B_henry miller
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Here's a compliment for you, HM. I have noticed from many postings that you have a great understanding of male sexuality and mindset, and the various aspects of masculinity that is very impressive for a straight guy.
Ok, that didn't sound like such a compliment once I wrote it but I'm serious. Lots of str8 guys have so many hang ups about gender they won't do any introspection.
The people who I think understand men best are 1) gay men and 2 ) men into the cuckolding scene (on either side of the equation). In both cases they have spent a lot of time thinking about gender roles, the psychology of sexuality, and what it means to be a male in our society.
The average str8 guy hasn't figured things out nearly as far as you have, and for that I compliment you!!
Yes, I realize most straight guys don't talk about these sorts of things. The reason is because most straight guys grow up in male-dominated situations where male heterosexuality is taken for granted to be dominant and superior.
I didn't. I grew up in an environment dominated by women and with many gay people. For me, straight males have always been the minority. Therefore, I never took for granted that heterosexual males are the superior group, and this led to me actually doing some research into the basis of what I am.
In other words, thanks for the compliment.
I think most straight men don't look into the basis of their own gender and sexual identity for two reasons:
1. Simply not interested. You're venturing into the realms of pychology, which has a limited appeal.
2. Insecurity. The fear that as soon as you start to analyze it, it will all come crashing down like a house of cards. To some extent, this is true. When one really looks at the psychological and social constructions of masculinity and heterosexuality, one realizes that it's just one category among many -- and far, far more fluid than most straight men would like to admit. (My opinion is that most straight men actually feel a great deal of love for one another, which can ironically be scary because it is easily confused with homosexuality ... which leads back to the topic of this thread. http://www.lpsg.org/111767-brotherhood-of-the-male-gender.html )
Geez. All this, and I just rolled out of bed. I think too much!
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