !! Primate psychological lab tests from back in 60's I witnessed in college..had monkeys who would pass up food or a mate for the stimulus received by wires to sections of monkey brain. He pressed a bar a certain number of times and got the electronic stimulus that was favored. If monkey did not press as much, or waited, he got food. Nope, not this sucker, he was into his electronic fun, which can easily be seen today as the brain stimulus received by playing video games. Most guys do 'multitask', and have food and beverages nearby during their hours and entire weekends they play video games. I was in my 30's when they hit with PakMan, Space Invaders, etc. and I saw guys my age who just gave up their world of outdoor fun and adventure, to play with games endlessly from that point on in their lives. Addicting? Most certainly. Ruin your sex life? Ask their ex girlfriends who left them for too much gaming time. Sad sad sad delusional guys.

 

[elklindoxxx]

I love gaming....but getting tail is numero uno!

 

[stretch8888]

i'd believe it, never been a video game fan myself but i've hooked up with enough women who had boyfriends that were more interested in video games than them hence the reason they were fucking me instead

 

[MilfBanger78]

i'd believe it, never been a video game fan myself but i've hooked up with enough women who had boyfriends that were more interested in video games than them hence the reason they were fucking me instead

Same here. LOL I've had chicks that would buy their BF's a new game every month to keep em occupied while they were at my place getting fucked.

I've got nothing against gamers, I was huge into video games when I was a kid/early teen. but man if you're in your 30's and games take priority over fucking, you got issues.

 

[Sagittarius84]

I believe more and more young men are choosing this route, and while its easy to blame these men for ruining sex lives and such, one has to ask how good the sex life(or rest of the relationship) actually was for the man to opt to indulge in the game instead of his girl or girls in general.
I think there's justifiable dissatisfaction many boys and men have with girls and women that motivates them to delve into virtual worlds instead.

 

[Hatt_101]

Games can lead to sex this isn't the olden days there are as much gamer girls as there are guys. Finding someone who has a similar interest as you will always go far. There are two girls I've hooked up with where a specific binding point is that we liked the same video games one we even played before and after sex.

 

[Motion-of-the-Ocean]

Those who think one can't combine video games and sex have never spent many hours banging prostitutes in the back of a pimped out Infernus or Stallion to gain health points or scoured the internet for Lara Croft nude patches.

But yes, there are men who go overboard I'm sure as I do know of a certain male relative of mine who is almost 30, spends all his days still living at home playing online games and has yet to ever have had a girlfriend (and little interest in one it seems). So it does happen.

But even back in the day as much as I was into Atari, that played a distant second once I discovered masturbation. So sex usually does take priority for the average man.

 

[Acratopotes]

But even back in the day as much as I was into Atari, that played a distant second once I discovered masturbation. So sex usually does take priority for the average man.

But I suspect the majority of the men playing video games still masturbate, i.e. they need to get off is the same as ever. I have not read the article as I didn't want to subscribe, but the headline was about sex and then the first paragraph talked about romantic relationships.

So possibly some things have changed in society. Men possibly don't feel the same need to boast to their peers about having lost their virginity in a way they may have done in the past, or about how many women they've fucked. At the same time masturbation has become much less taboo.

So perhaps it's about whether men see the benefits of a relationship as being worth going out there to find one.

 

[MoBiGuy]

Right now my sex life consists solely of masturbation, so there are times that I do choose playing a video game over masturbation. However, if I had a partner I would definitely choose sex with them over playing a game.

 

[marriedasian]

from my own experience and also talking with the younger men of today, it's not so much that they're choosing video games over sex, they're just doing their own thing and not willing to give up that time in lieu of sex. i think many misunderstand the notion and automatically think "how could a man turn down sex?!" but the truth is that life is more than just sex. if your life is centered around sex and women then that means sex and women will dictate your life... which will probably not end well in the long term. unless you're in porn or a sex worker, sex and women will not make you successful in life, generally speaking.

these men are just keeping their time to themselves than giving it fruitlessly to their partners. don't overthink it. we could argue that men are choosing to spend time with their cars than have sex, or their motorcycles, or their boats, or snowboarding, or poker, or whatever... the underlying idea is the same. these men are just putting more time into themselves and not sharing for whatever reason.

the sad part is that women don't understand this and shame men for it. some men will tolerate it and some will just show her the door.

 

[Acratopotes]

...unless you're in porn or a sex worker, sex and women will not make you successful in life, generally speaking....

I completely get that life has to be a balance and doesn't centre solely around sex. Sex is a very powerful drive but so is hunger so we need to spend time making a living and many, if not most, men also make time to spend on their hobbies.

But, surely, none of that is new? I mean hobbies may take a back seat when you have very young children but that period doesn't last for ever.

And video games aren't likely to make most men rich, either - they're definitely a hobby and there is a need to earn a living alongside that.

I do think there is a change in that young adults today like to enjoy their independence for a bit longer before going into a relationship which would require give and take and, with changing attitudes, some of them may never want to give up that independence.

 

[1088431]

from my own experience and also talking with the younger men of today, it's not so much that they're choosing video games over sex, they're just doing their own thing and not willing to give up that time in lieu of sex. i think many misunderstand the notion and automatically think "how could a man turn down sex?!" but the truth is that life is more than just sex. if your life is centered around sex and women then that means sex and women will dictate your life... which will probably not end well in the long term. unless you're in porn or a sex worker, sex and women will not make you successful in life, generally speaking.

these men are just keeping their time to themselves than giving it fruitlessly to their partners. don't overthink it. we could argue that men are choosing to spend time with their cars than have sex, or their motorcycles, or their boats, or snowboarding, or poker, or whatever... the underlying idea is the same. these men are just putting more time into themselves and not sharing for whatever reason.

the sad part is that women don't understand this and shame men for it. some men will tolerate it and some will just show her the door.

Your verification pic is hot. Wish you had more. I’d put the game down for you!

 

[Sagittarius84]

I think its very telling that this type of question tends to wallow around some failure or immaturity inherent to men, but when women choose to indulge in certain things besides relationships it can always be referenced back to some justifiable pushback against whatever potential suitors are lacking.
The modern age has brought about new gender roles and expectations very few, if any of which are going to cater to mens wants within a relationship, while still requiring him to fulfill the expectations of old. Video games are a niche filler for personal satisfaction and joy that can no longer be counted on being provided within a relationship for men, and I think its only a bad thing in that women start to see a part of the relationship leverage and drawing they wielded being nullified as a result.

 

[Sagittarius84]

The real question is what is it that smartphones and videogames specifically provide men that draw so much ire from women, when just about all of our interests and hobbies have the potential and actuality to distract us from sex?

 

[Sagittarius84]

Ill go out on a limb: I dont think video games have had any significant effect on the amount of mutually desired, and sexually mutually beneficial encounters men are having with their women partners...I think the reason this question is even a thing is because certain hobbies and technologies like video/computer games, smartphones, and maybe even cars tend to impede on the ability to utilize sex as a behavioral or mood modifier, or as an incentive for wanted behaviors.

 

[palakaorion]

A game offers that dopamine hit of reward-for-performance without having to care about someone else's needs. Games are designed to give you just enough of that hit to keep you coming back for more but not so much that you're satiated and put it down.

Personally, gaming is not better than sex with a partner. But appetites are appetites and can be satiated. When I was getting as much sexual activity as I preferred, the offer of more sex wasn't always as enticing as the cold embrace of the silicon chip mistress who promised that dopamine hit. And this was back in the 1990s when the most engaging games were rudimentary FPS like Doom.

But when relationships begin to suffer, it's a self-correcting system for most of us. The oxytocin warmth of relationship usually wins out over the rush of gaming dopamine.

 

[Sagittarius84]

New A game offers that dopamine hit of reward-for-performance without having to care about someone else's needs

I dont think its as simple as this. It doesn't explain how loss and rejection are so easily reconciled within video games, nor the need sensitive mutliplayer squad aspect that is so ubiquitous.

Personally I think it is the structure/rules inherent to video games that make them so simultaneously appealing and clashing with our respective sex lives with our female partners. Whether it be the dopamine burst from winning a match, or the frustration that comes fron constantly losing in one spot, I think what makes it appealing to males is that objective rules define what is accomplished or not. You score so many goals you win match. You lose this many squad mates, the round is over.
I think this comes into conflict with sexual and romantic interactions as there is no clearly defined amount of thresholds that "earn sex", nor does sexual rejection necessarily mean anything was done wrong. From there it becomes very understandable why a man may appear to prefer to relegate his experiences to an objective set of guidelines, as opposed to a subjective, ever evolving one inherent to sexual/romantic interactions with women.

 

[deleted814719]

I'm in my mid-60s and will offer some unsolicited advice to the younger members of LPSG. NEVER pass-up pussy, especially to play video games. There will very likely come the day when your partner no longer "burns" for sex. And, if you still have a high sex drive as you age, you'll be spending a lot more time pleasuring yourself than enjoying sex with a partner.

For me, sex is MOST satisfying with a partner and when you and the partner both achieve orgasm. Certainly, solo sex satisfies an "itch" but at least for me, it never provides the emotional high of partnered sex.

So, put down that controller and get with it!