B_Hung Jon
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Part of what it means to be a man is being strong. Whether it's exhibiting physical strength or emotional fortitude, endurance in front of obstacles, stamina in life, courage, whatever. Men should be able to take the heat.
I'm not saying men should not cry ever. But they need a good reason to cry. What constitutes a good reason is open for discussion.
I, for instance, have had three harrowing experiences during which I thought I was surely going to die. And I'm VERY proud of the fact that I only broke down and cried during one of them, my first time. Nobody can take that away from me.
Yes, crying can be a sign of emotional health and healing. But NOT CRYING under duress can be a sign of health, courage, fortitude.
Why would anyone want to criticize a dude for not crying?
Because it means that the guy is not in touch with his feelings and doesn't know himself very well. Not having the ability to cry might also mean that he doesn't care about other people, including his partner or his children. It doesn't matter when a person cries. If a guy is integrated as a human being, he cries when his feelings arise in him. He doesn't hold them in like some robot. The only reason men hold back tears is cultural. In most latin cultures, males cry, hold hands with each other, are affectionate and loving in their family life and with their friends. It doesn't mean they're weak or uncourageous. As I said before, it means they are full human beings.