Men don't really enjoy sex!

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Interesting to say the least. Some parts of it are laugh out loud funny but it did remind me of why i'm kind of jealous of the ladies. For me ejaculation isn't always that important.
 

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Based on the LPGS folks' comments, a clarification was added by the author to the original article:

ADDENDUM:
Since the initial publication of this article, I've gotten some great feedback which has prompted me to make a few clarifications and repeat a few points:

1. I am NOT saying that men only, simply or merely want to ejaculate. In fact, if you re-read carefully, I am saying that ego and visuals are, for many men, even MORE important and satisfying than ejaculation, and I am actually advocating that men practice separating the physical penis-focused stimulation from the pleasure/release of ejaculation so they can enjoy the ego gratification more, and the visual stimulation for longer durations, and experience the benefits that come with that practice.

2. For women: I am not saying that your male partners have not enjoyed being with you. :) I'm simply saying that the pleasure derived by each of you during the actual act (pre-male climax) are--as you would expect-- different in intensity.
 

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Based on the LPGS folks' comments, a clarification was added by the author to the original article:

ADDENDUM:
Since the initial publication of this article, I've gotten some great feedback which has prompted me to make a few clarifications and repeat a few points:

1. I am NOT saying that men only, simply or merely want to ejaculate. In fact, if you re-read carefully, I am saying that ego and visuals are, for many men, even MORE important and satisfying than ejaculation, and I am actually advocating that men practice separating the physical penis-focused stimulation from the pleasure/release of ejaculation so they can enjoy the ego gratification more, and the visual stimulation for longer durations, and experience the benefits that come with that practice.

2. For women: I am not saying that your male partners have not enjoyed being with you. :) I'm simply saying that the pleasure derived by each of you during the actual act (pre-male climax) are--as you would expect-- different in intensity.

This sounds like the author is now backing away from his original position which was untenable to begin with. The guy's thesis is garbage and I'd love to know what research he did before coming to his conclusion. Men love sex! And my non-scientific experience is, if told he could never orgasm through sexual intercourse, virtually every man would still engage in it.
 

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One point I am in disagreement with is that the author seems to be saying that sex as well as masturbation is a means to an end - the endpoint being the enjoyment of ejaculation, and (if I read it correctly) to take the premise further, sex or masturbation without reaching that end is not enjoyable.

I disagree. I often get enjoyment out of the stimulation alone without having to reach the point of ejaculation. If that isn't "enjoying" it, I must have gotten quite adept at faking it, eh?
 

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SIGH. REALLY!?

Sure there are some men out there like that. But obviously not all men. So somebody is making a buck out of stereotypes and generalizations.
I guess it beats ponzi schemes. But what the hay, I'll bite.

So how does cunninglus fit into this "theory?" It is sex and it has nothing to do with penis/vagina intercourse. In fact men who perform this are deriving pleasure from creating a greater pleasure for their female partner. And their penis may not be involved at all unless they jerk off while doing it or their is mutual oral (see below). So, does this disprove the "theory" or is it considered "not sex" for purposes of author's and his experts claims? So, this would mean that it is only intercourse or penetrative sex that men don't really enjoy?

Fellatio is penetrative. And many men like to extend that pleasure. Pulling out and then starting over. And various other delaying techniques. Or sometimes just letting it happen and (wait for it) enjoy a skilled partner do her (his) thing to some awesome orgasm.

And anal, well I am just not going to go there.

Bottom line: Bull Shit! :bsflag:

(I always wanted to use that one.)
 
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Makes sense to me. When I think about it, it's not that prolonged sex is better than regular sex, it's that the orgasm at the end of prolonged sex feels better.

Possibly true about it feeling better, but I for one enjoy prolonged sex because I enjoy the actual sex as well as the ending.
 

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As long as you and your partner are enjoying and getting what you want from sex......why question it?Stop thinking and just do what feels good!

And yes I do enjoy sex as a journey not a destination!
 

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If a man isn't enjoying sex he:

Won't get hard
Won't have on orgasm/ejaculate

I'm pretty sure most men are ejaculating and enjoying sex.
 

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Sex, even tho it's a physical act, you need to be *feeling* it mentally for things to happen right, if at all. *addressing the males here mostly* The connection between the two people, or more if you're into that kinda thing, is the best part of the sexual experience. IMO The better the chemistry between the people...*physical and mental*...the better the sex. The best part is the feeling after...chemicals released in the brain that give you that euphoric feeling.

Endorphins and Sex: A Good Combination - Sexual Well-Being Article by Stacy Lloyd
 

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Sex, even tho it's a physical act, you need to be *feeling* it mentally for things to happen right, if at all. *addressing the males here mostly* The connection between the two people, or more if you're into that kinda thing, is the best part of the sexual experience. IMO The better the chemistry between the people...*physical and mental*...the better the sex. The best part is the feeling after...chemicals released in the brain that give you that euphoric feeling.
All of this is true, but lots of men can and do still enjoy the physical act without any particular "connection" with the other person. As long as I don't find my partner physically repulsive or actively unattractive, and as long as I don't find her company abhorrent, I can still enjoy the sex. But you're right, of course, the right "chemistry" can turn a good experience into a great one, there's no doubt about that.
 

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I haven't really enjoyed the actual sex, but the build up, seeing her enjoy it etc really really turns me on.

I think the fact I've been bored after 10 mins is because of the women involved though.